18 y/o DD refuses to apply for SSI?

[Anonymous]

DD is 18 and graduated high school. She has been volunteering at the library since April, selling donated books, toys and jewelry. She refuses to apply for SSI, but I don’t think she is capable of getting a job. She is disorganized. Her therapist also suggested she apply for SSI but she refuses. She tells us she won’t be approved but we tell her you never know when less you try and it’s ok if she doesn’t get approved, though I think she will get approved. She was in special ed and my friend whose son was also in special ed told me I can give SSI her special education records and she will be approved. Problem is she won’t sigh record releases. Every time I talk about SSI she gets mad. When she was in school I called the counselor to talk to her about this, and not to tell her they will be talking about SSI. When she was called in to the counselors office and found out they were going to talk about SSI, she immediately stormed out. She refuses to listen to anyone. I told her in order to get a good paying job you have to do an internship first for 1-2 years and even people who do an internship for 1-2 years or more have trouble finding a minimum wage job. At least with SSI she will have money. She is flat out against this and will be upset anytime I talk to her about SSI. I am think perhaps hearing from someone her age also applying or on SSI will her. I was a teenager along time ago and I forgot what it’s like to be a teenager, so I don’t know how to talk to her in a way that will reach her. Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

If she graduated from high school she may have more skills than you are giving her credit for. Have you looked into vocational schools? Honestly I can’t imagine that she would qualify after getting a HS diploma.

[Anonymous]

What happened in the transition planning meetings?

Would the library recommend her for a paying job, whether inside the library system or elsewhere?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happened in the transition planning meetings?

Would the library recommend her for a paying job, whether inside the library system or elsewhere?

IDK about the library, but she refused to participate in the transition plan entirely. You just couldn’t get her to talk honestly about her future no matter what she did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened in the transition planning meetings?

Would the library recommend her for a paying job, whether inside the library system or elsewhere?

IDK about the library, but she refused to participate in the transition plan entirely. You just couldn’t get her to talk honestly about her future no matter what she did.

Doesn't sound like you think she has a future. You want her to get quick free money.
She graduated from high school and volunteered. Yet you think she in not capable of anything.

[Anonymous]

Disorganization is not a disability. In any case, she manages volunteering and did graduate so she's probably right that this shows a degree of capability that doesn't warrant SSI.

[Anonymous]

GOod lord, my son has ADHD. His working memory is in the 2nd percentile. SECOND percentile.
He graduated high school half a year early. He worked for 7 months and now he is currently in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: DD is 18 and graduated high school. She has been volunteering at the library since April, selling donated books, toys and jewelry. She refuses to apply for SSI, but I don’t think she is capable of getting a job. She is disorganized. Her therapist also suggested she apply for SSI but she refuses. She tells us she won’t be approved but we tell her you never know when less you try and it’s ok if she doesn’t get approved, though I think she will get approved. She was in special ed and my friend whose son was also in special ed told me I can give SSI her special education records and she will be approved. Problem is she won’t sigh record releases. Every time I talk about SSI she gets mad. When she was in school I called the counselor to talk to her about this, and not to tell her they will be talking about SSI. When she was called in to the counselors office and found out they were going to talk about SSI, she immediately stormed out. She refuses to listen to anyone. I told her in order to get a good paying job you have to do an internship first for 1-2 years and even people who do an internship for 1-2 years or more have trouble finding a minimum wage job. At least with SSI she will have money. She is flat out against this and will be upset anytime I talk to her about SSI. I am think perhaps hearing from someone her age also applying or on SSI will her. I was a teenager along time ago and I forgot what it’s like to be a teenager, so I don’t know how to talk to her in a way that will reach her. Any suggestions?

Can someone with ADHD apply for SSI? My DD is 18 and is job hunting right now. she is 6 weeks pregnant right now......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened in the transition planning meetings?

Would the library recommend her for a paying job, whether inside the library system or elsewhere?

IDK about the library, but she refused to participate in the transition plan entirely. You just couldn’t get her to talk honestly about her future no matter what she did.

So, it sounds like you need help with getting your daughter on her feet. But SSI really isn't the answer. The positives/strengths you've mentioned so far are:

- high school graduate
- able to work, albeit has not found a paying job
- isn't interested in being considered disabled


It's got to be tough in her shoes. In this area, not going to college is seen very negatively and it sounds like neither your nor your daughter see her as college material. It's also pretty scary go from having the structure of high school and the support of parents to thinking of being on her own. At 18, where she is isn't so bad, but she needs to get to the point where she is taking care of herself (self supporting) and preparing to move on into adulthood. I think this is where your focus needs to be.

Maybe people have some ideas for you on how to move on from here. Some thoughts I have are how much are you supporting her - are you giving her money for social activities, clothes, a cellphone? Would cutting that back or off help to get her to the next level? I am not meaning to suggest just doing that - a realistic next level needs to be identified first even if she doesn't buy into it. Then time frames need to be established. I'm just trying to suggest ways for you to re-focus your concerns.

Remember, while it's going to be tough, your daughter has the ticket to a full time job with health insurance and paid time off - the high school diploma. It's huge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened in the transition planning meetings?

Would the library recommend her for a paying job, whether inside the library system or elsewhere?

IDK about the library, but she refused to participate in the transition plan entirely. You just couldn’t get her to talk honestly about her future no matter what she did.

Doesn't sound like you think she has a future. You want her to get quick free money.
She graduated from high school and volunteered. Yet you think she in not capable of anything.

Sounds like you don't know how SSI works. It's definitely not quick. It's also not much. Op, if your kid needs SSI, she has to have less than $2k in assets. If she needs SSI, she probably needs a place to live--waitlist for a group home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened in the transition planning meetings?

Would the library recommend her for a paying job, whether inside the library system or elsewhere?

IDK about the library, but she refused to participate in the transition plan entirely. You just couldn’t get her to talk honestly about her future no matter what she did.

Doesn't sound like you think she has a future. You want her to get quick free money.
She graduated from high school and volunteered. Yet you think she in not capable of anything.

Sounds like you don't know how SSI works. It's definitely not quick. It's also not much. Op, if your kid needs SSI, she has to have less than $2k in assets. If she needs SSI, she probably needs a place to live--waitlist for a group home.

Why can't she live with her mom? Presumably, she has been living there for 18 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: DD is 18 and graduated high school. She has been volunteering at the library since April, selling donated books, toys and jewelry. She refuses to apply for SSI, but I don’t think she is capable of getting a job. She is disorganized. Her therapist also suggested she apply for SSI but she refuses. She tells us she won’t be approved but we tell her you never know when less you try and it’s ok if she doesn’t get approved, though I think she will get approved. She was in special ed and my friend whose son was also in special ed told me I can give SSI her special education records and she will be approved. Problem is she won’t sigh record releases. Every time I talk about SSI she gets mad. When she was in school I called the counselor to talk to her about this, and not to tell her they will be talking about SSI. When she was called in to the counselors office and found out they were going to talk about SSI, she immediately stormed out. She refuses to listen to anyone. I told her in order to get a good paying job you have to do an internship first for 1-2 years and even people who do an internship for 1-2 years or more have trouble finding a minimum wage job. At least with SSI she will have money. She is flat out against this and will be upset anytime I talk to her about SSI. I am think perhaps hearing from someone her age also applying or on SSI will her. I was a teenager along time ago and I forgot what it’s like to be a teenager, so I don’t know how to talk to her in a way that will reach her. Any suggestions?

Can someone with ADHD apply for SSI? My DD is 18 and is job hunting right now. she is 6 weeks pregnant right now......

Oh Lord. Please. I hope she gives that baby up for adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anyone can apply, but most likely they will be denied. Its very hard to get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: DD is 18 and graduated high school. She has been volunteering at the library since April, selling donated books, toys and jewelry. She refuses to apply for SSI, but I don’t think she is capable of getting a job. She is disorganized. Her therapist also suggested she apply for SSI but she refuses. She tells us she won’t be approved but we tell her you never know when less you try and it’s ok if she doesn’t get approved, though I think she will get approved. She was in special ed and my friend whose son was also in special ed told me I can give SSI her special education records and she will be approved. Problem is she won’t sigh record releases. Every time I talk about SSI she gets mad. When she was in school I called the counselor to talk to her about this, and not to tell her they will be talking about SSI. When she was called in to the counselors office and found out they were going to talk about SSI, she immediately stormed out. She refuses to listen to anyone. I told her in order to get a good paying job you have to do an internship first for 1-2 years and even people who do an internship for 1-2 years or more have trouble finding a minimum wage job. At least with SSI she will have money. She is flat out against this and will be upset anytime I talk to her about SSI. I am think perhaps hearing from someone her age also applying or on SSI will her. I was a teenager along time ago and I forgot what it’s like to be a teenager, so I don’t know how to talk to her in a way that will reach her. Any suggestions?

Can someone with ADHD apply for SSI? My DD is 18 and is job hunting right now. she is 6 weeks pregnant right now......

Oh Lord. Please. I hope she gives that baby up for adoption.

Or take other measures...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened in the transition planning meetings?

Would the library recommend her for a paying job, whether inside the library system or elsewhere?

IDK about the library, but she refused to participate in the transition plan entirely. You just couldn’t get her to talk honestly about her future no matter what she did.

Doesn't sound like you think she has a future. You want her to get quick free money.
She graduated from high school and volunteered. Yet you think she in not capable of anything.

Sounds like you don't know how SSI works. It's definitely not quick. It's also not much. Op, if your kid needs SSI, she has to have less than $2k in assets. If she needs SSI, she probably needs a place to live--waitlist for a group home.

Why can't she live with her mom? Presumably, she has been living there for 18 years.

If someone is in desperate circumstances to apply for ssi, they don't have what it takes to make a living wage. Group homes have long waitlists--years long. If op thinks her kid needs ssi, then this is a logical precaution. Plan ahead.