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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What happened in the transition planning meetings?

Would the library recommend her for a paying job, whether inside the library system or elsewhere? [/quote]

IDK about the library, but she refused to participate in the transition plan entirely. You just couldn’t get her to talk honestly about her future no matter what she did.[/quote]

So, it sounds like you need help with getting your daughter on her feet.  But SSI really isn't the answer.  The positives/strengths you've mentioned so far are:

- high school graduate
- able to work, albeit has not found a paying job
- isn't interested in being considered disabled

It's got to be tough in her shoes.  In this area, not going to college is seen very negatively and it sounds like neither your nor your daughter see her as college material.  It's also pretty scary go from having the structure of high school and the support of parents to thinking of being on her own.  At 18, where she is isn't so bad, but she needs to get to the point where she is taking care of herself (self supporting) and preparing to move on into adulthood.  I think this is where your focus needs to be.

Maybe people have some ideas for you on how to move on from here.  Some thoughts I have are how much are you supporting her - are you giving her money for social activities, clothes, a cellphone?  Would cutting that back or off help to get her to the next level?  I am not meaning to suggest just doing that - a realistic next level needs to be identified first even if she doesn't buy into it.  Then time frames need to be established.  I'm just trying to suggest ways for you to re-focus your concerns.

Remember, while it's going to be tough, your daughter has the ticket to a full time job with health insurance and paid time off - the high school diploma.  It's huge.  [/quote]

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