18 y/o DD refuses to apply for SSI?

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Anonymous wrote:What happened in the transition planning meetings?

Would the library recommend her for a paying job, whether inside the library system or elsewhere?

IDK about the library, but she refused to participate in the transition plan entirely. You just couldn’t get her to talk honestly about her future no matter what she did.

Doesn't sound like you think she has a future. You want her to get quick free money.
She graduated from high school and volunteered. Yet you think she in not capable of anything.

Sounds like you don't know how SSI works. It's definitely not quick. It's also not much. Op, if your kid needs SSI, she has to have less than $2k in assets. If she needs SSI, she probably needs a place to live--waitlist for a group home.

OP here. There is no way she will agree to a group home. She will move in with her boyfriend if I kick her out.

Why can't she live with you? What is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

really? she can't apply to mcdonald's, target, the grocery store? do you really think she couldn't do that work? Lots of places are hiring for the holidays now so it's a good time to start looking. After new years, lots of people join gyms--could she clean locker rooms and check peoples' IDs at one of them?

You don't need an internship to get a minimum wage job. You probably live in an area where the parents are very competitive and most kids go to college, so your ideas are warped by that. If your daughter can fill out an online application (with your help if necessary) and show up to work on time and not steal stuff, she can probably get hired. If she applies to 25 entry level jobs and flunks all the interviews, then yes there is some sort of problem and it makes sense to apply for SSI. But if she hasn't acted so off-kilter at the library that they've asked her to leave, she probably is functional enough for a job at Subway.

[Anonymous]

could she do job corps? it would give her a place to live and allow her to train for something. They are 100% used to people with ADHD and other learning disabilities. If she truly can't keep up with the work at Job Corps, that might be persuasive to SSA. But having neuropsych testing or testing done by voc rehab folks would also be useful in that scenario.

I think OP you need to sit down with your daughter and listen non-judgmentally to what she sees as her strengths and what her plans are to become independent. If she has a plan, don't smack it down (given that you think it takes years of internships to get a minimum wage job, you may not know as much as you think you do). Give her a chance to try it, with a clear deadline for when you'll come back to re-evaluate. The therapist might be willing to mediate this conversation or suggest someone who can.

She really needs to think about what kind of job works for her. Fast or slow pace? Around people constantly or with a lot of alone time? A lot of reading, or more physical work? Inside or outside? With animals? With kids? With food? Once you know these things, come back to us and maybe we can suggest places she could apply.

[Anonymous]

Hello,

I believe that as a society we have placed stigmas on those who receive benefits such as SSI, is it possible that your daughter has adopted some of these beliefs? Have you ever had the opportunity to ask her why she is so against receiving SSI? It's possible that she may not have all the facts and possibly presenting it in a way that allows her voice and opinions to be heard and validated would help her to discuss the option and may even possibly open her up to the idea. Has she expressed her dreams and goals for the future? Maybe she believes that receiving SSI would somehow hinder her from reaching these goals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can apply, but most likely they will be denied. Its very hard to get it.

Isn't there also a three year wait AFTER you get cleared before you get the first check and even then it's limited to something like $600 a month? I've been told it's just not worth the application process (I have a SN kid)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can apply, but most likely they will be denied. Its very hard to get it.

Isn't there also a three year wait AFTER you get cleared before you get the first check and even then it's limited to something like $600 a month? I've been told it's just not worth the application process (I have a SN kid)

There's no 3 year wait and it's about $800. My friend's child got on it.

But if she graduated from high school with a regular diploma, OP's daughter is not going to qualify..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can apply, but most likely they will be denied. Its very hard to get it.

Isn't there also a three year wait AFTER you get cleared before you get the first check and even then it's limited to something like $600 a month? I've been told it's just not worth the application process (I have a SN kid)

There's no 3 year wait and it's about $800. My friend's child got on it.

But if she graduated from high school with a regular diploma, OP's daughter is not going to qualify..

Its $735. if the person is paying room and board with the money. If not it’s $486.

The person has to be unable to do ANY job. However, it’s hardly enough to live on .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

I believe that as a society we have placed stigmas on those who receive benefits such as SSI, is it possible that your daughter has adopted some of these beliefs? Have you ever had the opportunity to ask her why she is so against receiving SSI? It's possible that she may not have all the facts and possibly presenting it in a way that allows her voice and opinions to be heard and validated would help her to discuss the option and may even possibly open her up to the idea. Has she expressed her dreams and goals for the future? Maybe she believes that receiving SSI would somehow hinder her from reaching these goals.

Persons receiving SSI are supposed to be too disabled to notice any ‘stigma’.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can apply, but most likely they will be denied. Its very hard to get it.

Isn't there also a three year wait AFTER you get cleared before you get the first check and even then it's limited to something like $600 a month? I've been told it's just not worth the application process (I have a SN kid)

There's no 3 year wait and it's about $800. My friend's child got on it.

But if she graduated from high school with a regular diploma, OP's daughter is not going to qualify..

Its $735. if the person is paying room and board with the money. If not it’s $486.

The person has to be unable to do ANY job. However, it’s hardly enough to live on .

There's a formula. ..you just pay your parents rent so the money remains in the family.

But I agree...it's not much money, and if you got a regular diploma, you aren't getting SSI

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can apply, but most likely they will be denied. Its very hard to get it.

Isn't there also a three year wait AFTER you get cleared before you get the first check and even then it's limited to something like $600 a month? I've been told it's just not worth the application process (I have a SN kid)

SN how? And how old?

I'm not asking to be rude, just curious. My son gets SSI, but he's 10, ASD, & non verbal. It was a pain in the ass getting him on SSI, and it's a pain in the ass every time I have to contact someone at their offices (limited hours and no email). But I'm poor so it does help us out some. It also helps that he's already in the system, because frankly, unless something drastically changes, he won't be capable of living independently after 18.

If your child is pretty high functioning, needs minimum support/therapies, and you make a comfortable living, I wouldn't bother. If you know your child isn't ever going to be mainstreamed, it's worth a look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

I believe that as a society we have placed stigmas on those who receive benefits such as SSI, is it possible that your daughter has adopted some of these beliefs? Have you ever had the opportunity to ask her why she is so against receiving SSI? It's possible that she may not have all the facts and possibly presenting it in a way that allows her voice and opinions to be heard and validated would help her to discuss the option and may even possibly open her up to the idea. Has she expressed her dreams and goals for the future? Maybe she believes that receiving SSI would somehow hinder her from reaching these goals.

Persons receiving SSI are supposed to be too disabled to notice any ‘stigma’.

what? all sorts of people get SSI. Some have cancer. Some have burns. Some use a wheelchair or are blind or any number of other things.

And SSI can keep people from achieving some goals (like saving, because there's a $2000 cap on countable resources, though ABLE accounts and special needs trusts and certain other rules can help). It's also a lot better than having no income at all, for people who must rely on it.