Would you date someone who cheated on an ex?
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Anonymous
| Would it matter to you? |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| Ex-wife or ex-GF? |
Anonymous
Either. |
Anonymous
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GF - not too concerned, especially if it's one incident.
Spouse is a different ballgame and I'd need to know more of the situation. |
Anonymous
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Yes, if they had done the associated dirty work (eg. Therapy).
Aside from that, cheating isn’t usually as black and white as people want it to be. |
Anonymous
| Once a cheater always a cheater. Never met a reformed cheater. By the dcum confessions the cheaters themselves just feel sorry they were caught. |
Anonymous
| No. But I’m older. Anyone over 25 who has cheated has poor character, and will likely engage in other behaviors that show no empathy toward loved ones. Doesn’t have to be repeated cheating. It just a good predictor of repeated assholery |
Anonymous
DW here who cheated on a few boyfriends in my youth. I'm married now and have never cheated on my H. I considered those a different situation, not that I am "always a cheater". |
Anonymous
| Not likely. My ex cheated on me a lot, so I'm very sensitive about it. But given the infinite supply of women he seemed to find to date while we were married, plenty of women are happy to date an active cheater, not just a past cheater. |
Anonymous
I was never caught, and I married my AP partner. I would never cheat on him. It's been a dozen years. |
Anonymous
| If it's a pattern - cheated on every ex - hell no. However, my fiancé cheated on the girlfriend he had in his early twenties, and didn't on partners after that, so I consider that acceptable. He expresses remorse over his shortsightedness as. Immaturity at that time. |
Anonymous
| It wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me. I’m married and have been for 30 years. I’ve never cheated and have no reason to believe my husband has ever cheated. But I’m also 50 years old and have been around long enough to know that life isn’t black and white. Good people screw up. Relationships are more complicated than the “once a cheater...” nonsense. |
Anonymous
| I'm male and have dated lots of cheaters. In my experience, over the age of 40 every woman is a cheater. |
Anonymous
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No, never.
Even if they haven't cheated recently, this is a person with poor integrity - they are okay with lying, cheating, dishonesty, betrayal, deceit. If you have those characteristics into adulthood, they don't suddenly change. That lack of integrity is going to come out in other areas as well. They don't have the moral core that I look for in a partner. |