Would you date someone who cheated on an ex?

[Anonymous]

This is not exactly something people publicize or advertise, though, unless you knew their ex...

[Anonymous]

Are you the one, he/she is cheating with? If yes, then I see no problem. If she/he felt compelled to tell you about the past or someone from his past felt compelled to tell you then no; too much drama in his/her life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm male and have dated lots of cheaters. In my experience, over the age of 40 every woman is a cheater.

Well, you're wrong. I've never once cheated on anyone.

I'd never date a cheater

[Anonymous]

40 year old woman here - never cheated on my XDH and would not date a cheater.
Since my divorce I have been propositioned by a couple of my friends husbands but I would NEVER sleep or date a married man. I deserve much better than that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not exactly something people publicize or advertise, though, unless you knew their ex...

True. Women excel at acting all goody-goody, but once you get to know them and the people around them you find out their real character.

[Anonymous]

Never. A person who is a cheater has numerous core flaws that will reveal themselves time and again in the course of his/her life. They lie frequently and easily to themselves and others. They address problems by self-medicating with pleasure and adrenalin. They avoid conflict. They construct facades of perfection. They manipulate others. They are not capable of putting another person's needs before their own. They love drama that they control.

Cheaters may stop being sexually unfaithful, although they they continue the underlying behavior in other ways.

I have enough respect for myself not to knowingly be with a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm male and have dated lots of cheaters. In my experience, over the age of 40 every woman is a cheater.

You know the wrong kind of women. Seriously.

Let me give you an example from a recent date which is quite typical of dating in DC: I meet a professional woman who is over 50 and who has a high income. She is separated from her high income husband. I ask what happened? Her husband has moved in with a much younger single woman. But as we talk it turns out that my date had been carrying on a five year affair with a married man, which she broke off when she found out what her husband was doing. My date's ex won the lottery--got rid of her, and got a younger woman who doesn't have baggage. And yes, there are children involved.

PP here. As an older DCUM poster, I can appreciate your story and don't doubt it. I stand by my previous comment; for whatever reasons, you are around the wrong kind of women. I don't have one female friend who's cheated on her husband, and most have been married for 30+ years.

[Anonymous]

Yep, dating a woman who is only recently separated is the wrong move.

[Anonymous]

Non spouse, wouldn't care. Spouse, would be cautious. Although if I were dating again, I would be divorced and at that point and would also be bringing history to the table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40 year old woman here - never cheated on my XDH and would not date a cheater.
Since my divorce I have been propositioned by a couple of my friends husband but I would NEVER sleep or date a married man. I deserve much better than that

Did you tell your friends about their husbands hitting on you?

[Anonymous]

No I did not tell my friend. She always says she is not really interested in sex with him anymore so he is probably starved. But I am not interested in a married man.

[Anonymous]

My XH cheated and I'm not sure I could shake the baggage of that to be able to trust someone who had cheated previously not to do it again in our relationship. But who knows, anything is possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm male and have dated lots of cheaters. In my experience, over the age of 40 every woman is a cheater.

You know the wrong kind of women. Seriously.

Let me give you an example from a recent date which is quite typical of dating in DC: I meet a professional woman who is over 50 and who has a high income. She is separated from her high income husband. I ask what happened? Her husband has moved in with a much younger single woman. But as we talk it turns out that my date had been carrying on a five year affair with a married man, which she broke off when she found out what her husband was doing. My date's ex won the lottery--got rid of her, and got a younger woman who doesn't have baggage. And yes, there are children involved.

PP here. As an older DCUM poster, I can appreciate your story and don't doubt it. I stand by my previous comment; for whatever reasons, you are around the wrong kind of women. I don't have one female friend who's cheated on her husband, and most have been married for 30+ years.

I have one friend who confessed to me she cheated on her husband. I wasn't surprised by this because I have observed their marriage (she is very ambitious, he is not, but is a great solid family guy and creates stability for their kids while she chases coins). She is 50. I have told her that the husband she doesn't appreciate will be snatched up in a minute on the market if they divorce and she will likely be alone.

I would be shocked to find out my other friends had cheated on their spouses, though in one case I am pretty sure based on some comments he made to me (not flirty just very disparaging about marriage and how it's a trap and why should anyone do it) that one's husband is not faithful or is considering cheating. They don't have children so he could easily leave.

Anyway, women cheat, men cheat and but not all men and women cheat.

[Anonymous]

Women sure. They have no responsibility to stay loyal. If the guy is not manly enough to keep his woman ....it’s not the woman’s fault.
Men no. Men must be held to a higher standard unless he is really rich.

[Anonymous]

No. Im a female. When i was dating back them and we were about to have sex, i ask him you never cheated before right? And he said yes. Thst turned me off like a blink in an eye. We put our clothes and he dropped me off to me home silently. It was akward, he is a good guy it seems but i have trust issues and that was a huge red flag for me.