TTC at 45
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Anonymous
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I have 2 kids already. Got pregnant within the first month for both when I was 31 and 36. We want to try for another before it's truly truly too late. We know we should have decided this years ago, but here we are.
I had my IUD (paraguard - non hormonal) removed yesterday. What are my chances? |
Anonymous
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Frankly, not good. I'm 44 and we have been trying for 7 years - and I got pregnant twice before with absolutely no problem too, once at 26 and also at 33, when we were actively using birth control! There really is a cliff as you get into your 40s and after 42 particularly it is a STEEP drop-off. I've watched it happen inexorably as I've done multiple IVF cycles over the past 4 years. I actually still make plenty of eggs, and those eggs even make embryos that develop to blastocyst stage (that is, they develop normally up to 5-7 days which is the time you'd normally need to implant them), but out of the 13 blasts we've made during the past two years we have not had a single chromosomally normal embryo among them.
That said I don't think it's hopeless! But if you really want it I'd really recommend seeing an RE right away to get everything tested and so you can consider if you do want to try any sort of treatment to increase your chances. There's a lot you can do that's not nearly so invasive or expensive as IVF, but the sooner the better is always the rule. And trust me, your OB-GYN is not going to know what you need to know. Fertility is an extremely specialized field (as I learned to my regret, after listening to my OB tell me "oh, everything looks great, just go have your husband chase you around the bedroom" for 2.5 years before I finally went to an RE). Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Do donor eggs in 6 month if you dont conceive. Skip IVF with your own eggs. BTDT |
Anonymous
| You're going to have to use art. |
Anonymous
Agree with the pp. I got pregnant within two months of no birth control and infrequent, not-trying sex at 39, had him at 40. No. 2 was a whole different story and required DE, had him at 45. Make an appt and go at it like rabbits. |
Anonymous
| I'm 40 and wondering what your AMHs are. Mine is .60, which I know is low, and is more like the AMH for a 44 year old. I've been TTC #2 for 3 years, never been pregnant, but pregnant on the first try with my son at age 36. |
Anonymous
| Basically zero |
Anonymous
| Honestly, nooooot good. I would be pretty shocked if it's not already too late (assuming we're talking getting and STAYING pregnant) |
Anonymous
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Honestly you'd have better changes TTA - trying to adopt. You could, perhaps, become pregnant. But then keeping the pregnancy will be hard, and birthing a healthy baby with no trisomy, ASD or ADHD will be even harder. |
Anonymous
| you never know until you try. |
Anonymous
when did your mother and or sister enter menopause? you need to be persistent and not skip any cycles. do not use art - it can't help you anymore. |
Anonymous
| my mom entered at 55 ... I'm 47. Is there a chance? the internet puts me at 1% each month. |
Anonymous
At 47 with own eggs - no, no chance. Donor eggs, yes. |
Anonymous
The odds of a take-home baby are very long at your age. Even if you do get pregnant, the odds of miscarrying are about 75%, if not higher. If parenting a child is something you really, really want, consider adoption, foster-to-adoption, or donor eggs. |
Anonymous
Hogwash. There is "no, no chance" that a unicorn will become President of the United States. But there is always a chance that a woman who Has not entered menopause can become pregnant. It may not be a great chance, but there is always a chance. Just go ahead and try OP. You never know. |