Why is redshirting so rare if it's so advantageous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

Sports cutoffs aren't like school cutoffs. In Gladwell's book the January born hockey players excelled. January kids aren't the oldest school kids. I don't recall a section of the book talking about school performance at all, did I miss that part or forget about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

There is no “us”, cupcake. It’s just you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

Sports cutoffs aren't like school cutoffs. In Gladwell's book the January born hockey players excelled. January kids aren't the oldest school kids. I don't recall a section of the book talking about school performance at all, did I miss that part or forget about it?

I specifically stated that. Work on your reading comprehension!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK).

And most Harvard/Yale/Stanford/Princeton students are probably born in the winter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

Were you hurt by this? Was your child? Those are two different things, realize. And as the parent, you have the ability, the obligation actually, to help your kid navigate the unfairness of life. And ok, you think this is unfair. Ok. Nothing I will say will convince you otherwise. But - now what? Life is unfair in so very many ways. Are you mad at children of wealthy families? Neurotypical kids? White kids? Boys? Girls? Kids who love stem?

Please, PP, just lay this down. Your kid deserves a mom who is proud of them - wherever they are and whatever success they’ve achieved. Every redshirting parent has a thing that their kid has that they worry about- all of us do! Just love on your kid, PP - and give yourself a break. You didn’t fail your kid for not redshirting. I swear no one else is thinking about this as much as you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

I didn't redshirt and I think you are being absolutely ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Why are DCUM anti-redshirters so weird and disturbed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

Sports cutoffs aren't like school cutoffs. In Gladwell's book the January born hockey players excelled. January kids aren't the oldest school kids. I don't recall a section of the book talking about school performance at all, did I miss that part or forget about it?

I specifically stated that. Work on your reading comprehension!

Idiot, this thread is about redshirting for school. Malcolm Gladwell talked about sports and things like practice makes perfect and being at the right place at the right time (Bill Gates). Did you even read the book? It is not a fact that the oldest kids in the class become the most successful just due to their birthday. That's just you and your effed up logic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

Were you hurt by this? Was your child? Those are two different things, realize. And as the parent, you have the ability, the obligation actually, to help your kid navigate the unfairness of life. And ok, you think this is unfair. Ok. Nothing I will say will convince you otherwise. But - now what? Life is unfair in so very many ways. Are you mad at children of wealthy families? Neurotypical kids? White kids? Boys? Girls? Kids who love stem?

Please, PP, just lay this down. Your kid deserves a mom who is proud of them - wherever they are and whatever success they’ve achieved. Every redshirting parent has a thing that their kid has that they worry about- all of us do! Just love on your kid, PP - and give yourself a break. You didn’t fail your kid for not redshirting. I swear no one else is thinking about this as much as you.

Actually yes, some of our kids are hurt from it. Because there are some standardized tests that are grade normed vs. age normed but are clearly based on age so some of us who have smart, young for the grade kids do very well for their age but cannot compete with kids a year older who should be in a grade ahead. Your kid isn't smarter, just older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

Were you hurt by this? Was your child? Those are two different things, realize. And as the parent, you have the ability, the obligation actually, to help your kid navigate the unfairness of life. And ok, you think this is unfair. Ok. Nothing I will say will convince you otherwise. But - now what? Life is unfair in so very many ways. Are you mad at children of wealthy families? Neurotypical kids? White kids? Boys? Girls? Kids who love stem?

Please, PP, just lay this down. Your kid deserves a mom who is proud of them - wherever they are and whatever success they’ve achieved. Every redshirting parent has a thing that their kid has that they worry about- all of us do! Just love on your kid, PP - and give yourself a break. You didn’t fail your kid for not redshirting. I swear no one else is thinking about this as much as you.

This isn't a disgruntled mom, OP is talking about herself, doesn't even have kids, and can't get over the fact that she's an abysmal failure and wants to find something or someone to blame. She was somehow "hurt" by being compared to a kid a few months older. Decades ago. How embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

Were you hurt by this? Was your child? Those are two different things, realize. And as the parent, you have the ability, the obligation actually, to help your kid navigate the unfairness of life. And ok, you think this is unfair. Ok. Nothing I will say will convince you otherwise. But - now what? Life is unfair in so very many ways. Are you mad at children of wealthy families? Neurotypical kids? White kids? Boys? Girls? Kids who love stem?

Please, PP, just lay this down. Your kid deserves a mom who is proud of them - wherever they are and whatever success they’ve achieved. Every redshirting parent has a thing that their kid has that they worry about- all of us do! Just love on your kid, PP - and give yourself a break. You didn’t fail your kid for not redshirting. I swear no one else is thinking about this as much as you.

Actually yes, some of our kids are hurt from it. Because there are some standardized tests that are grade normed vs. age normed but are clearly based on age so some of us who have smart, young for the grade kids do very well for their age but cannot compete with kids a year older who should be in a grade ahead. Your kid isn't smarter, just older.

Nah, sometimes they are just smarter. And sometimes they're not. They haven't had extra schooling, they are all in the same grade. If your kid is struggling, you need to help them. Many times young ones do just fine, why isn't yours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

Were you hurt by this? Was your child? Those are two different things, realize. And as the parent, you have the ability, the obligation actually, to help your kid navigate the unfairness of life. And ok, you think this is unfair. Ok. Nothing I will say will convince you otherwise. But - now what? Life is unfair in so very many ways. Are you mad at children of wealthy families? Neurotypical kids? White kids? Boys? Girls? Kids who love stem?

Please, PP, just lay this down. Your kid deserves a mom who is proud of them - wherever they are and whatever success they’ve achieved. Every redshirting parent has a thing that their kid has that they worry about- all of us do! Just love on your kid, PP - and give yourself a break. You didn’t fail your kid for not redshirting. I swear no one else is thinking about this as much as you.

Actually yes, some of our kids are hurt from it. Because there are some standardized tests that are grade normed vs. age normed but are clearly based on age so some of us who have smart, young for the grade kids do very well for their age but cannot compete with kids a year older who should be in a grade ahead. Your kid isn't smarter, just older.

You're weird too. And totally ridiculous. Not sure how you function in everyday life.

I didn't redshirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta just be the one person on here, right? The one who talks about the shame of being the oldest and… succeeding? The one who talks about following some “rules”?

There are no hard and fast rules on this and I don’t know anyone who thinks about their age vis a vis their school performance! I hope your child doesn’t. I really also hope you don’t tell your child, when they do poorly, oh it’s just because Johnny messed up the curve because he’s so much older than you.

There must be someone, some family, in your life, anti-redshirting lady, who really annoys you. Who is smug about their kid’s success, even though you feel it’s unearned because the kid is older than yours. I’m sorry if the mom of the older kid is smug- that’s on her. You’re right to be irritated by that. But you’re wrong to kneecap your own kid by telling them it isn’t fair when s/he does poorly. And I can kind of tell you do that… Sigh. You have a good kid! It all comes out in the wash! Take a deep breath. Your kid is amazing and good and just celebrate them without twisting yourself into knots about his “competitors “- think of them as “friends “ who happen to do well.

Didn’t you read Malcom Gladwells book outiers? It’s proven that the oldest kids in a group are likely to be higher achievers. Most Oxford university students are born in Autumn ( no redshirting allowed in the UK). Most elite youth hockey players in Canada where born in the first 3 months of the year, cut off is the new calendar year. Redshirting increases that gap.

It’s very rich of parents who redshirted their kids so benefited from the system to gaslight the rest of us who where hurt from being unfairly compared to artificially created older classmates that we are overreacting to the barriers that you erected.

Were you hurt by this? Was your child? Those are two different things, realize. And as the parent, you have the ability, the obligation actually, to help your kid navigate the unfairness of life. And ok, you think this is unfair. Ok. Nothing I will say will convince you otherwise. But - now what? Life is unfair in so very many ways. Are you mad at children of wealthy families? Neurotypical kids? White kids? Boys? Girls? Kids who love stem?

Please, PP, just lay this down. Your kid deserves a mom who is proud of them - wherever they are and whatever success they’ve achieved. Every redshirting parent has a thing that their kid has that they worry about- all of us do! Just love on your kid, PP - and give yourself a break. You didn’t fail your kid for not redshirting. I swear no one else is thinking about this as much as you.

This isn't a disgruntled mom, OP is talking about herself, doesn't even have kids, and can't get over the fact that she's an abysmal failure and wants to find something or someone to blame. She was somehow "hurt" by being compared to a kid a few months older. Decades ago. How embarrassing.

+1

DCUM anti-redshirters are so sad and pathetic. I feel sorry for them.

[Anonymous]

I had a mid April birthday in a school district with an August 31st cut off. The oldest redshirted kid had a March birthday. He was not “ only a few months older “ he was over a year older.

If a few months age differences is no big deal then why didn’t the redshirters just follow the guidelines and go on time?