NCS Parents - "I wish I had known x" type advice.

[Anonymous]

These posts are insane. "I went to a second tier Ivy" BS and you didn't attend NCS either. If you've been out in the real world this long and you still feel the need to post on this site you have larger issues.

Truth? Some GDS stay at home house frau.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mother of 9th grader here. St. Albans' homecoming is around the corner. Do most girls get asked by the boys to go? My DD is horrified that she is the only one who will not be going. She just doesn't know too many of those boys.

Have her ask her friends if their dates have friends without dates. Agree they need to be proactive. I am appalled that STA does not allow all NCS students to attend.

+1 to being appalled at the way STA handles homecoming. I am an STA mom! Lots of boys also are left out of this experience. It scars them.

The whole thing is backwards and pathetic.

[Anonymous]

What is pathetic is that st albans hasn't changed this policy and that ncs has still done nothing about it. It is damaging to the girls- both those who are invited, who end up thinking they must really be something to be chosen by the 14 year old lord of the universe, and the girls who don't get chosen. And YES the girls are mean about it to the ones who aren't chosen. The MOMs are mean about it. I remember a mom telling me all about her daughter going, the dress, the crowd, the etc, and then innocently asking- oh did your daughter go? Unless this woman has no manners training at all she surely knows you do not talk about parties and who went and who didn't. I responded, haltingly, - ah no my daughter didn't go. You know- she doesn't really know all that many boys.--- in other words intimating that her daughter is a slut- not something I liked doing but I wanted her to stop talking about it- which she did. IMPORTANT NEWS FLASH about Cathedral- 50% of the girls are there because the parents want them to date St Albans boys- that is what is pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is pathetic is that st albans hasn't changed this policy and that ncs has still done nothing about it. It is damaging to the girls- both those who are invited, who end up thinking they must really be something to be chosen by the 14 year old lord of the universe, and the girls who don't get chosen. And YES the girls are mean about it to the ones who aren't chosen. The MOMs are mean about it. I remember a mom telling me all about her daughter going, the dress, the crowd, the etc, and then innocently asking- oh did your daughter go? Unless this woman has no manners training at all she surely knows you do not talk about parties and who went and who didn't. I responded, haltingly, - ah no my daughter didn't go. You know- she doesn't really know all that many boys.--- in other words intimating that her daughter is a slut- not something I liked doing but I wanted her to stop talking about it- which she did. IMPORTANT NEWS FLASH about Cathedral- 50% of the girls are there because the parents want them to date St Albans boys- that is what is pathetic.

Important news flash? WTF?

[Anonymous]

Most schools allow 9th graders to go to Homecoming in groups so that 14 year olds (who frankly are too young to date for the most part) don't feel pressure to date and yet can have a lot of fun. St. Albans should open its Homecoming to NCS and everyone should just have a good time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most schools allow 9th graders to go to Homecoming in groups so that 14 year olds (who frankly are too young to date for the most part) don't feel pressure to date and yet can have a lot of fun. St. Albans should open its Homecoming to NCS and everyone should just have a good time.

Is not part of the learning experience for anyone to understand rejection, exclusion, and disappointment. What dos not kill you makes you stronger . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most schools allow 9th graders to go to Homecoming in groups so that 14 year olds (who frankly are too young to date for the most part) don't feel pressure to date and yet can have a lot of fun. St. Albans should open its Homecoming to NCS and everyone should just have a good time.

Is not part of the learning experience for anyone to understand rejection, exclusion, and disappointment. What dos not kill you makes you stronger . . .

I agree that we can't and shouldn't protect our children from disappointment and rejection and although I'm a parent of an NCS grad I don't have strong feelings about homecoming. It seems like something that would be an issue for about a week. However, this attitude that whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger is precisely the problem with the whole ethos of NCS. Its a hazing. Which is a pretty destructive ethos for a school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is pathetic is that st albans hasn't changed this policy and that ncs has still done nothing about it. It is damaging to the girls- both those who are invited, who end up thinking they must really be something to be chosen by the 14 year old lord of the universe, and the girls who don't get chosen. And YES the girls are mean about it to the ones who aren't chosen. The MOMs are mean about it. I remember a mom telling me all about her daughter going, the dress, the crowd, the etc, and then innocently asking- oh did your daughter go? Unless this woman has no manners training at all she surely knows you do not talk about parties and who went and who didn't. I responded, haltingly, - ah no my daughter didn't go. You know- she doesn't really know all that many boys.--- in other words intimating that her daughter is a slut- not something I liked doing but I wanted her to stop talking about it- which she did. IMPORTANT NEWS FLASH about Cathedral- 50% of the girls are there because the parents want them to date St Albans boys- that is what is pathetic.

Important news flash? WTF?

Seriously. WTF? Not one of the NCS parents I know even wants their daughters going on dates at all at 14.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is pathetic is that st albans hasn't changed this policy and that ncs has still done nothing about it. It is damaging to the girls- both those who are invited, who end up thinking they must really be something to be chosen by the 14 year old lord of the universe, and the girls who don't get chosen. And YES the girls are mean about it to the ones who aren't chosen. The MOMs are mean about it. I remember a mom telling me all about her daughter going, the dress, the crowd, the etc, and then innocently asking- oh did your daughter go? Unless this woman has no manners training at all she surely knows you do not talk about parties and who went and who didn't. I responded, haltingly, - ah no my daughter didn't go. You know- she doesn't really know all that many boys.--- in other words intimating that her daughter is a slut- not something I liked doing but I wanted her to stop talking about it- which she did. IMPORTANT NEWS FLASH about Cathedral- 50% of the girls are there because the parents want them to date St Albans boys- that is what is pathetic.

Important news flash? WTF?

Seriously. WTF? Not one of the NCS parents I know even wants their daughters going on dates at all at 14.

One could do a lot worse than a St. Albans boy who is presumptively well mannered, bright, and well connected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is pathetic is that st albans hasn't changed this policy and that ncs has still done nothing about it. It is damaging to the girls- both those who are invited, who end up thinking they must really be something to be chosen by the 14 year old lord of the universe, and the girls who don't get chosen. And YES the girls are mean about it to the ones who aren't chosen. The MOMs are mean about it. I remember a mom telling me all about her daughter going, the dress, the crowd, the etc, and then innocently asking- oh did your daughter go? Unless this woman has no manners training at all she surely knows you do not talk about parties and who went and who didn't. I responded, haltingly, - ah no my daughter didn't go. You know- she doesn't really know all that many boys.--- in other words intimating that her daughter is a slut- not something I liked doing but I wanted her to stop talking about it- which she did. IMPORTANT NEWS FLASH about Cathedral- 50% of the girls are there because the parents want them to date St Albans boys- that is what is pathetic.

Important news flash? WTF?

No news flash necessary. Social climbing mother wants to do it on back of her daughter so to speak - using a St. Albans boy to gain status. That has been going on forever.

[Anonymous]

What a misogynist turn this has taken -- to suggest that the girls at a very good all-girls' school are being sent there to date boys at the brother school. Good lord, how unpleasant people get.

And if the boys' school has an old-fashioned homecoming dance with dates, it seems that is probably their business. NCS has a "classic" prom with dates that is not open to all St. Albans students, is that not accurate? Women need to stop buying into stereotypes (my daughter's social life -- or life -- is ruined if she doesn't go to a dance) and help our daughters get perspective on what is a social bump on the road and what really matters.

[Anonymous]

Why don't all the girls who were not invited just throw their own party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't all the girls who were not invited just throw their own party?

Can the Holton girls who turned down the STA boys attend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't all the girls who were not invited just throw their own party?

Can the Holton girls who turned down the STA boys attend?

Does it worry you that your sense of humor is stuck at age 13? Not to mention mean and not funny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't all the girls who were not invited just throw their own party?

Can the Holton girls who turned down the STA boys attend?

Sure. So that would be an RSVP of -3?