SIL following me around FB
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Anonymous
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This is going to sound crazy, but here it goes.
For various reasons, my SIL doesn't like me, and has apparently ramped up a campaign to make my life miserable. A little background: I've struggled for years with antenatal and postpartum depression, plus PPA that made my life a living hell for two years. I didn't get help right away thanks to a useless OB and things spiraled. Really bad. Add to that the traumatic birth of my first child and a move away from DC, and I'm pretty miserable. I'm finally getting therapy and things are getting better. Because of out new location and no local friends, a few Facebook groups have also been helpful. Which brings me to my SIL - she's apparently searched my profile and figured out what groups I'm in - and joined them. She's effectively silenced me and taken away some really helpful poeple. I told DH I was going to block her, and he flipped out, insisting it would bring tons of discord to the extended family. He also thinks I'm overreacting about her reading some very personal things. How do I deal with this? |
Anonymous
| I think it's a little paranoid to think that she's part of those groups to specifically make your life miserable. She might have found out about them in other ways, or just be interested in them. However, I can also understand why you want a confidential group of people to talk to. But Facebook is never confidential anyway ... |
Anonymous
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Your SIL, and your DH, sound nuts.
Have you talked directly to the SIL? Asked her why she's doing this? Can you put her on limited profile? But if you want to block her, that's your call - and not anyone elses. |
Anonymous
Some are pretty specific (like the birth trauma one) and I know she hasn't had those experiences. |
Anonymous
| I'd still block her. Or change the settings so she is still your 'friend' but can't really see much of anything. |
Anonymous
Agree with this. You don't need your husbands permission to block her, just do it. |
Anonymous
I think that just blocks her from my profile. She can still see what I post in groups. |
Anonymous
| Is she concerned that you are not well yet? And has she just now started this ramped up campaign to make your life miserable? How do you know your PPA is under control for sure? |
Anonymous
| Block her. Done. |
Anonymous
| Block, but don't tell. If she asks: "I'm not into social media right now." |
Anonymous
She's never been friendly or polite or concerned about me. |
Anonymous
| Block her. Your husband needs to support you, not her. |
Anonymous
If you really don't want to make things hard, just create a post that only SHE can see. You can do this in the post settings, and she won't know. Say something like, "Done with Facebook for a while." and then just block her. You will then vanish from her viewpoint. |
Anonymous
This is what I did with my SIL. |
Anonymous
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Wait she's joining groups that are not where she lives and about topics not of interest just to harass you?
I would certainly block. I would discuss with my husband why he thinks her behavior is appropriate and why he's backing up his sister over his wife. Whenever I saw her pop up in one of these groups, I would ask the group moderators to remove her because of her history of harassing you (and lack of history with the topic of interest) And if that didn't work, I would have a pseudonym facebook account to use in these groups. |