"Praying for you"...why don't you actually DO something?

[Anonymous]

An acquaintance of mine just found out her mother has leukemia. Her mother is only 61 and she is really crushed. We are not that close, but we both volunteer on a Board of Directors and mutually respect each other. She was so upset that she wrote the whole board asking for advice. I offered to take the test to see if I am a match for a marrow transfusion. Another person offered to help her with childcare. She took both of us up on our offers, so it is clear the need is there. Everyone else was like "praying for you". Really? How about actually doing something?

[Anonymous]

I think that is a pretty standard response. But I do agree, if there is something that can be done, do it. That is very kind of you to go have yourself tested. Could you say that and suggest others do as well? Maybe folks don't realize this?

[Anonymous]

Praying for her and her mother IS doing something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that is a pretty standard response. But I do agree, if there is something that can be done, do it. That is very kind of you to go have yourself tested. Could you say that and suggest others do as well? Maybe folks don't realize this?

I "replied all" to the message and so did the woman who offered child care.

[Anonymous]

Atheist. Heathen. How dare you not believe in the power of baby jesus.

[Anonymous]

While praying for someone is completely worthless, there's probably not much else they're willing to do, especially if they don't know her that well. Everyone has their own pile of crap to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that is a pretty standard response. But I do agree, if there is something that can be done, do it. That is very kind of you to go have yourself tested. Could you say that and suggest others do as well? Maybe folks don't realize this?

I "replied all" to the message and so did the woman who offered child care.

I'd probably be the person claiming I was being "helpful" by providing everyone some link about how to become a donor or something

I'm a little bit of a brat that way

[Anonymous]

Maybe they also have issues they are dealing with?

Why the judgement, op? You do you and let them do them.

[Anonymous]

First, you don't know what anyone else offered.

Also, bone marrow donation is not a simple procedure like donating blood. It's done under general anesthesia. It's ok to decline that risk for a stranger.

What you should do is organize something for their family. You need to find out what they need specifically, then also do some research to figure out ways to help that she may not have thought of. Then send out a sign up sheet to those who work with her, and those who know her.

[Anonymous]

I think "praying for you" is just something people say. does anyone actually prays for someone else and continues to do it?

[Anonymous]

They think/feel that praying IS doing something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Atheist. Heathen. How dare you not believe in the power of baby jesus.

Go lay in traffic.

[Anonymous]

Frankly, I'm so depressed I can barely get out of bed in the morning. Praying is about all I can do (I'm on the marrow registry, btw).

[Anonymous]

Everyone does what they can, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Atheist. Heathen. How dare you not believe in the power of baby jesus.

Go lay in traffic.

Pretty sure it was sarcastic, PP.