I slept with him too soon

[Anonymous]

And I haven't heard from him since. Went on 2 dates with a guy that seemed like he has some potential. We got drunk ( in all fairness, 2 glasses of wine makes me tipsy) and we had sex on Friday ( 3rd date). It was good but not great. I left a couple hours later to go home. I sent him a text yesterday saying I had a good time and nothing. I know it's early but I can't help but think he got what he wanted and I may never hear from again. This sucks.

[Anonymous]

Sorry. Yep, it does suck. I know so many men say they will walk if you don't sleep them by the third date -- but then you do, and they walk anyway.

I wait. Always.

[Anonymous]

Well he showed you his true colors. Good thing you didn't invest more time in this guy. Time to move on!

[Anonymous]

Or, he slept with you too soon (what a philandering male) and showed his true colors! You holding out to be a "good girl" wouldn't make him a nicer person or a good catch.

[Anonymous]

Haha 2nd true colors poster here--great minds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry. Yep, it does suck. I know so many men say they will walk if you don't sleep them by the third date -- but then you do, and they walk anyway.

I wait. Always.

Op here. He didn't pressure me into it. I don't normally sleep with a guy until at least date 5 but we were both tipsy and it just happened. No one to blame. It just sucks if that's all he was after. I guess good to know now before I invested more time in him.

[Anonymous]

That was rude and cold of him not to respond. But at least you know now.

[Anonymous]

Don't beat yourself up about it. Just chalk it up to experience. You will meet a good guy someday and appreciate him more due to this experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I haven't heard from him since. Went on 2 dates with a guy that seemed like he has some potential. We got drunk ( in all fairness, 2 glasses of wine makes me tipsy) and we had sex on Friday ( 3rd date). It was good but not great. I left a couple hours later to go home. I sent him a text yesterday saying I had a good time and nothing. I know it's early but I can't help but think he got what he wanted and I may never hear from again. This sucks.

Then objectively, you really don't need to go back there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry. Yep, it does suck. I know so many men say they will walk if you don't sleep them by the third date -- but then you do, and they walk anyway.

I wait. Always.

Op here. He didn't pressure me into it. I don't normally sleep with a guy until at least date 5 but we were both tipsy and it just happened. No one to blame. It just sucks if that's all he was after. I guess good to know now before I invested more time in him.

I'm sorry he was a jerk. Good riddance to him and a lesson learned. With the next guy, be aware that getting tipsy contributed to having so-so sex that ended with being ghosted. If two glasses of wine are enough to make you drop your own five-date rule so quickly, then don't drink on dates again or stop at one glass no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry. Yep, it does suck. I know so many men say they will walk if you don't sleep them by the third date -- but then you do, and they walk anyway.

I wait. Always.

Until when? I would love your advice.

I've been on 5 dates over the last 3 weeks with this guy-- we have a strong connection. We're late 30s, both divorced. I'm so nervous because until now I had only slept with my husband. But honestly I really want to have sex with this guy.

[Anonymous]

If so.eone is willing to sleep with you on x date but then dumps you because you sleep with him on x date, that person is not worth dating.

OP , there is no future with someone who holds those views or freaked because suddenly felt too serious etc. The problem is not with you. However the one reason to hold off is that sometimes you realize in 5-6 dates there's no compatibility and it's easier to.part ways if you havent sllept together or your prefer sleeping only with people you are dating

[Anonymous]

Story of my life

[Anonymous]

Op, your only mistake was texting too soon after sex. You will always come across as needy and insecure. Always let the guy contact you first especially after sex. Just be patient next time with the post sex texting.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP but you know what? He probably was not a keeper long term anyway. If there is a real connection there are no Rules. I slept with my husband the night we met.