I slept with him too soon

[Anonymous]

Maybe you just weren't good enough in bed.

[Anonymous]

Why did't you stay the night after having sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is sex ever great, the first time with a new partner?

Maybe it's me but YES, it can be great and has been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did't you stay the night after having sex?

+1!

I waited 5 dates to have sex with my soon to be husband and he insisted I spend the night. The only time I've had sex in a budding relationship and a guy let me leave was with a player that probably cheated on me 3 times in less than 4 months. I don't like they way this is playing out for you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or, he slept with you too soon (what a philandering male) and showed his true colors! You holding out to be a "good girl" wouldn't make him a nicer person or a good catch.

+1 to this

Count yourself lucky that you found out so quickly what kind of a guy he is. Assuming you don't have some big moral or religious objections to the casual sex part, then think of it as years you didn't waste with a guy you wouldn't have been happy with.

[Anonymous]

Is sex ever great, the first time with a new partner?

yes. now excuse me while I take a few trips down memory lane.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry. This has happened to pretty much every woman i know. It has happened to me a few times over the years.

Guys (on here, in real life) will say that they expect women to sleep with them very early on or we're leading them on, blah blah blah. But often when we do, they disappear afterward, or they consider us whores who probably sleep with everyone after a couple of dates. Sometimes I feel like you can't win.

That said, I've also had a couple of guys I slept with "too soon" who fell head over heels for me and proposed or were otherwise very serious. Because not all guys pull that virgin/whore BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. This has happened to pretty much every woman i know. It has happened to me a few times over the years.

Guys (on here, in real life) will say that they expect women to sleep with them very early on or we're leading them on, blah blah blah. But often when we do, they disappear afterward, or they consider us whores who probably sleep with everyone after a couple of dates. Sometimes I feel like you can't win.

That said, I've also had a couple of guys I slept with "too soon" who fell head over heels for me and proposed or were otherwise very serious. Because not all guys pull that virgin/whore BS.

But the guys who have the "virgin/whore BS" are generally douchebags. So you could hold out until date #3, so they wouldn't be dumping you for the virgin/whore thing, but they'd treat you like sh*t for some other abusive/douchy reason.

Point is: waiting or not waiting to have sex isn't going to improve the likelihood of success with that relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. This has happened to pretty much every woman i know. It has happened to me a few times over the years.

Guys (on here, in real life) will say that they expect women to sleep with them very early on or we're leading them on, blah blah blah. But often when we do, they disappear afterward, or they consider us whores who probably sleep with everyone after a couple of dates. Sometimes I feel like you can't win.

That said, I've also had a couple of guys I slept with "too soon" who fell head over heels for me and proposed or were otherwise very serious. Because not all guys pull that virgin/whore BS.

But the guys who have the "virgin/whore BS" are generally douchebags. So you could hold out until date #3, so they wouldn't be dumping you for the virgin/whore thing, but they'd treat you like sh*t for some other abusive/douchy reason.

Point is: waiting or not waiting to have sex isn't going to improve the likelihood of success with that relationship.

+1. Just have sex when you feel ready to have sex. Don't play games with it -- the guys on whom the games would be effective and/or necessary aren't the ones you want anyway.

[Anonymous]

Was reading something on jezebel last year that something like 80% of women don't org*sm the first time they are with a new partner. But those women are still quite likely to describe the encounter as "good to great".

Having had a lot of sex (mostly with DH) over the last 20 years, this seems ridiculous. I don't care how much excitement there is with being with someone the first time. If no org*sm, then it's not going to be better than "okay". It might still be great for the man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. This has happened to pretty much every woman i know. It has happened to me a few times over the years.

Guys (on here, in real life) will say that they expect women to sleep with them very early on or we're leading them on, blah blah blah. But often when we do, they disappear afterward, or they consider us whores who probably sleep with everyone after a couple of dates. Sometimes I feel like you can't win.

That said, I've also had a couple of guys I slept with "too soon" who fell head over heels for me and proposed or were otherwise very serious. Because not all guys pull that virgin/whore BS.

But the guys who have the "virgin/whore BS" are generally douchebags. So you could hold out until date #3, so they wouldn't be dumping you for the virgin/whore thing, but they'd treat you like sh*t for some other abusive/douchy reason.

Point is: waiting or not waiting to have sex isn't going to improve the likelihood of success with that relationship.

+1. Just have sex when you feel ready to have sex. Don't play games with it -- the guys on whom the games would be effective and/or necessary aren't the ones you want anyway.

Completely agree with all of this.

[Anonymous]

Miranda Kerr says she and Snapchat bro didn't have sex before marriage.

I guess when you look like her, you can get billionaires to wait

[Lucky20]

Yea, you should of waited a little longer, so to hear he is being a jerk. Did he ever reply or call you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you two?

I'm hoping 25 or younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was reading something on jezebel last year that something like 80% of women don't org*sm the first time they are with a new partner. But those women are still quite likely to describe the encounter as "good to great".

Having had a lot of sex (mostly with DH) over the last 20 years, this seems ridiculous. I don't care how much excitement there is with being with someone the first time. If no org*sm, then it's not going to be better than "okay". It might still be great for the man.

Well is great sex only for the woman? Most women are not good in bed.