I slept with him too soon

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. He called me and I realize I completely overreacted. I don't need help anymore.

To pp - I never said I didn't like him. I said the sex wasn't that great but not bad.

Oh good! Next time, don't drink as much -or at all- and maybe the sex will be better.

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Is sex ever great, the first time with a new partner?

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My now DW and I slept with each other after after first date. Not my normal MO but I had a crush on her for months and thought she was way out of my league so I thought this was my one and only chance. Sex was raw and magical.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's just as likely that he felt the same lack of chemistry you described in your OP and decided there wasn't long-term potential. It may have nothing to do with timing and everything to do with the crappy sex.

+1. "Good but not great sex"? Why are you pining that you lost this? Good but not great sex on the third date means you should probably move on.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird he graded you like that, I wouldn't like a man judging my technique like that.[/quote

Giving a comment is not grading. I don't he gave op a number rating.

He compared her to other women. Gross.

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I knew my DH for almost three years before we had our first date. We were good friends but dating others but over time the better I got to know him the more attractive he became. I finally made the first move and we decided to have dinner at his place. I drove to his place with an overnight bag in my car just in case. I ended up using it. It was incredibly unlike me as I'd only been with a few guys before and never before the 4th or 5th date.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP but you know what? He probably was not a keeper long term anyway. If there is a real connection there are no Rules. I slept with my husband the night we met.

Third date. Married at the one year mark.

First date. Married at one year mark. Now married 30 years. He still brings it up as apparently it made him very happy.

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My H didn't make a move sexually until we had been seeing each other for about two weeks. I thought maybe he was gay. Turned out he wasn't.

Fast forward through our marriage, turns out he had pretty low testosterone/sex drive. It was fine for like five years but then not so great.

Some might think this is normal and/or he was getting some on the side, but the truth is he def has low drive and I don't so we ended up divorced. His low drive situation continued long after our divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:My H didn't make a move sexually until we had been seeing each other for about two weeks. I thought maybe he was gay. Turned out he wasn't.

Fast forward through our marriage, turns out he had pretty low testosterone/sex drive. It was fine for like five years but then not so great.

Some might think this is normal and/or he was getting some on the side, but the truth is he def has low drive and I don't so we ended up divorced. His low drive situation continued long after our divorce.

That's sad. I'm sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:My H didn't make a move sexually until we had been seeing each other for about two weeks. I thought maybe he was gay. Turned out he wasn't.

Fast forward through our marriage, turns out he had pretty low testosterone/sex drive. It was fine for like five years but then not so great.

Some might think this is normal and/or he was getting some on the side, but the truth is he def has low drive and I don't so we ended up divorced. His low drive situation continued long after our divorce.

That's sad. I'm sorry.

Thank you but it's fine! He and I stayed friends and I got some majorly awesome sex after the divorce. And we didn't split up until after the kids were grown so even though that was a bit of a difficult drought for me I was glad my kids didn't have to go through the agony of divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is sex ever great, the first time with a new partner?

Man here with a lot of experience. Yes, about half the time it was great with a new partner.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's just as likely that he felt the same lack of chemistry you described in your OP and decided there wasn't long-term potential. It may have nothing to do with timing and everything to do with the crappy sex.

+1. "Good but not great sex"? Why are you pining that you lost this? Good but not great sex on the third date means you should probably move on.

+2. No chemistry, better to know now and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. He called me and I realize I completely overreacted. I don't need help anymore.

To pp - I never said I didn't like him. I said the sex wasn't that great but not bad.

He's going to disappear on you at some point. Men that want you to stick around don't just not text you back after sex...beware

Op here. He said he lost his phone Saturday morning ( on his way to run a 5k) and didn't get it a replacement until today because he was in a we didn't yesterday ( already knew about it). He called me once he got home from getting his new phone. He apologized for making me worry, etc., and we set up another date for this week. I am going to be cautious but still want to give him a chance because I do like him.

Stupid iphone typo. He was in a wedding yesterday after his 5k.

O.k. Good enough. You like him. Accept his explanation and go out with him again. That is pretty much a no brainer. Glad it worked out like this. Good luck!

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Op here. I didn't tell him I was worried. When he seen the text he said he felt bad and didn't want me to think he was blowing me off. I did assume but I've had this happen before and I thought maybe the same. I don't care what some of you say. We do have chemistry and I like him. Yes the we wasn't great but I had not that great sex with my ex time first time and he ended up being my best lover. I don't mind giving him another chance because we were drunk. Ok going to cautious but I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. He has been nothing but a gentleman this entire time. He even texted me after or second date when I was worried about a job thing. He called and texted to ask me how things went, etc. I'm going to continue seeing him.

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How old are you two?