I am South Asian and have always been attracted to White Men. AMA

[Anonymous]

Married to my White DH.

[Anonymous]

This doesn't sound exceptional at all, I see tons of couples were the female is Asian and the man is white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't sound exceptional at all, I see tons of couples were the female is Asian and the man is white.

+1. I see them everywhere as well, but when I lived in Cambridge, MA, white male/Asian female couples seemed particularly prevalent.

[Anonymous]

Question #1: Why do you think anyone here cares?

[Anonymous]

Why aren't you attracted to any South Asian men? Some are really good-looking.

--white chick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you attracted to any South Asian men? Some are really good-looking.

--white chick

They are! I do not think South Asian men are unattractive. Growing up, however, I mentally desexualized them so I did not actively look at them for romantic prospects. Media and culture tells me white men are the Prince Charmings and it takes a few years of maturity to get over that. By that point I was already in love with my current DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you attracted to any South Asian men? Some are really good-looking.

--white chick

They are! I do not think South Asian men are unattractive. Growing up, however, I mentally desexualized them so I did not actively look at them for romantic prospects. Media and culture tells me white men are the Prince Charmings and it takes a few years of maturity to get over that. By that point I was already in love with my current DH.

Ummm... totally off the topic but... how do you do that?

[Anonymous]

Fascinating story. Thanks for sharing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you attracted to any South Asian men? Some are really good-looking.

--white chick

They are! I do not think South Asian men are unattractive. Growing up, however, I mentally desexualized them so I did not actively look at them for romantic prospects. Media and culture tells me white men are the Prince Charmings and it takes a few years of maturity to get over that. By that point I was already in love with my current DH.

Ummm... totally off the topic but... how do you do that?

I think its just socially ingrained. How many times have you seen a romantic comedy where the lead is an Indian Engineer or an Asian Doctor?

When you grow up on that and are from a culture that discourages early romantic exploration, you learn what you can from movies and TV. When I looked at a white boy, I thought, "aha! romantic prospect!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you attracted to any South Asian men? Some are really good-looking.

--white chick

Dorks in polyester pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you attracted to any South Asian men? Some are really good-looking.

--white chick

They are! I do not think South Asian men are unattractive. Growing up, however, I mentally desexualized them so I did not actively look at them for romantic prospects. Media and culture tells me white men are the Prince Charmings and it takes a few years of maturity to get over that. By that point I was already in love with my current DH.

Ummm... totally off the topic but... how do you do that?

I think its just socially ingrained. How many times have you seen a romantic comedy where the lead is an Indian Engineer or an Asian Doctor?

When you grow up on that and are from a culture that discourages early romantic exploration, you learn what you can from movies and TV. When I looked at a white boy, I thought, "aha! romantic prospect!"

So you're a South Asian woman who never saw all those Bollywood movies with the Indian leading men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you attracted to any South Asian men? Some are really good-looking.

--white chick

They are! I do not think South Asian men are unattractive. Growing up, however, I mentally desexualized them so I did not actively look at them for romantic prospects. Media and culture tells me white men are the Prince Charmings and it takes a few years of maturity to get over that. By that point I was already in love with my current DH.

I call BS. People like what they like. If you had met someone IRL that you liked that happened to be brown I am sure you would have gone for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you attracted to any South Asian men? Some are really good-looking.

--white chick

They are! I do not think South Asian men are unattractive. Growing up, however, I mentally desexualized them so I did not actively look at them for romantic prospects. Media and culture tells me white men are the Prince Charmings and it takes a few years of maturity to get over that. By that point I was already in love with my current DH.

Ummm... totally off the topic but... how do you do that?

I think its just socially ingrained. How many times have you seen a romantic comedy where the lead is an Indian Engineer or an Asian Doctor?

When you grow up on that and are from a culture that discourages early romantic exploration, you learn what you can from movies and TV. When I looked at a white boy, I thought, "aha! romantic prospect!"

So you're a South Asian woman who never saw all those Bollywood movies with the Indian leading men?

The average American white male is taller, and stronger than the average South Asian male. So I'm not the OP, and I'm not South Asian, but i'm not surprised at the OP's view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Question #1: Why do you think anyone here cares?

+1

Can we stop with these threads? Who the hell finds this s*** interesting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Question #1: Why do you think anyone here cares?

+1

Can we stop with these threads? Who the hell finds this s*** interesting?

I'm a South Asian woman with a white DH, and I agree.