I am South Asian and have always been attracted to White Men. AMA

[Anonymous]

I am a South Asian woman and TBH South Asian men, American or otherwise are no prize. They are pretty insufferable most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:South Asian here. Most of the ones who go for whites aren't the best looking...or can't find a desi guy (except imports). A lot of South Indians tend to go for whites.

Competition for the educated American desi guys is fierce and if you're not pretty enough it's not going to cut it. South Asian men are also much pickier than white/black Americans - doesn't make them any better or worse but that's how it goes.

I am a South Asian woman and TBH South Asian men, American or otherwise are no prize. They are pretty insufferable most of the time

[Anonymous]

My (white) son is dating a South Asian woman and I get the impression her family is Not. Happy.

Any tips?

[Anonymous]

I think if South Asian as Filipino, Thai or Vietnamese. Perhaps Indonesian or from Singapore.

I find them attractive as a white male. Indian women not so much.

Latin women are the most attractive, love their sense of style and their culture.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:South Asian here. Most of the ones who go for whites aren't the best looking...or can't find a desi guy (except imports). A lot of South Indians tend to go for whites.

Competition for the educated American desi guys is fierce and if you're not pretty enough it's not going to cut it. South Asian men are also much pickier than white/black Americans - doesn't make them any better or worse but that's how it goes.

I am a South Asian woman and TBH South Asian men, American or otherwise are no prize. They are pretty insufferable most of the time

I'm not Asian, but my experience with south Asian men is that they tend to be sexist or at least old-fashioned in a way that doesn't work for me. Also, many of the ones I know are in IT, so they also have personalities that are not often what I look for. Of course my sample size is too small.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:South Asian here. Most of the ones who go for whites aren't the best looking...or can't find a desi guy (except imports). A lot of South Indians tend to go for whites.

Competition for the educated American desi guys is fierce and if you're not pretty enough it's not going to cut it. South Asian men are also much pickier than white/black Americans - doesn't make them any better or worse but that's how it goes.

Ok, stupid question, what do you mean a "desi guy"? How is that different from any other Indian American guy?

It's a term used by south asians meaning of our homeland i.e. Indian or Pakistani or Bengali.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:South Asian here. Most of the ones who go for whites aren't the best looking...or can't find a desi guy (except imports). A lot of South Indians tend to go for whites.

Competition for the educated American desi guys is fierce and if you're not pretty enough it's not going to cut it. South Asian men are also much pickier than white/black Americans - doesn't make them any better or worse but that's how it goes.

I am a South Asian woman and TBH South Asian men, American or otherwise are no prize. They are pretty insufferable most of the time

I'm not Asian, but my experience with south Asian men is that they tend to be sexist or at least old-fashioned in a way that doesn't work for me. Also, many of the ones I know are in IT, so they also have personalities that are not often what I look for. Of course my sample size is too small.

It's a patriarchal culture and the ones in it are usually immigrants.

The first American generation is coming into their late 40s and have varied professional careers. The ones born in the us aren't as awkward or seemingly dorky. Additionally most it indians are from the south - this is not the region from where conventionally attractive south Asians are from

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My (white) son is dating a South Asian woman and I get the impression her family is Not. Happy.

Any tips?

It's a tribal and old fashioned culture but if she marries him they will play nice. No family wants a divorced daughter. He's in a much better position than a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if South Asian as Filipino, Thai or Vietnamese. Perhaps Indonesian or from Singapore.

I find them attractive as a white male. Indian women not so much.

Latin women are the most attractive, love their sense of style and their culture.

those are south East Asians - South Asia is Indian Pakistan Bangladesh sir lanka and Nepal

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My (white) son is dating a South Asian woman and I get the impression her family is Not. Happy.

Any tips?

It's a tribal and old fashioned culture but if she marries him they will play nice. No family wants a divorced daughter. He's in a much better position than a woman.


Forgot to mention - he'll probably even get help financially for weddings and houses - so there's that as well. Free babysitting for the kids etc - so there are some perks.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:South Asian here. Most of the ones who go for whites aren't the best looking...or can't find a desi guy (except imports). A lot of South Indians tend to go for whites.

Competition for the educated American desi guys is fierce and if you're not pretty enough it's not going to cut it. South Asian men are also much pickier than white/black Americans - doesn't make them any better or worse but that's how it goes.

Ok, stupid question, what do you mean a "desi guy"? How is that different from any other Indian American guy?

It's a term used by south asians meaning of our homeland i.e. Indian or Pakistani or Bengali.

Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, Sri Lankan. Bengalis usually are from West Bangal (India) and Bangladesh. Punjabis are usually from Punjab (India) and Punjab (Pakistan). Tamils usually are from Tamilnadu (India) and Sri Lanka. It is all a mishmash now because how the population has continued to migrate.

I am a south asian immigrant mom of a girl and a boy. I guess my kids are "American Desis". They will end up with whoever they choose to end up with. We gave up the right to dictate that they marry people from India belonging to a particular state, a particular caste or a particular religion when we migrated from India to make our home in the US. I also believe that you are attracted to who you are attracted to. It can be any religion, color, race, ethnicity or gender. As long as my kids are happy, I am happy. Being American should teach us that, amirite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My (white) son is dating a South Asian woman and I get the impression her family is Not. Happy.

Any tips?

It's actually a good sign that her family even knows about your son. Has he met her family?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:South Asian here. Most of the ones who go for whites aren't the best looking...or can't find a desi guy (except imports). A lot of South Indians tend to go for whites.

Competition for the educated American desi guys is fierce and if you're not pretty enough it's not going to cut it. South Asian men are also much pickier than white/black Americans - doesn't make them any better or worse but that's how it goes.

I am a South Asian woman and TBH South Asian men, American or otherwise are no prize. They are pretty insufferable most of the time

I'm not Asian, but my experience with south Asian men is that they tend to be sexist or at least old-fashioned in a way that doesn't work for me. Also, many of the ones I know are in IT, so they also have personalities that are not often what I look for. Of course my sample size is too small.

It's a patriarchal culture and the ones in it are usually immigrants.

The first American generation is coming into their late 40s and have varied professional careers. The ones born in the us aren't as awkward or seemingly dorky. Additionally most it indians are from the south - this is not the region from where conventionally attractive south Asians are from

The 2nd generation too is pretty sexist from what I observe. In fact, some of the parents here raise their kids to adhere even more strongly to the culture they left behind so the patriarchy kinda persists not explicitly but implicitly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My (white) son is dating a South Asian woman and I get the impression her family is Not. Happy.

Any tips?

It's a tribal and old fashioned culture but if she marries him they will play nice. No family wants a divorced daughter. He's in a much better position than a woman.

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My (white) son is dating a South Asian woman and I get the impression her family is Not. Happy.

Any tips?

It's actually a good sign that her family even knows about your son. Has he met her family?

Funny you ask. They found out unintentionally pretty early in the relationship, and while I don't have all of the details, dad made it pretty clear to my son that they were opposed to the relationship. They have continued nevertheless - I have no idea what the daughter is or is not telling her parents.