How to bring up Viagra

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He could be gay?

I've brought that up before and he just gets mad.

How did you approach this with your husband? And why?

[Anonymous]

Three suggestions:

1. Have him see a doctor for a check up. 33 is young to have an ED problem but you never know.
2. Have him eliminate alcohol the nights you get together. When my DH reached 45 it became clear that alcohol was keeping him from sustaining and completing which was disappointing to both of us.
3. Has your sex life become too vanilla? I'll avoid any specific recommendations but over time I've become more adventuresome which is exciting for both of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He could be gay?

I was gay but still got hard and had sex with my wife.

[Anonymous]

33 is wayyyy to young for this to be just plain erectile dysfunction. I agree with other posters that he needs a full physical. Also what's his mental health state? Is he depressed? Is he on psych meds? The only time my DH ever had an issue maintaining was when he increased his antidepressant. And he is several decades older than your DH.


Bottom line he needs a doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

ZachF wrote:It could be an early warning sign. He needs a physical to check his cholesterol, blood pressure, etc and overall fitness. If all is good, tell him you'd like to experiment with it. Maybe a 1/4 pill, see what it's like to be 16 again. If he tries it, he will probably be hooked from then on. Make it sound sexy, not like a failing and...

Did you really fing ask him if he's gay because of erectile issues? SMH

Um, some men are secretly gay. If she asked, it's probably because deep down she suspects.

Oh STFU with this stupid bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ZachF wrote:It could be an early warning sign. He needs a physical to check his cholesterol, blood pressure, etc and overall fitness. If all is good, tell him you'd like to experiment with it. Maybe a 1/4 pill, see what it's like to be 16 again. If he tries it, he will probably be hooked from then on. Make it sound sexy, not like a failing and...

Did you really fing ask him if he's gay because of erectile issues? SMH

Um, some men are secretly gay. If she asked, it's probably because deep down she suspects.

Oh STFU with this stupid bullshit.

I know people who have been in this situation. The wife always suspected. Always. You'd never ask your husband if he's gay unless you had an inkling.

[Anonymous]

ZachF wrote:It could be an early warning sign. He needs a physical to check his cholesterol, blood pressure, etc and overall fitness. If all is good, tell him you'd like to experiment with it. Maybe a 1/4 pill, see what it's like to be 16 again. If he tries it, he will probably be hooked from then on. Make it sound sexy, not like a failing and...

Did you really fing ask him if he's gay because of erectile issues? SMH

We had a really rough patch in our marriage a few years ago with a good 4 months of no intimacy. It was one of the things I asked him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:33 is wayyyy to young for this to be just plain erectile dysfunction. I agree with other posters that he needs a full physical. Also what's his mental health state? Is he depressed? Is he on psych meds? The only time my DH ever had an issue maintaining was when he increased his antidepressant. And he is several decades older than your DH.


Bottom line he needs a doctor.

Zero meds. Only thing he worries about is $.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, some terrible advice.

Have an honest conversation with him. He may be relieved to talk about the elephant in the room.

I am 42, and I had mild problems. Most of the time, I could perform, but sometimes I had trouble maintaining and finishing. I am in good shape, normal testosterone, but a little low on the thyroid. Point being, it could be an underlying medical issue and he should get a full panel done. But it could be just early aging down there - my doc said about 30% of men at age of 40 have issues and more than half by age 50.

I got on low dose cialis, and it really makes a huge difference. Erections are bigger, thicker but more importantly they are effortless so now we can both really enjoy sex without the pressure of worrying about something quitting on you. I think my wife knew something was off, it was actually awkward for me to suggest it, but I think she was thrilled that issue is out of the way.

Did you see your regular doc or a specialist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three suggestions:

1. Have him see a doctor for a check up. 33 is young to have an ED problem but you never know.
2. Have him eliminate alcohol the nights you get together. When my DH reached 45 it became clear that alcohol was keeping him from sustaining and completing which was disappointing to both of us.
3. Has your sex life become too vanilla? I'll avoid any specific recommendations but over time I've become more adventuresome which is exciting for both of us.

We are very, very wild.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, some terrible advice.

Have an honest conversation with him. He may be relieved to talk about the elephant in the room.

I am 42, and I had mild problems. Most of the time, I could perform, but sometimes I had trouble maintaining and finishing. I am in good shape, normal testosterone, but a little low on the thyroid. Point being, it could be an underlying medical issue and he should get a full panel done. But it could be just early aging down there - my doc said about 30% of men at age of 40 have issues and more than half by age 50.

I got on low dose cialis, and it really makes a huge difference. Erections are bigger, thicker but more importantly they are effortless so now we can both really enjoy sex without the pressure of worrying about something quitting on you. I think my wife knew something was off, it was actually awkward for me to suggest it, but I think she was thrilled that issue is out of the way.

Did you see your regular doc or a specialist?

Regular doc. He gave me the impression that erectile issues for men in their 40s was common.

[Anonymous]

My DH's doc told him it was by far the most common script he wrote.

[Anonymous]

Show him naked men and observe his penis

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

I think you be frank with him. That's tactful enough. Tell him to see a doctor for his enjoyment.


33 is young. Is he masturbating or watching porn to excess?

We had problems with porn use 10 years ago. I would like to say it isn't a problem now but who knows?

I bet it still is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three suggestions:

1. Have him see a doctor for a check up. 33 is young to have an ED problem but you never know.
2. Have him eliminate alcohol the nights you get together. When my DH reached 45 it became clear that alcohol was keeping him from sustaining and completing which was disappointing to both of us.
3. Has your sex life become too vanilla? I'll avoid any specific recommendations but over time I've become more adventuresome which is exciting for both of us.

We are very, very wild.

Awesome, but what about points 1 and 2.