How to bring up Viagra

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Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

This is a great question. My BF is older, but definitely could use some help to get to 100% instead of 75%. And I'd like 100% instead of 75%, too. Can I ask the guys here ... does your enjoyment increase when you can be at 100% erection, or is it just me?

I'm 63 and 100% is much better than 75%. The key for me is to avoid more than a minimal amount of alcohol. If I have a little too much it doesn't take long for me to realize I'm not going to be at 100%. If I've limited my intake I get there very quickly and mentally I'm fired up. I've never had the need for a pill. If your BF has a problem make sure he limits his alcohol intake.

This is very true with my husband and it happened around the time he reached 50 when an extra drink or two began to have a real effect on his ability. On a night when I want to initiate I just say one drink please and he stops on a dime. I bet it's pretty common with older men.

Same here and my DH is 58. If he has one drink too many he can get an erection but it doesn't take me long to know that he's not 100% and after almost 30 years I'm a pretty good judge of size. It ends up disappointing both of us so cutting back has been a very good thing.

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DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone.

Geez I thought my DW was the only one who did that.

My wife too! Definitely ruins the mood and makes it difficult to maintain.

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DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone.

Geez I thought my DW was the only one who did that.

My wife too! Definitely ruins the mood and makes it difficult to maintain.

Maybe your foreplay is so inadequate that she has plenty of opportunity to talk about the events of the day.

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DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone.

Geez I thought my DW was the only one who did that.

My wife too! Definitely ruins the mood and makes it difficult to maintain.

Maybe your foreplay is so inadequate that she has plenty of opportunity to talk about the events of the day.

She should STFU so he can think about foreplay instead of wanting to smother her with a pillow.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone.

Geez I thought my DW was the only one who did that.

My wife too! Definitely ruins the mood and makes it difficult to maintain.

Maybe your foreplay is so inadequate that she has plenty of opportunity to talk about the events of the day.

She should STFU so he can think about foreplay instead of wanting to smother her with a pillow.

+1

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DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone.

Geez I thought my DW was the only one who did that.

My wife too! Definitely ruins the mood and makes it difficult to maintain.

Maybe your foreplay is so inadequate that she has plenty of opportunity to talk about the events of the day.

She should STFU so he can think about foreplay instead of wanting to smother her with a pillow.

+1

Maybe they need to take some time to actually talk so she feels loved and valued. Then get onto the foreplay and sexy stuff.

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When I was 33 I used to wreck DW, usually several times. Somethings wrong here ...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone.

Geez I thought my DW was the only one who did that.

My wife too! Definitely ruins the mood and makes it difficult to maintain.

Maybe your foreplay is so inadequate that she has plenty of opportunity to talk about the events of the day.

She should STFU so he can think about foreplay instead of wanting to smother her with a pillow.

+1

Maybe they need to take some time to actually talk so she feels loved and valued. Then get onto the foreplay and sexy stuff.

Maybe she can talk about her day the other 167 hours that week and focus on him for a change for that one hour out of the week.

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Maybe he's gay, or has ADHD, or isn't attracted to your weight gain, or watches too much porn, or needs to do more around the house, or is a beta?

Either way, you should divorce him...or find an AP.

Does that cover everything?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone.

Geez I thought my DW was the only one who did that.

My wife too! Definitely ruins the mood and makes it difficult to maintain.

Maybe your foreplay is so inadequate that she has plenty of opportunity to talk about the events of the day.

She should STFU so he can think about foreplay instead of wanting to smother her with a pillow.

+1

Maybe they need to take some time to actually talk so she feels loved and valued. Then get onto the foreplay and sexy stuff.

Nobody's got time for that!!!

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My wife too! Definitely ruins the mood and makes it difficult to maintain.

Maybe your foreplay is so inadequate that she has plenty of opportunity to talk about the events of the day.

She should STFU so he can think about foreplay instead of wanting to smother her with a pillow.

+1

Maybe they need to take some time to actually talk so she feels loved and valued. Then get onto the foreplay and sexy stuff.

That was my wife’s explanation. Unfortunately, that type of conversation doesn’t really help with getting/maintaining an erection.

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ZachF wrote:It could be an early warning sign. He needs a physical to check his cholesterol, blood pressure, etc and overall fitness. If all is good, tell him you'd like to experiment with it. Maybe a 1/4 pill, see what it's like to be 16 again. If he tries it, he will probably be hooked from then on. Make it sound sexy, not like a failing and...

Did you really fing ask him if he's gay because of erectile issues? SMH

Um, some men are secretly gay. If she asked, it's probably because deep down she suspects.

Oh STFU with this stupid bullshit.

I know people who have been in this situation. The wife always suspected. Always. You'd never ask your husband if he's gay unless you had an inkling.

Nope. DP here. I asked my husband because of all the wives who never had an inkling and never bothered to ask. I didn't think he was and still don't think he is but I figured I would ask.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

I think you be frank with him. That's tactful enough. Tell him to see a doctor for his enjoyment.


33 is young. Is he masturbating or watching porn to excess?

We had problems with porn use 10 years ago. I would like to say it isn't a problem now but who knows?

I bet it still is

I bet it still is too. Check his browser history.

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Wow, how come you can’t bring it up? You’re married. Do you not normally bring up things in marriage. This is a big deal. I suggest you sit him down and discuss or otherwise seek out a new dick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

It can be difficult to stay hard if your partner isn't attractive.

You left out any description of yourself OP.