Missing college student in the Dominican Republic from Ashburn

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Anonymous wrote:This all seems strange. Everyone went on day trip but her? There is a lot missing. I also am now understanding the problems with the power outage at hotel. Power just went on around 3 am that morning. The power had been off for 24 hours so more people were not in their rooms because no AC. It also could have allowed someone to sneak in resort because it was dark. There will be so many theories to run down. I am holding out hope that she was kidnapped and maybe could still be alive.

She was not kidnapped. Only two scenarios here. She drowned or the gringo did something to her.

To her parents, she is more of an innocent, virtuous, pure, sweet victim if she was kidnapped into international human trafficking.

That scenario is more pleasant than:

- she got wasted out of her mind and possibly wanted to get laid, like the popular resort cocktail “s*x on the beach” - all of which would have been “dumb” decisions their “brilliant” daughter surely could not have made.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

Plenty of people on here let their kids go to beach week or have parties where they serve alcohol. A kid is sitting in Arlignton county jail right now after killing his friend from a drunk driving accident whole being so completely hammered and “supervising” a freshman high school party.

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Anonymous wrote:Teach your kids not to go to a third world county country for spring break and get wasted go swimming.

The problem is that's not really teachable. You can do you best to instruct a kid about a variety of risks but college students are naive, inexperienced, and impulsive. They rarely know how much alcohol they can handle and can make terrible decisions when under the influence and cognitively impaired. No matter what they've been told.

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There is a small chance she walked back to her room alone, when he was passed out drunk. Since the power was out and there was no security or functioning security camera, she may have been kidnapped. The fact that she had a drink or two probably made it easier. They should examine people in the resort in the event someone saw or heard something

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Anonymous wrote:allegedly the young man she was with was a lifeguard which makes it seem more suspect

No it really doesn’t. Drunk people in the water in the dark aren’t functioning like lifeguards. He is an American tourist about her age, in what way would he be involved in a trafficking ring operating through the DR? I empathize with her family but the simplest explanation is both were drunk- both swam- he was a stronger swimmer / not as drunk and made it back out of the ocean - she didn’t. He was disoriented and drunk and passed out and didn’t realize she hadn’t made it back out til he woke up after 9 am. Even then he could’ve assumed she did make it out and had already gone inside so he didn’t immediately alert anyone. It’s still tragic but this need to assume someone did it vs a terrible accident occurred is bizarre to me. Not everything is a true crime story.

I feel badly for the young man. He’s going to be scapegoated for this.

Either her or him could be ANY of our young adult kids on spring break. I can only imagine the terrible places her parents’ minds are going in the absence of a body, but those of us uninvolved and simply watching from home don’t need to start with the outlandish conspiracies and narratives about him lacking ANY proof that anything besides a tragic accident happened to a girl he literally just met.

+1000

Cautionary tale for all of our children.

Yes. I of course understand why the parents want all possibilities considered, even if it's almost certainly a case of poor judgment that could made by any young person on vacation.

I am certain her parents will never believe THEIR daughter was capable of “poor judgement.”

Maybe American slutty lower-class white girls make such poor decisions, but not their daughter. No.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

Plenty of people on here let their kids go to beach week or have parties where they serve alcohol. A kid is sitting in Arlignton county jail right now after killing his friend from a drunk driving accident whole being so completely hammered and “supervising” a freshman high school party.

Most parents DO NOT CONDONE this. I never did. My adult sons are very successful and never felt the need to get wasted. As my son is in medical school this is frowned upon.

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Anonymous wrote:This all seems strange. Everyone went on day trip but her? There is a lot missing. I also am now understanding the problems with the power outage at hotel. Power just went on around 3 am that morning. The power had been off for 24 hours so more people were not in their rooms because no AC. It also could have allowed someone to sneak in resort because it was dark. There will be so many theories to run down. I am holding out hope that she was kidnapped and maybe could still be alive.

She was not kidnapped. Only two scenarios here. She drowned or the gringo did something to her.

To her parents, she is more of an innocent, virtuous, pure, sweet victim if she was kidnapped into international human trafficking.

That scenario is more pleasant than:

- she got wasted out of her mind and possibly wanted to get laid, like the popular resort cocktail “s*x on the beach” - all of which would have been “dumb” decisions their “brilliant” daughter surely could not have made.

Yes, cognitive dissonance for them because they have entrenched cultural and generational views about their "perfect" daughter. I felt her dad's anguish when he said she was a "good girl." No doubt she was. But of course she was human, too, and a sexual being who wanted to desire and feel desired. And young, enjoying a brief space of freedom from the hard academic work she's been focused on as long as she can remember. I feel so sorry for her, wanting to be carefree and even a little wild, with such a tragic outcome. I agree with a PP this could have been any of our kids and we should all be feeling very grateful they're safe right now.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a small chance she walked back to her room alone, when he was passed out drunk. Since the power was out and there was no security or functioning security camera, she may have been kidnapped. The fact that she had a drink or two probably made it easier. They should examine people in the resort in the event someone saw or heard something

Having left her clothes on the beach chaise? Highly unlikely.

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How was there camera footage of the kids walking to the beach if the power was out?

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Anonymous wrote:According to this article, she very likely drowned. I don’t know why other news sources aren’t given more information.
https://abcnews.go.com/International/missing-univ-pittsburgh-student-believed-died-drowning-dominican/story?id=119617091

The story leaves out who the other person was that she went into the water with and whether they also drowned.

Was it one of her friends? Another guest at the hotel? A local?

A guy friend, shown in a video earlier that evening with his arm around her.

It was not a friend, she and her friends had met 2 tourists. No different than meeting strange men in US who may turn out to be dangerous.

What are you suggesting? Total seclusion and celibacy?
By your definition, my husband was a “strange man” when I first met him. Everyone’s was.

You can’t see any difference in the facts here? Stop the day drinking.

I'm with the PP. I met my hustband, a complete stranger, randomly at a festival.

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Anonymous wrote:This all seems strange. Everyone went on day trip but her? There is a lot missing. I also am now understanding the problems with the power outage at hotel. Power just went on around 3 am that morning. The power had been off for 24 hours so more people were not in their rooms because no AC. It also could have allowed someone to sneak in resort because it was dark. There will be so many theories to run down. I am holding out hope that she was kidnapped and maybe could still be alive.

She was not kidnapped. Only two scenarios here. She drowned or the gringo did something to her.

Nice casual use of a racial slur.

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Anonymous wrote:How was there camera footage of the kids walking to the beach if the power was out?

There was a back-up generator. So maybe limited power for essentials?

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I read they have an experience K-9 team looking for her. With her clothes left right there on the beach, wouldn't the dog indicate her scent goes to the water and ends there?

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

“Hey front desk, my friend was hooking up with a guy and they are passed out in his room. They can catch up with us at the local watering hole where we’ll be snorkeling. Ciao!”

But no one said they saw her come back to the hotel nor did they say she was seen in video footage coming back..right?

Did her friends know that at the time they took off for their excursion?

While my college years were obviously quite awhile ago….if a friend didn’t return at night (or wasn’t there in the AM) it would generally be assumed that they went home with a guy. For example the guy she had been hanging out with and swimming with. Or crashed in another friend’s room.

And if she didn’t show up for a scheduled excursion, the friends would’ve texted her but again- likely assumed she was still asleep or hungover.

It is understandable that the friends didn’t think much of it. IMO. As a 40-something mom obviously it all sounds horrifying but remembering back- this kind of thing happened all the time. And everyone was fine.

The pearl clutchers of DCUM can’t fathom this ever happening. They clearly never went on a fun spring break. But yeah, this is the most likely scenario

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

You don't know everything your children do. I am a very successful female adult, went to an Ivy, got great grades and never caused my parents any trouble. I didn't even drink for most of college. However, I made a ton of stupid naive mistakes in college that could've turned out poorly if things happened differently.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

Plenty of people on here let their kids go to beach week or have parties where they serve alcohol. A kid is sitting in Arlignton county jail right now after killing his friend from a drunk driving accident whole being so completely hammered and “supervising” a freshman high school party.

Most parents DO NOT CONDONE this. I never did. My adult sons are very successful and never felt the need to get wasted. As my son is in medical school this is frowned upon.