Can we analyze Ben Affleck?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh Ben, why so passive aggressive

https://people.com/jennifer-lopez-ben-affleck-divorce-potential-get-ugly-source-exclusive-8705566

“Ben began moving his things out of their shared home while Jennifer was in New York in April, effectively blindsiding her,” says the source, adding that when Lopez returned to L.A. in May “he wouldn’t answer texts or calls.”

https://www.tmz.com/2024/09/03/ben-affleck-annoyed-kick-kennedy-romance-rumors/

Sources with direct knowledge tell TMZ … Ben finds the narrative that he’s dating -- or even friends with -- Robert F. Kennedy Jr.'s daughter ludicrous and crazy.

Wow, that's horrible. That's his wife, not some meh first date.

The wife whom he gave a ring inscribed with “not going anywhere”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
So he ghosted Jen??

Yes. Ben left JLo for the second time in 20 years. She must be devastated after thinking he's "The One" and thinking the search is over for true love.

[Anonymous]

An interesting 1999 interview with Ben is resurfacing.

He says most of his exes despise him. He says it is because he is unhappy and passive in relationships and when he finally has enough, he just ghosts the partner one day and stops playing along. It seems his pattern of behavior hasn’t changed


https://www.oocities.org/affleck1971/playboy.html

PLAYBOY: Are other former girlfriends generally pissed off at you?
AFFLECK: Mostly, yeah.

PLAYBOY: Why?
AFFLECK: Probably justifiably so. If I were the next guy to go out with them I'm sure I would be nodding in agreement about what an a-hole their ex-boyfriend was. It's not like I was a womanizer or physically abusive or psychologically abusive or whatever. It's just that these relationships never end well. I think what happens is, I end up wanting to be out of the relationship. During the course of a relationship, if you get dissatisfied and unhappy and don't say something, if you don't deal with it right then, it just festers and stays there. So instead of saying, "Look, don't do that, please don't act this way," I go along with it until I just don't want to be in the relationship at all. Then I create some incident or do something or just don't call. And then she's pissed. And I can't necessarily blame her at that point since I've developed such a passive-aggressive rage that I have no sympathy and tell her, "Well of course I didn't call you. If you weren't such a nagging, shrewish harpy I'd call you." But that hopefully is something I'm growing out of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An interesting 1999 interview with Ben is resurfacing.

He says most of his exes despise him. He says it is because he is unhappy and passive in relationships and when he finally has enough, he just ghosts the partner one day and stops playing along. It seems his pattern of behavior hasn’t changed


https://www.oocities.org/affleck1971/playboy.html

PLAYBOY: Are other former girlfriends generally pissed off at you?
AFFLECK: Mostly, yeah.

PLAYBOY: Why?
AFFLECK: Probably justifiably so. If I were the next guy to go out with them I'm sure I would be nodding in agreement about what an a-hole their ex-boyfriend was. It's not like I was a womanizer or physically abusive or psychologically abusive or whatever. It's just that these relationships never end well. I think what happens is, I end up wanting to be out of the relationship. During the course of a relationship, if you get dissatisfied and unhappy and don't say something, if you don't deal with it right then, it just festers and stays there. So instead of saying, "Look, don't do that, please don't act this way," I go along with it until I just don't want to be in the relationship at all. Then I create some incident or do something or just don't call. And then she's pissed. And I can't necessarily blame her at that point since I've developed such a passive-aggressive rage that I have no sympathy and tell her, "Well of course I didn't call you. If you weren't such a nagging, shrewish harpy I'd call you." But that hopefully is something I'm growing out of.

LOL to think we’ve spent 40 pages analyzing Ben affleck, and he laid it all out there 25 years ago. Good detective work PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An interesting 1999 interview with Ben is resurfacing.

He says most of his exes despise him. He says it is because he is unhappy and passive in relationships and when he finally has enough, he just ghosts the partner one day and stops playing along. It seems his pattern of behavior hasn’t changed


https://www.oocities.org/affleck1971/playboy.html

PLAYBOY: Are other former girlfriends generally pissed off at you?
AFFLECK: Mostly, yeah.

PLAYBOY: Why?
AFFLECK: Probably justifiably so. If I were the next guy to go out with them I'm sure I would be nodding in agreement about what an a-hole their ex-boyfriend was. It's not like I was a womanizer or physically abusive or psychologically abusive or whatever. It's just that these relationships never end well. I think what happens is, I end up wanting to be out of the relationship. During the course of a relationship, if you get dissatisfied and unhappy and don't say something, if you don't deal with it right then, it just festers and stays there. So instead of saying, "Look, don't do that, please don't act this way," I go along with it until I just don't want to be in the relationship at all. Then I create some incident or do something or just don't call. And then she's pissed. And I can't necessarily blame her at that point since I've developed such a passive-aggressive rage that I have no sympathy and tell her, "Well of course I didn't call you. If you weren't such a nagging, shrewish harpy I'd call you." But that hopefully is something I'm growing out of.[/quote]

About that. I can't believe he ghosted his own wife! Do you guys think her kids were the one to tell Jlo he was moving his stuff out since they were staying there? How awful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An interesting 1999 interview with Ben is resurfacing.

He says most of his exes despise him. He says it is because he is unhappy and passive in relationships and when he finally has enough, he just ghosts the partner one day and stops playing along. It seems his pattern of behavior hasn’t changed


https://www.oocities.org/affleck1971/playboy.html

PLAYBOY: Are other former girlfriends generally pissed off at you?
AFFLECK: Mostly, yeah.

PLAYBOY: Why?
AFFLECK: Probably justifiably so. If I were the next guy to go out with them I'm sure I would be nodding in agreement about what an a-hole their ex-boyfriend was. It's not like I was a womanizer or physically abusive or psychologically abusive or whatever. It's just that these relationships never end well. I think what happens is, I end up wanting to be out of the relationship. During the course of a relationship, if you get dissatisfied and unhappy and don't say something, if you don't deal with it right then, it just festers and stays there. So instead of saying, "Look, don't do that, please don't act this way," I go along with it until I just don't want to be in the relationship at all. Then I create some incident or do something or just don't call. And then she's pissed. And I can't necessarily blame her at that point since I've developed such a passive-aggressive rage that I have no sympathy and tell her, "Well of course I didn't call you. If you weren't such a nagging, shrewish harpy I'd call you." But that hopefully is something I'm growing out of.[/quote]

About that. I can't believe he ghosted his own wife! Do you guys think her kids were the one to tell Jlo he was moving his stuff out since they were staying there? How awful

If he has alcoholism it means he never learned healthy coping skills. Change is hard work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An interesting 1999 interview with Ben is resurfacing.

He says most of his exes despise him. He says it is because he is unhappy and passive in relationships and when he finally has enough, he just ghosts the partner one day and stops playing along. It seems his pattern of behavior hasn’t changed


https://www.oocities.org/affleck1971/playboy.html

PLAYBOY: Are other former girlfriends generally pissed off at you?
AFFLECK: Mostly, yeah.

PLAYBOY: Why?
AFFLECK: Probably justifiably so. If I were the next guy to go out with them I'm sure I would be nodding in agreement about what an a-hole their ex-boyfriend was. It's not like I was a womanizer or physically abusive or psychologically abusive or whatever. It's just that these relationships never end well. I think what happens is, I end up wanting to be out of the relationship. During the course of a relationship, if you get dissatisfied and unhappy and don't say something, if you don't deal with it right then, it just festers and stays there. So instead of saying, "Look, don't do that, please don't act this way," I go along with it until I just don't want to be in the relationship at all. Then I create some incident or do something or just don't call. And then she's pissed. And I can't necessarily blame her at that point since I've developed such a passive-aggressive rage that I have no sympathy and tell her, "Well of course I didn't call you. If you weren't such a nagging, shrewish harpy I'd call you." But that hopefully is something I'm growing out of.

LOL to think we’ve spent 40 pages analyzing Ben affleck, and he laid it all out there 25 years ago. Good detective work PP.

+1 I'm amazed at his self awareness. Most guys wouldn't admit that they're passive aggressive and too wimpy to deal with an issue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An interesting 1999 interview with Ben is resurfacing.

He says most of his exes despise him. He says it is because he is unhappy and passive in relationships and when he finally has enough, he just ghosts the partner one day and stops playing along. It seems his pattern of behavior hasn’t changed


https://www.oocities.org/affleck1971/playboy.html

PLAYBOY: Are other former girlfriends generally pissed off at you?
AFFLECK: Mostly, yeah.

PLAYBOY: Why?
AFFLECK: Probably justifiably so. If I were the next guy to go out with them I'm sure I would be nodding in agreement about what an a-hole their ex-boyfriend was. It's not like I was a womanizer or physically abusive or psychologically abusive or whatever. It's just that these relationships never end well. I think what happens is, I end up wanting to be out of the relationship. During the course of a relationship, if you get dissatisfied and unhappy and don't say something, if you don't deal with it right then, it just festers and stays there. So instead of saying, "Look, don't do that, please don't act this way," I go along with it until I just don't want to be in the relationship at all. Then I create some incident or do something or just don't call. And then she's pissed. And I can't necessarily blame her at that point since I've developed such a passive-aggressive rage that I have no sympathy and tell her, "Well of course I didn't call you. If you weren't such a nagging, shrewish harpy I'd call you." But that hopefully is something I'm growing out of.

That adds context to what may have happened with JG as well: "When his sun shines on you, you feel it.' But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it's cold. He can cast quite a shadow"

[Anonymous]

Boy, JG looks like a frickin’ super hero for managing to keep him on track for 15 years or whatever it was. That much have been exhausting work. jL probably thoughtJG had fixed him when in fact she had just stuck him back together with tacky tape all these years.

[Anonymous]

Thank you to the poster who copied that interview. On the nose.

[Anonymous]

So he was living with her kids and basically ghosted her... ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So he was living with her kids and basically ghosted her... ?

Apparently so

[Anonymous]

To Ben’s credit, I’m sure it must have been strange to spend more time with his stepkids than his actual bio kids. He lived with J Los kids but was only a weekend dad to his own kids in the big mansion far more elaborate than Jennifer Garners home.

I am sure his kids commented on that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So he was living with her kids and basically ghosted her... ?

Apparently so

I live with teens in a normal suburban house and could probably move out with them noticing until they needed a ride somewhere or they couldn’t find their cleats. In a house that big with staff….they probably never saw him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sad F's. You know nothing about the emotional lives of these people. And they are people, not characters in your favorite soap opera.

You are saddos.

This is a great word. Saddos.