Is it ok to ask for baby clothing back if they are done with it?

[Anonymous]

My friend had a baby last year. I gave her all our baby items. I had a baby last month. We have most everything between gifts and hand me downs from other friends. I gave my friend a bunch of sleepsacks and comfortable baby clothing that I could use. DH thinks we should not ask. I don't think it would hurt. If she got rid of it already, it would be totally fine. I don't think it would hurt to ask. I don't want everything back. I just want the 3m sleepers and sleepsacks. If not, I will have to buy them again.

[Anonymous]

Don't ask. If she still had them, she may have offered.

[Anonymous]

No, absolutely not. You don't ask for a gift back. It would be nice if her to say hey, do you want this back, but after two babies, I'd suspect it would be kind of gross. You will put her in a subset awkward postion if you ask and she doesn't have it anymore. She might feel obligated to go out and replace it.

[Anonymous]

Unless you "gave" telling her you'd want them back - do not! I personally would have boxed up any given under those circumstance and returned asap as I would feel totally obligated to buy new any stained/faded. More than likely - if you see her - she will offer to return anything still OK and also get you some nice new outfits or other hand me downs form her kids

[Anonymous]

Do you really think this stuff would have wear in it after two babies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you really think this stuff would have wear in it after two babies?

+1

I thought all of DD1's 0-3 stuff was in great shape until I got it out to wash for DD2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you really think this stuff would have wear in it after two babies?

Not op, but yes. I've had the same sleep sacks for 6 years and have used them for all 3 of my kids. many of the same clothes too that weren't pooped or vomit stained. That said, I wouldn't ask for them back I had a friend give me a lot of her baby stuff when she thought she was done having kids. she then had an unexpected pregnancy when my LO was about 6 months, i gave her back what was still in usable condition and then just bought her a nice gift, but i think it would have been strange if she actually asked for it back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless you "gave" telling her you'd want them back - do not! I personally would have boxed up any given under those circumstance and returned asap as I would feel totally obligated to buy new any stained/faded. More than likely - if you see her - she will offer to return anything still OK and also get you some nice new outfits or other hand me downs form her kids

This. Both of my sisters have given me clothing from their kids with the instructions they don't want them back but I'm never allowed to get rid of them. So I don't use the clothes, they're boxed up ready to go into storage because I can't be bothered keeping track of what came from who and treating baby clothing like precious heirlooms.

[Anonymous]

Why would you give baby stuff away when you're not done having kids?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't ask back. However in my circle we all lent a ton of baby clothes from fiend to friend and some things are totally fine and are on their 3-4 baby. I've gotten everything back except a couple super stained pieces. Things I don't want to not come back I don't give away.

[Anonymous]

If she still had them why wouldn't she offer them? That said I wouldn't ask and make her feel awkward or uncomfortable that she got rid of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend had a baby last year. I gave her all our baby items. I had a baby last month. We have most everything between gifts and hand me downs from other friends. I gave my friend a bunch of sleepsacks and comfortable baby clothing that I could use. DH thinks we should not ask. I don't think it would hurt. If she got rid of it already, it would be totally fine. I don't think it would hurt to ask. I don't want everything back. I just want the 3m sleepers and sleepsacks. If not, I will have to buy them again.

OMG. No - your DH is right. Did you give them back to her and say that you wanted them back after she was done? I agree with PPs - I would have never used the stuff if you are lending - too much hassle. In the future, do not give stuff out that you want back. It creates nothing but hassle for everyone involved.

[Anonymous]

No, unless it was clear they were on loan.

Btw, someone (a relative) did this to my sister after her first born. So she just gave everything that person gave her back. She was very offended.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on you social circle. I definitely returned maternity clothing and other things made their way around the neighborhood and back between babies. You know your relationship...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, unless it was clear they were on loan.

Btw, someone (a relative) did this to my sister after her first born. So she just gave everything that person gave her back. She was very offended.

I don't want everything back, just a few sleepsacks.

I should add that the sleepsacks I gave to her were from my son. She had a boy last year. I had a girl last month. The sleepers and sleepsacks I gave her are neutral or blue. I just gave her six bags of boy clothes last week. I am not going to want the other boy clothes back for my daughter.

I guess I will just go out and buy some new sleepsacks. No big deal.