Having a hard time being friendly to neighbor

[Anonymous]

My neighbor had a "LOCK HER UP" sign in her window about a week before the election. Before she put that up, we were very friendly with each other, but since that went up, I've had a really hard time being neighborly. We used to chat a few times a week, but now I really don't want to engage. Before that sign went up, I would never have pegged her for a Trump supporter.

I have other neighbors who supported Trump, and I can still pretend to be friendly with them, but the whole "lock her up" thing really got to me. Locking up political opposition is what they do in countries without truly free democracies.

We run into each other multiple times a week. How do I get over this?

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that thinking Hillary did something worth being locked up over is NOT the same as being a Trump supporter. I disliked both of them and didn't vote for either one. You'd probably assume I'm a Trumper since I didn't vote for Clinton. Not true.

I also don't get what people think she did that was worth locking her up over but really, you need to separate anti-hillary from pro-trump. They're not the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep in mind that thinking Hillary did something worth being locked up over is NOT the same as being a Trump supporter. I disliked both of them and didn't vote for either one. You'd probably assume I'm a Trumper since I didn't vote for Clinton. Not true.

I also don't get what people think she did that was worth locking her up over but really, you need to separate anti-hillary from pro-trump. They're not the same.

She put balloons up in her window when he won. They were there for a week.

[Anonymous]

Can you have a conversation with this neighbor to find out exactly what they think she did to deserve jail? Just find out what the thinking is. That will help you I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you have a conversation with this neighbor to find out exactly what they think she did to deserve jail? Just find out what the thinking is. That will help you I think.

It was the emails. Part of it was that she didn't understand how the FBI could review all of the emails from Anthony Weiner's computer in a week. I knew she wouldn't listen if I tried explaining that it's easy to weed out duplicates...

[Anonymous]

She's a fool. Just cut her off and move on. There is no need to be friendly with her.

[Anonymous]

This seems relatively minor. And, I voted for Hilary and am very anti-Trump. You don't have to be best friends, but there is little to be gained from being unfriendly to a neighbor in this case. I wish the only objectionable thing that my neighbor did was vote against what I believe. There are worse things a neighbor could do that would justify being unfriendly.

[Anonymous]

NP here. I am finding it hard to continue relationships with friends and family who voted for Trump. My spouse is a Latino immigrant who was brought here without papers as a child. That's all long-since straightened out, but every time I see these people I think, you secretly think my spouse is a murderer/rapist or that they should "go back." Even if they think Trump's position on Latino immigration were flawed, they are still willing to endorse a person who has those opinions. Further, none of them has ever told me they don't agree with that part of his platform or opinions. The silence is deafening. Hard to avoid the conclusion that they agree.

I don't think I will ever be able to look at them in the same way. All trust is gone. So, I steer clear now. It's sad.

[Anonymous]

I haven't spoken to two of my neighbors in 8 years.

[Anonymous]

It's OK to just be civil or avoid her. That's probably what I'd do. I

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am finding it hard to continue relationships with friends and family who voted for Trump. My spouse is a Latino immigrant who was brought here without papers as a child. That's all long-since straightened out, but every time I see these people I think, you secretly think my spouse is a murderer/rapist or that they should "go back." Even if they think Trump's position on Latino immigration were flawed, they are still willing to endorse a person who has those opinions. Further, none of them has ever told me they don't agree with that part of his platform or opinions. The silence is deafening. Hard to avoid the conclusion that they agree.

I don't think I will ever be able to look at them in the same way. All trust is gone. So, I steer clear now. It's sad.

+1 Yes, it's the failure to denounce the horrible inhumane parts of his platform, of his alt-right supporters, I can't tolerate. I can agree to disagree on basic policy differences, but this is a far different kettle of fish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am finding it hard to continue relationships with friends and family who voted for Trump. My spouse is a Latino immigrant who was brought here without papers as a child. That's all long-since straightened out, but every time I see these people I think, you secretly think my spouse is a murderer/rapist or that they should "go back." Even if they think Trump's position on Latino immigration were flawed, they are still willing to endorse a person who has those opinions. Further, none of them has ever told me they don't agree with that part of his platform or opinions. The silence is deafening. Hard to avoid the conclusion that they agree.

I don't think I will ever be able to look at them in the same way. All trust is gone. So, I steer clear now. It's sad.

It is probably best for them that you steer clear.
You sound a bit wacky and you presume the worst of people. Not a good way to go through life.

[Anonymous]

Around Halloween time one of my closest friends at work was going around showing a picture of the jack o lantern her daughter made because she thought it was hilarious. She had carved Hillary behind bars into the pumpkin. Not only did I think it wasn't funny at all, but it was pretty inappropriate to be showing at work. So I had two reasons to question her judgement and I had a hard time recovering from that so now I'm cordial but can't really bring myself to be warm and fuzzy with her anymore.

[Anonymous]

This election has definitely brought out the worst in people. Why can't you try to be a decent kind person and "go high" as Michelle Obama advised. i hope for your community that you don't raise your children to surround themselves by only similarly-minded people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep in mind that thinking Hillary did something worth being locked up over is NOT the same as being a Trump supporter. I disliked both of them and didn't vote for either one. You'd probably assume I'm a Trumper since I didn't vote for Clinton. Not true.

I also don't get what people think she did that was worth locking her up over but really, you need to separate anti-hillary from pro-trump. They're not the same.

She put balloons up in her window when he won. They were there for a week.

I'll be her friend!