Having a hard time being friendly to neighbor

[Anonymous]

OP, I didn't read all of the responses.

You don't have to be friends with her. Just be polite and leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

JFC. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

There are some opinion pieces going around lately on how important it is not to become a divided country- one comes to mind that was in the Washington post on how Venezuela is still divided after Chavez's legacy- sorry I couldn't find to post but maybe someone else will chime in with a link. It was very helpful for me. Don't buy into the "us vs them" mentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This election has definitely brought out the worst in people. Why can't you try to be a decent kind person and "go high" as Michelle Obama advised. i hope for your community that you don't raise your children to surround themselves by only similarly-minded people.

Again, I can feign niceness to some Trump supporters. It's the "lock her up" nonsense that really gets to me. I am perfectly capable of having thoughtful discussions with those I disagree with, but this is a particularly authoritarian tactic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am finding it hard to continue relationships with friends and family who voted for Trump. My spouse is a Latino immigrant who was brought here without papers as a child. That's all long-since straightened out, but every time I see these people I think, you secretly think my spouse is a murderer/rapist or that they should "go back." Even if they think Trump's position on Latino immigration were flawed, they are still willing to endorse a person who has those opinions. Further, none of them has ever told me they don't agree with that part of his platform or opinions. The silence is deafening. Hard to avoid the conclusion that they agree.

I don't think I will ever be able to look at them in the same way. All trust is gone. So, I steer clear now. It's sad.

+1 Yes, it's the failure to denounce the horrible inhumane parts of his platform, of his alt-right supporters, I can't tolerate. I can agree to disagree on basic policy differences, but this is a far different kettle of fish.

+2 I'd rather not spend my time with anyone who supports him. This is a moral issue, not a political one. I've voted republican most of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am finding it hard to continue relationships with friends and family who voted for Trump. My spouse is a Latino immigrant who was brought here without papers as a child. That's all long-since straightened out, but every time I see these people I think, you secretly think my spouse is a murderer/rapist or that they should "go back." Even if they think Trump's position on Latino immigration were flawed, they are still willing to endorse a person who has those opinions. Further, none of them has ever told me they don't agree with that part of his platform or opinions. The silence is deafening. Hard to avoid the conclusion that they agree.

I don't think I will ever be able to look at them in the same way. All trust is gone. So, I steer clear now. It's sad.

+1 Yes, it's the failure to denounce the horrible inhumane parts of his platform, of his alt-right supporters, I can't tolerate. I can agree to disagree on basic policy differences, but this is a far different kettle of fish.

+2 I'd rather not spend my time with anyone who supports him. This is a moral issue, not a political one. I've voted republican most of my life.

Not spending time with those whose political views offend you is one thing, but being unfriendly in a neighborhood setting is another. Have fun at the block party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am finding it hard to continue relationships with friends and family who voted for Trump. My spouse is a Latino immigrant who was brought here without papers as a child. That's all long-since straightened out, but every time I see these people I think, you secretly think my spouse is a murderer/rapist or that they should "go back." Even if they think Trump's position on Latino immigration were flawed, they are still willing to endorse a person who has those opinions. Further, none of them has ever told me they don't agree with that part of his platform or opinions. The silence is deafening. Hard to avoid the conclusion that they agree.

I don't think I will ever be able to look at them in the same way. All trust is gone. So, I steer clear now. It's sad.

+1 Yes, it's the failure to denounce the horrible inhumane parts of his platform, of his alt-right supporters, I can't tolerate. I can agree to disagree on basic policy differences, but this is a far different kettle of fish.

+2 I'd rather not spend my time with anyone who supports him. This is a moral issue, not a political one. I've voted republican most of my life.

Not spending time with those whose political views offend you is one thing, but being unfriendly in a neighborhood setting is another. Have fun at the block party.

No one above says they would be overtly unfriendly. Every single pp says that would steer clear.

Good job taking the animosity to the next level though. Seriously, do you even see what you just did?

[Anonymous]

Just say hi and move on. No need to shun her, no need to be her best buddy. You are neighbors by chance and may or may not have one single thing in common. Be polite but move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say hi and move on. No need to shun her, no need to be her best buddy. You are neighbors by chance and may or may not have one single thing in common. Be polite but move on.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep in mind that thinking Hillary did something worth being locked up over is NOT the same as being a Trump supporter. I disliked both of them and didn't vote for either one. You'd probably assume I'm a Trumper since I didn't vote for Clinton. Not true.

I also don't get what people think she did that was worth locking her up over but really, you need to separate anti-hillary from pro-trump. They're not the same.

Bingo.

Reason and rational thought does not work on dcum.

[Anonymous]

OP here - what I forgot to say in my original post is that she still wants to have long conversations with me. I've successfully avoided her for a few months, but as the weather gets better she will be impossible to avoid.

[Anonymous]

No room for that type of crazy person in my life, OP. Smile and say hello, but don't engage otherwise. No loss whatsoever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am finding it hard to continue relationships with friends and family who voted for Trump. My spouse is a Latino immigrant who was brought here without papers as a child. That's all long-since straightened out, but every time I see these people I think, you secretly think my spouse is a murderer/rapist or that they should "go back." Even if they think Trump's position on Latino immigration were flawed, they are still willing to endorse a person who has those opinions. Further, none of them has ever told me they don't agree with that part of his platform or opinions. The silence is deafening. Hard to avoid the conclusion that they agree.

I don't think I will ever be able to look at them in the same way. All trust is gone. So, I steer clear now. It's sad.

As a non-Clinton supporting, conservative, first-generation American I assure you that I do not think the bolded. Those that feel this way are not shy in expressing it. It's a shame that a vast majority of liberals are of the impression that if you didn't support Hillary or Bernie then you are certainly a racist bigot. This is simply not the case and this closed-minded, I can't be friends with people who don't think Hillary is the second coming of christ nonsense is equally as repugnant.

[Anonymous]

Get an appropriate sign for your property. "Hate has no home here" "We welcome immigrants as our neighbors" or whatever is out there. Then she will have some information about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am finding it hard to continue relationships with friends and family who voted for Trump. My spouse is a Latino immigrant who was brought here without papers as a child. That's all long-since straightened out, but every time I see these people I think, you secretly think my spouse is a murderer/rapist or that they should "go back." Even if they think Trump's position on Latino immigration were flawed, they are still willing to endorse a person who has those opinions. Further, none of them has ever told me they don't agree with that part of his platform or opinions. The silence is deafening. Hard to avoid the conclusion that they agree.

I don't think I will ever be able to look at them in the same way. All trust is gone. So, I steer clear now. It's sad.

As a non-Clinton supporting, conservative, first-generation American I assure you that I do not think the bolded. Those that feel this way are not shy in expressing it. It's a shame that a vast majority of liberals are of the impression that if you didn't support Hillary or Bernie then you are certainly a racist bigot. This is simply not the case and this closed-minded, I can't be friends with people who don't think Hillary is the second coming of christ nonsense is equally as repugnant.

I am a Hillary supporter who hasn't met anyone who thought Clinton was the second coming of Christ. ( unlike Trump supporters who thought only he could solve all of our problems and make America GREAT!) We acknowledge her flaws as a human but, she would have been a saner president.