Husband's Lack of Worry Re: Trump

[Anonymous]

So ... my husband is a pretty laid back guy, very little phases him. Generally a good thing, and definitely one of the reasons I married him. He, however, doesn't seem to care or worry about or even really acknowledge that Trump's policies are detrimental to this country. He's a very caring guy towards me, but doesn't seem to care about people beyond myself and his family and close friends. It's really really disappointing to see this. I have actually found myself less attracted to him lately. Any advice on how to get over this? We just got married last year.

[Anonymous]

You're the insane one. Get on meds. SSRIs probably.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you should have an affair with a social justice warrior. See if that gets him out of his stupid trance. If it doesn't, you've got other issues, chief.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a great guy. You better get over this quickly before you annoy the hell out of him.

[Anonymous]

Any mention of Trump draws out the trolls.

Maybe your husband is in denial? Mine sure is.

[Anonymous]

I would question the intelligence of someone who isn't worried about Trump.

[Anonymous]

Ignore PP.

You say he doesn't "seem" to care, which suggests that the two of you have different ways of processing emotion. The fact that he does not express his feeling about issues at all or the same way you do does not mean his mind and heart are not in the right place.

He also may be the type who sees your reaction and feels the need to counter balance it to reach equilibrium. This can lead to misunderstanding. Have a discussion about this dynamic in your discussions.

[Anonymous]

This better?

[Anonymous]

Hmm. My husband is very self-centered, only cares about himself, and the kids and I as extensions of himself. So naturally he could care less about Trump's impact on the world, except in the future when it hits him that some new executive order or whatnot has impacted him our family directly.

[Anonymous]

My husband voted for Trump! Oh wait, so did I.

Suck it, liberals! You lost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband voted for Trump! Oh wait, so did I.

Suck it, liberals! You lost.

Please tell that to the babies (literally babies!) getting detained at airports. You're a selfish monster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore PP.

You say he doesn't "seem" to care, which suggests that the two of you have different ways of processing emotion. The fact that he does not express his feeling about issues at all or the same way you do does not mean his mind and heart are not in the right place.

He also may be the type who sees your reaction and feels the need to counter balance it to reach equilibrium. This can lead to misunderstanding. Have a discussion about this dynamic in your discussions.

+1

I think this is spot on.

[Anonymous]

My husband is like this too. We've been married 12 years. I just stopped reading these headlines to him. It's sad because I think I need to talk some of this out, but he's not going to be bothered until it affects him directly (we are Muslim Americans).

[Anonymous]

Please, PP. don't be a jerk.

But seriously OP, you need to stop basing sex on politics and whether your husband is fervent enough about your political positions. That is so wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband voted for Trump! Oh wait, so did I.

Suck it, liberals! You lost.

Well at least one person had an articulate and mature response.