Why are so many women here so angry with / resentful toward women who stay home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care what other people do. I did absolutely hate the two years my wife didn't work because she complained constantly, realized she hated being home full time, went into a deep depression (which she was resistant to treating for six awful months), kind of sucked at the job, and nearly drove us into divorce. That was awful.

We are a zillion times happier with both of us working. Yes, it's hectic, but we both pitch in and do our part to make the machine that is our lives run smoothly.

Other people? Do you.

I was the wife who,felt this way. Being a sah is so far from the nirvana some have described in this thread. If it works for you, have at it. It is a temporary phase for many. Both sides are at fault for stirring up resentment on this thread, but the bring a sah is just so fun posts that I find irritating. If your love it,great. Some don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is that women's options have advanced far more quickly than children have evolved. Children are still born completely helpless and need high quality supervision (almost) 24/7 for the next five years. I quit working because I felt
Like I was
The only person who would be able to give our kids high quality, loving care. Sure a nanny is going to like your kid, but no one can be paid to love. Sure, your high-cost daycare
Promises a lot, but all the people who work there are poorly educated and just looking for a job.

Until we start holding childcare to the same education standards that we hold to ourselves, well educated women and men will be dropping out of the with the workforce
To raise their children.

Why didn't your husband stop working instead ?

Mine did. He is an awesome awesome dad and I have my career. It is great

Many SAHdads get slammed for being home. I would think it's really hard, but good for you guys. I couldn't do it.

I hope you are showing him a lot of love and appreciation = BJs, frequent sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care what other people do. I did absolutely hate the two years my wife didn't work because she complained constantly, realized she hated being home full time, went into a deep depression (which she was resistant to treating for six awful months), kind of sucked at the job, and nearly drove us into divorce. That was awful.

We are a zillion times happier with both of us working. Yes, it's hectic, but we both pitch in and do our part to make the machine that is our lives run smoothly.

Other people? Do you.

I was the wife who,felt this way. Being a sah is so far from the nirvana some have described in this thread. If it works for you, have at it. It is a temporary phase for many. Both sides are at fault for stirring up resentment on this thread, but the bring a sah is just so fun posts that I find irritating. If your love it,great. Some don't.

Being a SAH to toddlers, in our case 3 of them at a time, is easily the hardest job I've ever had. I always laugh when I hear people suggest it's easy and a cush life. News flash: My work day does not begin at 9, and it doesn't end at 5, and it sometimes doesn't even end in the middle of the night. But I wouldn't trade this job for anything in the world

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that women's options have advanced far more quickly than children have evolved. Children are still born completely helpless and need high quality supervision (almost) 24/7 for the next five years. I quit working because I felt
Like I was
The only person who would be able to give our kids high quality, loving care. Sure a nanny is going to like your kid, but no one can be paid to love. Sure, your high-cost daycare
Promises a lot, but all the people who work there are poorly educated and just looking for a job.

Until we start holding childcare to the same education standards that we hold to ourselves, well educated women and men will be dropping out of the with the workforce
To raise their children.

Why didn't your husband stop working instead ?

We can live off of his salary, we wouldn't be able to live off of mine. If he was an artist and I was a lawyer, he would stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care what other people do. I did absolutely hate the two years my wife didn't work because she complained constantly, realized she hated being home full time, went into a deep depression (which she was resistant to treating for six awful months), kind of sucked at the job, and nearly drove us into divorce. That was awful.

We are a zillion times happier with both of us working. Yes, it's hectic, but we both pitch in and do our part to make the machine that is our lives run smoothly.

Other people? Do you.

I was the wife who,felt this way. Being a sah is so far from the nirvana some have described in this thread. If it works for you, have at it. It is a temporary phase for many. Both sides are at fault for stirring up resentment on this thread, but the bring a sah is just so fun posts that I find irritating. If your love it,great. Some don't.

Being a SAH to toddlers, in our case 3 of them at a time, is easily the hardest job I've ever had. I always laugh when I hear people suggest it's easy and a cush life. News flash: My work day does not begin at 9, and it doesn't end at 5, and it sometimes doesn't even end in the middle of the night. But I wouldn't trade this job for anything in the world

PS if you're a working mom, you also work 24/7. The difference is I had to get up and get dressed and learn to function at the office on no sleep, and SAHMs don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care what other people do. I did absolutely hate the two years my wife didn't work because she complained constantly, realized she hated being home full time, went into a deep depression (which she was resistant to treating for six awful months), kind of sucked at the job, and nearly drove us into divorce. That was awful.

We are a zillion times happier with both of us working. Yes, it's hectic, but we both pitch in and do our part to make the machine that is our lives run smoothly.

Other people? Do you.

I was the wife who,felt this way. Being a sah is so far from the nirvana some have described in this thread. If it works for you, have at it. It is a temporary phase for many. Both sides are at fault for stirring up resentment on this thread, but the bring a sah is just so fun posts that I find irritating. If your love it,great. Some don't.

Being a SAH to toddlers, in our case 3 of them at a time, is easily the hardest job I've ever had. I always laugh when I hear people suggest it's easy and a cush life. News flash: My work day does not begin at 9, and it doesn't end at 5, and it sometimes doesn't even end in the middle of the night. But I wouldn't trade this job for anything in the world

PS if you're a working mom, you also work 24/7. The difference is I had to get up and get dressed and learn to function at the office on no sleep, and SAHMs don't.

And yet, you found time to comment on an anonymous board. Doesn't sound like you're working 24/7 to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care what other people do. I did absolutely hate the two years my wife didn't work because she complained constantly, realized she hated being home full time, went into a deep depression (which she was resistant to treating for six awful months), kind of sucked at the job, and nearly drove us into divorce. That was awful.

We are a zillion times happier with both of us working. Yes, it's hectic, but we both pitch in and do our part to make the machine that is our lives run smoothly.

Other people? Do you.

I was the wife who,felt this way. Being a sah is so far from the nirvana some have described in this thread. If it works for you, have at it. It is a temporary phase for many. Both sides are at fault for stirring up resentment on this thread, but the bring a sah is just so fun posts that I find irritating. If your love it,great. Some don't.

Being a SAH to toddlers, in our case 3 of them at a time, is easily the hardest job I've ever had. I always laugh when I hear people suggest it's easy and a cush life. News flash: My work day does not begin at 9, and it doesn't end at 5, and it sometimes doesn't even end in the middle of the night. But I wouldn't trade this job for anything in the world

PS if you're a working mom, you also work 24/7. The difference is I had to get up and get dressed and learn to function at the office on no sleep, and SAHMs don't.

Seriously. Do people think that WOHMs don't get up in the middle of the night with their kids? Or that at 5 we just start relaxation time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just need to as a society stop investing resources into women who only want to be SAHMs.

So you prefer that the people who watch your babies all day be uneducated? Because If SAHM don't deserve education, nannies and the like surely don't either. Why don't you run that by your kids nanny/aupair/daycare workers and see if they go for it?

There are very few of them that attended college. Most people that attend college want to be paid more. There isn't a need to attend college to do these jobs.

Really?

I don't know a single SAHM who didn't attend college. Many in my circle even went to graduate school, but I can't think of even one mom who doesn't have a college degree.

[Anonymous]

Wow OP why do you and any other adults care about what other people think? Like someone said earlier..."do you'. Who cares what someone else does? To each his own. If some women want to stay home ...great. Others don't want to but have children w/ special needs and have no choice. Others want to work outside of the home. One size does not fit all and it would be boring if it did

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care what other people do. I did absolutely hate the two years my wife didn't work because she complained constantly, realized she hated being home full time, went into a deep depression (which she was resistant to treating for six awful months), kind of sucked at the job, and nearly drove us into divorce. That was awful.

We are a zillion times happier with both of us working. Yes, it's hectic, but we both pitch in and do our part to make the machine that is our lives run smoothly.

Other people? Do you.

I was the wife who,felt this way. Being a sah is so far from the nirvana some have described in this thread. If it works for you, have at it. It is a temporary phase for many. Both sides are at fault for stirring up resentment on this thread, but the bring a sah is just so fun posts that I find irritating. If your love it,great. Some don't.

Being a SAH to toddlers, in our case 3 of them at a time, is easily the hardest job I've ever had. I always laugh when I hear people suggest it's easy and a cush life. News flash: My work day does not begin at 9, and it doesn't end at 5, and it sometimes doesn't even end in the middle of the night. But I wouldn't trade this job for anything in the world

PS if you're a working mom, you also work 24/7. The difference is I had to get up and get dressed and learn to function at the office on no sleep, and SAHMs don't.

That's one difference. The other is that you don't raise your kids for most of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I literally see women here saying women who stay home are traitors to womanhood. Is DC really this stressful?

Because most people don't have the choice. Duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is such a weird place. In real life, I don't know anyone who is resentful toward women who stay at home.

Where do you live?

I think the resentment comes from women who are unable to make that choice. Many would probably like to be sahms themselves. Sour grapes.

[Anonymous]

If I'm being honest, I am a bit jealous of them. I wish my DH made enough so I could stay home and be involved with my kids' school etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that women's options have advanced far more quickly than children have evolved. Children are still born completely helpless and need high quality supervision (almost) 24/7 for the next five years. I quit working because I felt
Like I was
The only person who would be able to give our kids high quality, loving care. Sure a nanny is going to like your kid, but no one can be paid to love. Sure, your high-cost daycare
Promises a lot, but all the people who work there are poorly educated and just looking for a job.

Until we start holding childcare to the same education standards that we hold to ourselves, well educated women and men will be dropping out of the with the workforce
To raise their children.

Why didn't your husband stop working instead ?

Mine did. He is an awesome awesome dad and I have my career. It is great

Many SAHdads get slammed for being home. I would think it's really hard, but good for you guys. I couldn't do it.

I hope you are showing him a lot of love and appreciation = BJs, frequent sex.

Yeah! Work all day and blow jobs all night! Sounds great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care what other people do. I did absolutely hate the two years my wife didn't work because she complained constantly, realized she hated being home full time, went into a deep depression (which she was resistant to treating for six awful months), kind of sucked at the job, and nearly drove us into divorce. That was awful.

We are a zillion times happier with both of us working. Yes, it's hectic, but we both pitch in and do our part to make the machine that is our lives run smoothly.

Other people? Do you.

I was the wife who,felt this way. Being a sah is so far from the nirvana some have described in this thread. If it works for you, have at it. It is a temporary phase for many. Both sides are at fault for stirring up resentment on this thread, but the bring a sah is just so fun posts that I find irritating. If your love it,great. Some don't.

Being a SAH to toddlers, in our case 3 of them at a time, is easily the hardest job I've ever had. I always laugh when I hear people suggest it's easy and a cush life. News flash: My work day does not begin at 9, and it doesn't end at 5, and it sometimes doesn't even end in the middle of the night. But I wouldn't trade this job for anything in the world

PS if you're a working mom, you also work 24/7. The difference is I had to get up and get dressed and learn to function at the office on no sleep, and SAHMs don't.

And yet, you found time to comment on an anonymous board. Doesn't sound like you're working 24/7 to me.

YOU JERK everyone has a lunchbreak or needs down time I work 80 hours a week and order things for my babies on Amazon at 3am.

How dare you. I work because I have to so I resent SAHMs but respect them