If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?

[Anonymous]

If so, what are they? One of my regrets was not going to counseling.

[Anonymous]

My regret was not hearing the real message but rather listening to the words.

Me: I want kids
Him: Me too. Someday.

Someday meant never and when pushed he finally admitted that he hoped I would let it go. We've been divorced 15 years now. I've got 2 kids and he still has none.

[Anonymous]

I regret not going to counseling on my own, earlier.

[Anonymous]

If I had been more self aware may not have gotten marrried. Or may have been able to flag issues and exit earlier

[Anonymous]

I regret not putting more of a priority on the marriage itself. It was bottom of the totem pole after a full time job, kids, pets, household chores, etc. It didn't help that my ex didn't do anything around the house so it all fell to me. He's now a perfect partner to someone else (cooks, cleans, attentive, etc- all the things he wasn't in the marriage).

[Anonymous]

I regret leaving and then taking him back when my daughter was born. He was a piece of work.

[Anonymous]

Heaven would be a chance to try to do it all again better with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I regret not putting more of a priority on the marriage itself. It was bottom of the totem pole after a full time job, kids, pets, household chores, etc. It didn't help that my ex didn't do anything around the house so it all fell to me. He's now a perfect partner to someone else (cooks, cleans, attentive, etc- all the things he wasn't in the marriage).

He either learned from your marriage to him, or he loves her more, or she gives him more sex.

[Anonymous]

I regret marrying him every single day, but he is a great dad so at least my kids have an awesome father.

I should have paid attention to all the red flags and listened to my best friend who told me how incompatible we are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regret not putting more of a priority on the marriage itself. It was bottom of the totem pole after a full time job, kids, pets, household chores, etc. It didn't help that my ex didn't do anything around the house so it all fell to me. He's now a perfect partner to someone else (cooks, cleans, attentive, etc- all the things he wasn't in the marriage).

He either learned from your marriage to him, or he loves her more, or she gives him more sex.

This is such a nasty thing to say. Why are you trying to hurt a stranger? GTH

[Anonymous]

I regret not losing 20 pounds.

[Anonymous]

I regret agreeing to go to counseling when I knew that I just wanted out. Nothing would have changed my mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regret not putting more of a priority on the marriage itself. It was bottom of the totem pole after a full time job, kids, pets, household chores, etc. It didn't help that my ex didn't do anything around the house so it all fell to me. He's now a perfect partner to someone else (cooks, cleans, attentive, etc- all the things he wasn't in the marriage).

He either learned from your marriage to him, or he loves her more, or she gives him more sex.

This is such a nasty thing to say. Why are you trying to hurt a stranger? GTH

Agree. It is sick

[Anonymous]

I regret not begging (yes begging) to try again. I think that would have helped. Fast forward 25 years I am now recalling things that he said that I should have heard a different way.

[Anonymous]

The only regret I have is not leaving sooner.