If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?

[Anonymous]

Two weeks before an elaborate wedding that we were paying for, I received a collection of letters in the mail from her previous BF that my fiance had sent to him while we were dating. They were hand-written and somewhat intimate. I confronted DF and explained that I only wanted to be married once and that if we divorced that getting married to her would be the worst mistake of my life. She said it was all a misunderstanding and that her BF was just jealous and trying to undermine our happiness. We went through with the wedding, but divorced 4 yrs later. She's still alone. I love my DW of 6 yrs.

[Anonymous]

No, I do not have regrets, because I tried being the best partner possible, and always gave love. In the end, it was not enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regret not losing 20 pounds.

20 lbs should not be a marriage-breaker.

It is, women should be thin

[Anonymous]

Ultimately no regrets.

Sometimes I regret having kids with him because he is their dad forever. He's an abusive ass and the pain of the years I spent in an awful marriage is intense but I learned a lot in the process and healed a lot in myself as well. The older the kids got, the more of him they experienced and I regret that they went through the things they did.

I love my kids dearly and currently have full custody but sometimes I feel bad that there is no dad around and that it's not fair to them.

I can't regret over a decade of my life because that seems unhealthy, so I choose to focus on the positives that came from the challenges of surviving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regret not losing 20 pounds.

20 lbs should not be a marriage-breaker.

He had an affair with a thinner woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regret not putting more of a priority on the marriage itself. It was bottom of the totem pole after a full time job, kids, pets, household chores, etc. It didn't help that my ex didn't do anything around the house so it all fell to me. He's now a perfect partner to someone else (cooks, cleans, attentive, etc- all the things he wasn't in the marriage).

He either learned from your marriage to him, or he loves her more, or she gives him more sex.

This is such a nasty thing to say. Why are you trying to hurt a stranger? GTH

Agree. It is sick

The truth is a hard pill to swallow sometimes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My biggest regret is wasting my prime years with DW who thought twice a month vanilla sex was normal. Now that she is gone I'm 56 and sticking it anywhere I can.

Makes you feel robbed doesn't it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My biggest regret is wasting my prime years with DW who thought twice a month vanilla sex was normal. Now that she is gone I'm 56 and sticking it anywhere I can.

Makes you feel robbed doesn't it?

Yes it does. After spending 27 years providing everything possible to an ungrateful frigid wife and sending three kids to university, the rest of my life is for me. My new goal in life is to keep my d*ck wet and be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My biggest regret is wasting my prime years with DW who thought twice a month vanilla sex was normal. Now that she is gone I'm 56 and sticking it anywhere I can.

Makes you feel robbed doesn't it?

Yes it does. After spending 27 years providing everything possible to an ungrateful frigid wife and sending three kids to university, the rest of my life is for me. My new goal in life is to keep my d*ck wet and be happy.

ok. This made me laugh.
Go PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My biggest regret is wasting my prime years with DW who thought twice a month vanilla sex was normal. Now that she is gone I'm 56 and sticking it anywhere I can.

Makes you feel robbed doesn't it?

I don't feel robbed. I gave it my very best shot. The last few years of it I put superhuman effort into being a husband and father. I learned what I was capable of, and I grew tremendously. I also learned how awesome my friends and family were, and I learned that there are some very good people out there.

But I do feel like my kids were robbed. They'll spend the rest of her life dealing with her guilt trips, nagging, gas lighting, psychological bullying and other mind games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ultimately no regrets.

Sometimes I regret having kids with him because he is their dad forever. He's an abusive ass and the pain of the years I spent in an awful marriage is intense but I learned a lot in the process and healed a lot in myself as well. The older the kids got, the more of him they experienced and I regret that they went through the things they did.

I love my kids dearly and currently have full custody but sometimes I feel bad that there is no dad around and that it's not fair to them.

I can't regret over a decade of my life because that seems unhealthy, so I choose to focus on the positives that came from the challenges of surviving.

This is how I feel. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regret not losing 20 pounds.

20 lbs should not be a marriage-breaker.

He had an affair with a thinner woman.

Oh honey. That wouldn't have prevented his affair, truly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regret not losing 20 pounds.

20 lbs should not be a marriage-breaker.

He had an affair with a thinner woman.

Oh honey. That wouldn't have prevented his affair, truly.

It might have if I lost the weight like I promised to.

[Anonymous]

Ex husband here - I have plenty of regrets but despite the odds against men I got full custody of my children. While my life is chaotic I'm happy and so are my kids. Their mother moved away to 'start a new life' which was a smart move on her part. After a year as a single parent my anger has subsided and I have no regrets being a dad. I'm way too exhausted to think about dating but I know that all of us would enjoy a female presence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regret not losing 20 pounds.

20 lbs should not be a marriage-breaker.

He had an affair with a thinner woman.

Oh honey. That wouldn't have prevented his affair, truly.

It might have if I lost the weight like I promised to.

But then you'd still be married to an asshole (like my husband is).