Wife very much dislikes my family

[Anonymous]

It's beginning to put a strain on our relationship. Anyone else caught in the middle?

[Anonymous]

Is there a reason? Are they awful to get and you need to be more supportive? What's going on?

[Anonymous]

Is it a question of lifestyle/personality differences, or does either party (DW or Family) act disrespectfully to the other?

[Anonymous]

my DH is in a similar situation but I dislike his family for very valid reasons. My DH also puts me first, which directly correlates to how much this rift impacts our marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it a question of lifestyle/personality differences, or does either party (DW or Family) act disrespectfully to the other?

Its a pretty big personality difference. DW used to just keep them at arms length. Now she's getting rude.

[Anonymous]

This is so common. Do you understand why she dislikes them? If you can see it from her side, that helps a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it a question of lifestyle/personality differences, or does either party (DW or Family) act disrespectfully to the other?

Its a pretty big personality difference. DW used to just keep them at arms length. Now she's getting rude.

Everything you've shared can be open to multiple interpretations. Can you share some specific examples:

What does a "big personality" look and sound like?
What does rude behavior by your wife look and sound like?
What is an example where you've felt uncomfortable by an interaction between your spouse and family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it a question of lifestyle/personality differences, or does either party (DW or Family) act disrespectfully to the other?

Its a pretty big personality difference. DW used to just keep them at arms length. Now she's getting rude.

Everything you've shared can be open to multiple interpretations. Can you share some specific examples:

What does a "big personality" look and sound like?
What does rude behavior by your wife look and sound like?
What is an example where you've felt uncomfortable by an interaction between your spouse and family?

An example: Today my mother was driving by while DW was taking out some trash. My mother stopped and said hello and asked to see my son. My DW told her that it wasn't a good time as DS was sleeping. My mother could see DS in the window wide awake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it a question of lifestyle/personality differences, or does either party (DW or Family) act disrespectfully to the other?

Its a pretty big personality difference. DW used to just keep them at arms length. Now she's getting rude.

Everything you've shared can be open to multiple interpretations. Can you share some specific examples:

What does a "big personality" look and sound like?
What does rude behavior by your wife look and sound like?
What is an example where you've felt uncomfortable by an interaction between your spouse and family?

An example: Today my mother was driving by while DW was taking out some trash. My mother stopped and said hello and asked to see my son. My DW told her that it wasn't a good time as DS was sleeping. My mother could see DS in the window wide awake.

I wouldn't like it if my MIL randomly showed up at my house. Tell your mother to learn how to use a phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it a question of lifestyle/personality differences, or does either party (DW or Family) act disrespectfully to the other?

Its a pretty big personality difference. DW used to just keep them at arms length. Now she's getting rude.

Everything you've shared can be open to multiple interpretations. Can you share some specific examples:

What does a "big personality" look and sound like?
What does rude behavior by your wife look and sound like?
What is an example where you've felt uncomfortable by an interaction between your spouse and family?

An example: Today my mother was driving by while DW was taking out some trash. My mother stopped and said hello and asked to see my son. My DW told her that it wasn't a good time as DS was sleeping. My mother could see DS in the window wide awake.

Did you see the awake child, or did your mother tell you that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it a question of lifestyle/personality differences, or does either party (DW or Family) act disrespectfully to the other?

Its a pretty big personality difference. DW used to just keep them at arms length. Now she's getting rude.

Everything you've shared can be open to multiple interpretations. Can you share some specific examples:

What does a "big personality" look and sound like?
What does rude behavior by your wife look and sound like?
What is an example where you've felt uncomfortable by an interaction between your spouse and family?

An example: Today my mother was driving by while DW was taking out some trash. My mother stopped and said hello and asked to see my son. My DW told her that it wasn't a good time as DS was sleeping. My mother could see DS in the window wide awake.

I wouldn't like it if my MIL randomly showed up at my house. Tell your mother to learn how to use a phone.

Yeah, I'd be annoyed if I couldn't take out the trash w/o my MIL randomly stopping by. Sometimes I do this bra-less and w/o makeup!

[Anonymous]

My parents and siblings all get together on Sundays. That's always been the tradition. Forced Sunday plans drive DW crazy. Just an example of personality difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it a question of lifestyle/personality differences, or does either party (DW or Family) act disrespectfully to the other?

Its a pretty big personality difference. DW used to just keep them at arms length. Now she's getting rude.

Everything you've shared can be open to multiple interpretations. Can you share some specific examples:

What does a "big personality" look and sound like?
What does rude behavior by your wife look and sound like?
What is an example where you've felt uncomfortable by an interaction between your spouse and family?

An example: Today my mother was driving by while DW was taking out some trash. My mother stopped and said hello and asked to see my son. My DW told her that it wasn't a good time as DS was sleeping. My mother could see DS in the window wide awake.

Maybe before taking out the trash, dw had just walked by ds's bedroom and he was asleep. Then he got up. When your mom saw him, your wife had no idea that ds was out of bed.


You're going to have to come up with some better examples than this.

[Anonymous]

Wife sounds like a brat, though I doubt you'll get much sympathy here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents and siblings all get together on Sundays. That's always been the tradition. Forced Sunday plans drive DW crazy. Just an example of personality difference.

No it's not. It's a difference in how one wants to spend time. It could also be a cultural difference. In your culture, family is expected to spend time together. In her culture, not so much. A personality difference would be something like wife is very expressive and has no trouble showing her feelings. She loves to hug others and is comfortable with physical closeness while your family is much more reserved. Physical affection and sharing of feelings is limited.