I met my date's kid after a month and not sure how I feel, should I continue things?

[Anonymous]

For starters, we met online about a month ago. This was our 3rd time going out due to travel and him being hospitalized. I suggested that we see Zoo Lights during a conversation about holiday traditions. He wanted to bring his preschool aged son along. While I do think that it's a bit early to meet the kid, I agreed as it would be a fun outing for all of us. I seemed to have clicked well with his son, we talked about his love of trains, his favorite color and the different light displays that he liked. But I kind of became uncomfortable when he was scolding him for not smiling in pictures, or not being able to see certain things, complaining about walking too much etc. I have tons of experience with kids as I have a large extended family, so I am used to various personalities. I was turned off a bit by my date's behavior. He always talks about his kid and how they have an amazing bond and I was expecting them to have a more positive relationship. Now I'm on the fence about whether or not I want to continue to see this guy. He doesn't seem to be as happy as I am and it's a bit bothersome also. FYI, we are in our 30s.

[Anonymous]

I think it is wise to listen to your gut feelings. Another way to look at this, if this is a child you had together, is this how you would like your child to be treated?

[Anonymous]

For me it would be a HUGE red flag about his judgement that he took his kid on a date with you after 1 month and 3 dates. I'd run for the hills.

[Anonymous]

It's a sign of things to come and a window into his overall personality. Beware.

[Anonymous]

How long ago was his divorce? How much time does he spend with his son in a normal week?

[Anonymous]

That would put me off, too. Was he yelling or raising his voice? Or just speaking in irritation? If he's doing this in front of you then he's probably not even aware of how he's coming across. You may have actually been witnessing his "best behavior". Though it's hard to know without spending additional time together

BUT -- the fact that he thought it was okay to introduce his son to someone he has been dating less than a month!! That's a red flag in itself. How long has he been divorced?

[Anonymous]

Just to add - bringing his son along on your THIRD date should disqualify him as a candidate.

[Anonymous]

He's been divorced for 2 years now. He has a court order to see his soon every other week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just to add - bringing his son along on your THIRD date should disqualify him as a candidate.

I was apprehensive about this. I met 2 of my dad's girlfriends(1 who is my stepmom) only after they'd been dating for months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just to add - bringing his son along on your THIRD date should disqualify him as a candidate.

You guys are harsh! lol

[Anonymous]

I see nothing wrong with your description of how he parents his child but if you prefer a child to be coddled constantly, then he won't be right for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to add - bringing his son along on your THIRD date should disqualify him as a candidate.

You guys are harsh! lol

If he's doing this now, then how many other women is he introducing to his son? That's not setting up a good example

[Anonymous]

Go with your gut and break up. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to add - bringing his son along on your THIRD date should disqualify him as a candidate.

You guys are harsh! lol

Really? Would you want your future kid going through this?

[Anonymous]

He is asking his son at this very moment- did you like XX? If the kids answers NO, he will be the one breaking up with you.