SSFS Will Stay Open

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And both can be false. And we’ll never know since no transparency exists

THIS IS THE CRUX OF THE ISSUE. And how anyone can send their child back there because of this, I don't get.

Are you a current parent?

I knew it!! You were going to be called a troll!! 🤣

If I wanted to call this person a troll I would. I asked a question that as of yet has not been answered. I am continually alarmed at the lack of intellect by parents (and seemingly parents whose children go to the same school as my own) to be able to distinguish the difference between this: "And how can anyone send their child back there because of this, I don't get it" AND this: "I can't in good conscience send my child back there because of this."

This is not *just* a matter of semantics and pronouns. Words have meaning and intent behind them. I find the language on here both from those who are seemingly staying and those who are leaving or have already left to be covertly judgemental and inflammatory. And again, I'm alarmed at the lack of intellect to see the difference. Whether you're responding by calling people trolls or accusing folks of toxic positivity or complaining that people are too negative/pessimistic or want the school to fail - you're all (both sides) guilty of the language you're using and that kind of covertly judgemental and inflammatory language is doing nothing to solve problems. And it does nothing for those of us who are here because we actually want to hear a variety of personal perspectives about how their families are thinking about SSFS and what their personal experience has been.

You must be fun at parties.

In the end, this is an anonymous board. People are going to say what they say. For all I know, you could be a troll too, not a part of the community, but making inflammatory statements just for sh**s and giggles. Telling people that they are intellectually lacking for not agreeing lockstep with you is just the cherry on top.

But I have to thank you too. You gave me the nudge to talk to my child and will be signing another school's contract this weekend. If your goal was to stir up s**t for the school and its community, congratulations. If you truly are a member of the community though, then know that I made our decision because I don't want to be surrounded by parents like you for another year. I do with SSFS the best and don't want it to fail. It can succeed without us.

[Anonymous]

*wish not with

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And both can be false. And we’ll never know since no transparency exists

THIS IS THE CRUX OF THE ISSUE. And how anyone can send their child back there because of this, I don't get.

Are you a current parent?

I knew it!! You were going to be called a troll!! 🤣

If I wanted to call this person a troll I would. I asked a question that as of yet has not been answered. I am continually alarmed at the lack of intellect by parents (and seemingly parents whose children go to the same school as my own) to be able to distinguish the difference between this: "And how can anyone send their child back there because of this, I don't get it" AND this: "I can't in good conscience send my child back there because of this."

This is not *just* a matter of semantics and pronouns. Words have meaning and intent behind them. I find the language on here both from those who are seemingly staying and those who are leaving or have already left to be covertly judgemental and inflammatory. And again, I'm alarmed at the lack of intellect to see the difference. Whether you're responding by calling people trolls or accusing folks of toxic positivity or complaining that people are too negative/pessimistic or want the school to fail - you're all (both sides) guilty of the language you're using and that kind of covertly judgemental and inflammatory language is doing nothing to solve problems. And it does nothing for those of us who are here because we actually want to hear a variety of personal perspectives about how their families are thinking about SSFS and what their personal experience has been.

You must be fun at parties.

In the end, this is an anonymous board. People are going to say what they say. For all I know, you could be a troll too, not a part of the community, but making inflammatory statements just for sh**s and giggles. Telling people that they are intellectually lacking for not agreeing lockstep with you is just the cherry on top.

But I have to thank you too. You gave me the nudge to talk to my child and will be signing another school's contract this weekend. If your goal was to stir up s**t for the school and its community, congratulations. If you truly are a member of the community though, then know that I made our decision because I don't want to be surrounded by parents like you for another year. I do with SSFS the best and don't want it to fail. It can succeed without us.

So you're the nudge for your decision is based on an anonymous poster who you question is even a parent at the school? Seems nonsensical to me. And then with a vengeful tone blame the anonymous poster for your decision with a "congratulations". It sounds to me like confirmation bias. You were looking for an excuse to sign that other contract. I just hope you don't regret using DCUM as your excuse rather than something more substantive. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And both can be false. And we’ll never know since no transparency exists

THIS IS THE CRUX OF THE ISSUE. And how anyone can send their child back there because of this, I don't get.

Are you a current parent?

I knew it!! You were going to be called a troll!! 🤣

If I wanted to call this person a troll I would. I asked a question that as of yet has not been answered. I am continually alarmed at the lack of intellect by parents (and seemingly parents whose children go to the same school as my own) to be able to distinguish the difference between this: "And how can anyone send their child back there because of this, I don't get it" AND this: "I can't in good conscience send my child back there because of this."

This is not *just* a matter of semantics and pronouns. Words have meaning and intent behind them. I find the language on here both from those who are seemingly staying and those who are leaving or have already left to be covertly judgemental and inflammatory. And again, I'm alarmed at the lack of intellect to see the difference. Whether you're responding by calling people trolls or accusing folks of toxic positivity or complaining that people are too negative/pessimistic or want the school to fail - you're all (both sides) guilty of the language you're using and that kind of covertly judgemental and inflammatory language is doing nothing to solve problems. And it does nothing for those of us who are here because we actually want to hear a variety of personal perspectives about how their families are thinking about SSFS and what their personal experience has been.

You must be fun at parties.

In the end, this is an anonymous board. People are going to say what they say. For all I know, you could be a troll too, not a part of the community, but making inflammatory statements just for sh**s and giggles. Telling people that they are intellectually lacking for not agreeing lockstep with you is just the cherry on top.

But I have to thank you too. You gave me the nudge to talk to my child and will be signing another school's contract this weekend. If your goal was to stir up s**t for the school and its community, congratulations. If you truly are a member of the community though, then know that I made our decision because I don't want to be surrounded by parents like you for another year. I do with SSFS the best and don't want it to fail. It can succeed without us.

And you gave me the nudge to talk to my kid about emotional immaturity and the many pitfalls of anonymous online forums particularly as a source of "information" for making big decisions.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s now fairly clear that a good chunk of this discourse has been fake - and it’s now veering into total absurdity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And both can be false. And we’ll never know since no transparency exists

THIS IS THE CRUX OF THE ISSUE. And how anyone can send their child back there because of this, I don't get.

Are you a current parent?

I knew it!! You were going to be called a troll!! 🤣

If I wanted to call this person a troll I would. I asked a question that as of yet has not been answered. I am continually alarmed at the lack of intellect by parents (and seemingly parents whose children go to the same school as my own) to be able to distinguish the difference between this: "And how can anyone send their child back there because of this, I don't get it" AND this: "I can't in good conscience send my child back there because of this."

This is not *just* a matter of semantics and pronouns. Words have meaning and intent behind them. I find the language on here both from those who are seemingly staying and those who are leaving or have already left to be covertly judgemental and inflammatory. And again, I'm alarmed at the lack of intellect to see the difference. Whether you're responding by calling people trolls or accusing folks of toxic positivity or complaining that people are too negative/pessimistic or want the school to fail - you're all (both sides) guilty of the language you're using and that kind of covertly judgemental and inflammatory language is doing nothing to solve problems. And it does nothing for those of us who are here because we actually want to hear a variety of personal perspectives about how their families are thinking about SSFS and what their personal experience has been.

We without intellect do understand the difference.
“"I can't in good conscience send my child back there because of this” - means I have definitely made my choice.

“And how can anyone send their child back there because of this, I don't get “- means I am perplexed about what the other person sees in this situation and would like to know what makes them stay. Being that it’s a question I would then like some kind of objective answer “what makes me stay is that I am willing to give the school a second chance” or “yes the school is struggling but the environment really works so we’re willing to try one more year” or “my kid is a senior so we’re hoping to finish out” or “we don’t really feel like the school has handled all of this poorly”

What I don’t expect is a question to be answered by people saying im stupid for even asking.

[Anonymous]

You are putting too much thought into perceived verbiage and intent. There's no vengefulness from my end, just relief. There's also no substantiveness... this thread could have gone away weeks ago if leadership gave any real information to make a bloody decision. And our family could have returned without any misgivings if they were truly honest with us.

The thing is, SSFS leadership and supporters always needed my family more than we needed them. I wish SSFS the best. And to your family too... if you are even a current parent. Who knows? This is an anon thread after all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And both can be false. And we’ll never know since no transparency exists

THIS IS THE CRUX OF THE ISSUE. And how anyone can send their child back there because of this, I don't get.

Are you a current parent?

I knew it!! You were going to be called a troll!! 🤣

If I wanted to call this person a troll I would. I asked a question that as of yet has not been answered. I am continually alarmed at the lack of intellect by parents (and seemingly parents whose children go to the same school as my own) to be able to distinguish the difference between this: "And how can anyone send their child back there because of this, I don't get it" AND this: "I can't in good conscience send my child back there because of this."

This is not *just* a matter of semantics and pronouns. Words have meaning and intent behind them. I find the language on here both from those who are seemingly staying and those who are leaving or have already left to be covertly judgemental and inflammatory. And again, I'm alarmed at the lack of intellect to see the difference. Whether you're responding by calling people trolls or accusing folks of toxic positivity or complaining that people are too negative/pessimistic or want the school to fail - you're all (both sides) guilty of the language you're using and that kind of covertly judgemental and inflammatory language is doing nothing to solve problems. And it does nothing for those of us who are here because we actually want to hear a variety of personal perspectives about how their families are thinking about SSFS and what their personal experience has been.

We without intellect do understand the difference.
“"I can't in good conscience send my child back there because of this” - means I have definitely made my choice.

“And how can anyone send their child back there because of this, I don't get “- means I am perplexed about what the other person sees in this situation and would like to know what makes them stay. Being that it’s a question I would then like some kind of objective answer “what makes me stay is that I am willing to give the school a second chance” or “yes the school is struggling but the environment really works so we’re willing to try one more year” or “my kid is a senior so we’re hoping to finish out” or “we don’t really feel like the school has handled all of this poorly”

What I don’t expect is a question to be answered by people saying im stupid for even asking.

How can anyone make their final decision based on an anonymous post on a message board, I don't get it - this means I am simply perplexed about what you are thinking and would like to know how the PP could have worded their irritation about inflammatory language better to make you use something else in your decision making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And both can be false. And we’ll never know since no transparency exists

THIS IS THE CRUX OF THE ISSUE. And how anyone can send their child back there because of this, I don't get.

Are you a current parent?

I knew it!! You were going to be called a troll!! 🤣

If I wanted to call this person a troll I would. I asked a question that as of yet has not been answered. I am continually alarmed at the lack of intellect by parents (and seemingly parents whose children go to the same school as my own) to be able to distinguish the difference between this: "And how can anyone send their child back there because of this, I don't get it" AND this: "I can't in good conscience send my child back there because of this."

This is not *just* a matter of semantics and pronouns. Words have meaning and intent behind them. I find the language on here both from those who are seemingly staying and those who are leaving or have already left to be covertly judgemental and inflammatory. And again, I'm alarmed at the lack of intellect to see the difference. Whether you're responding by calling people trolls or accusing folks of toxic positivity or complaining that people are too negative/pessimistic or want the school to fail - you're all (both sides) guilty of the language you're using and that kind of covertly judgemental and inflammatory language is doing nothing to solve problems. And it does nothing for those of us who are here because we actually want to hear a variety of personal perspectives about how their families are thinking about SSFS and what their personal experience has been.

We without intellect do understand the difference.
“"I can't in good conscience send my child back there because of this” - means I have definitely made my choice.

“And how can anyone send their child back there because of this, I don't get “- means I am perplexed about what the other person sees in this situation and would like to know what makes them stay. Being that it’s a question I would then like some kind of objective answer “what makes me stay is that I am willing to give the school a second chance” or “yes the school is struggling but the environment really works so we’re willing to try one more year” or “my kid is a senior so we’re hoping to finish out” or “we don’t really feel like the school has handled all of this poorly”

What I don’t expect is a question to be answered by people saying im stupid for even asking.

How can anyone make their final decision based on an anonymous post on a message board, I don't get it - this means I am simply perplexed about what you are thinking and would like to know how the PP could have worded their irritation about inflammatory language better to make you use something else in your decision making.

Because they know that nothing will come out of Monday’s meeting. And maybe OPs outright condescension was the camel’s back. TBH, there’s too much pressure on undecideds to make a decision. And people are going hard on them. Sorry that they even had to make this decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are putting too much thought into perceived verbiage and intent. There's no vengefulness from my end, just relief. There's also no substantiveness... this thread could have gone away weeks ago if leadership gave any real information to make a bloody decision. And our family could have returned without any misgivings if they were truly honest with us.

The thing is, SSFS leadership and supporters always needed my family more than we needed them. I wish SSFS the best. And to your family too... if you are even a current parent. Who knows? This is an anon thread after all.

“SSFS leadership and supporters always needed my family more than we needed them.” Spot on.

Wish you the best!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s now fairly clear that a good chunk of this discourse has been fake - and it’s now veering into total absurdity.

I think what's fairly clear is that the DCUM forum leans heavily towards those who already left yet are still disgruntled along with those who are undecided and rightly angry about all that has happened. Slack leans heavily towards those who are staying and those who are undecided but looking for reasons to stay. The shame in all this is that the two camps can't seem to find a way to converse without gaslighting each other. A sign of the times I guess but very very sad.

[Anonymous]

" ... the DCUM forum leans heavily towards those who already left yet are still disgruntled along with those who are undecided and rightly angry about all that has happened. Slack leans heavily towards those who are staying and those who are undecided but looking for reasons to stay. The shame in all this is that the two camps can't seem to find a way to converse without gaslighting each other. A sign of the times I guess but very very sad."

Well said!

In actual news, BOT says that the Friends of SSFS will get to nominate three members, and that the new HOS will start in a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:" ... the DCUM forum leans heavily towards those who already left yet are still disgruntled along with those who are undecided and rightly angry about all that has happened. Slack leans heavily towards those who are staying and those who are undecided but looking for reasons to stay. The shame in all this is that the two camps can't seem to find a way to converse without gaslighting each other. A sign of the times I guess but very very sad."

Well said!

In actual news, BOT says that the Friends of SSFS will get to nominate three members, and that the new HOS will start in a few weeks.

Yes! I read that in the email and felt that both were positive signs.

[Anonymous]

I see the revised bylaws for the BOT have been posted. Does anyone know what the changes are besides the number of trustees?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:" ... the DCUM forum leans heavily towards those who already left yet are still disgruntled along with those who are undecided and rightly angry about all that has happened. Slack leans heavily towards those who are staying and those who are undecided but looking for reasons to stay. The shame in all this is that the two camps can't seem to find a way to converse without gaslighting each other. A sign of the times I guess but very very sad."

Well said!

In actual news, BOT says that the Friends of SSFS will get to nominate three members, and that the new HOS will start in a few weeks.

IMO, the BOT openings should also consider the wider community, not just the Friends of SSFS members. Like it or not, they haven't been as forthcoming with information either, and there are parents who don't trust their motives either.

Just my opinion.