Can I bring my dog to your wedding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So your plan was no dogs in the house during the wedding day, including your own. Fiancee disagreed and decided without talking with you first that 2 dogs it is. Wonder if anyone else will bring their pets.

You don't have a dog problem. You have a fiance problem. You better double up on your birth control and have a come to jesus talk with this guy before you get married - because if the two of you can't get on the same page and present a united front, then there is no way in hell you two should be getting married.

[Anonymous]

The absolute least you should do is the suggestion to hire a dog walker for the ceremony. All your guests will remember is hearing those dogs barking during the ceremony….Not to mention if someone records it and posts it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're having a small wedding ceremony at our house (half inside and half outside) in NOVA in September (we've owned the house together for about a year). We have a dog, who I wanted to have out of the house for the day, but my fiancee disagreed and said it'd be fine (which it probably would be so I was okay). Then, my fiancee's cousin asked if he could bring his dog. Apparently the hotel where he's staying allows pets, but he doesn't want to leave the dog in the hotel room for the day, and also doesn't want to kennel it for the weekend while he's away. My finance said yes.

Am I right to be annoyed? I've got a lot on my plate... when we decided to go ahead with these plans, covid cases were way down... and now I'm really stressed... about covid, caterer, rain plan (we don't really have one), getting rentals set up (tables, chairs, etc.). I'm sort of doing this on my own, don't have a planner or someone to help, etc.

I said I thought we should say no, but my fiancee insisted it's an old dog and will be fine. Also, our dog doesn't always do well with new dogs, and I'm wondering how our dog is going to react to this dog. My fiancee says that if there's a problem with the two dogs together, the cousin will handle it. But I know from experience that if there's a problem, it will go something like... my fiancee doing nothing, I'll need to be the bad guy and ask him to ask his cousin take care of the dogs, and the cousin won't want to and will claim his dog is not the problem. This cousin hasn't exactly been helpful in the past. He is a selfish spoiled brat who just does what works for him without regard for anyone else.

Honestly I'm just so mad that I have to add this to the list of other things I'm stressed about. It's really stressing me out. I think it's an unreasonable request. People that I'm not even that close with are asking if they can help, and someone who's pretty close family is just putting more demands on us on what will already be a stressful day.

Am I out of line to be upset? Should I just let it go?

Make arrangements for the visiting dog to go to a local doggie daycare for the day. And tell fiancee that you would like to have input in decisions that affect your wedding day. Learn to say no without caring, to the other demands. It's only stressful if you let it be. Tell people your decisions and then ignore. You cannot control how others will react.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doggy daycare. For both dogs.

https://northernvirginiamag.com/family/pets/2020/07/16/16-doggy-day-cares-in-northern-virginia/

Even if cousin wanted to leave dog alone at hotel, it is against most hotel policies.

Most places like this require vaccination records and a trial day. You can't just show up with dogs who haven't registered and been there before.

[Anonymous]

Hire a dog walker to wrangle both dogs, cousin has to agree to pay half.

[Anonymous]

Crating the dogs in different rooms or moving to a restaurant are the logistical solutions to this problem but I STRENUOUSLY agree that you should not marry him if you want to have children.

If you never have children then whatever, but if you have want kids this guy is gonna be the proverbial ball chained around your neck. You will hate him before they are 5 years old.

[Anonymous]

The dogs are going to go crazy. It will be the dogs party not yours. Is that really how you imagined your wedding ? Personally I wouldn’t want to pay or that or even do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your fiancee is like this for many things, please reconsider marrying him. It will get worse.

If you wish to go through with this wedding, then put your foot down now. Dogs DO NOT DO WELL in home wedding situations at all - they feel your stress, they're overstimulated by the unfamiliar smells (so many of them!), and they will bark, nip, pee on someone's leg or eat something they shouldn't, and fight if there's a stranger dog.

So please call back this cousin and tell him that his dog stays at the hotel (in a crate, with chew toys). And board your own dog, or have a neighbor take care of him for the day. Do not leave your dog inside the house - people will go in and out, he'll sense the excitement outside, and may be destructive or escape.

In a crate with chew toys for 12 hours, so they're covered in their own p!ss & sh!t when you come back from the wedding?? Sounds fun.

If the hotel accepts dogs, there's no need to
crate them... and it's not the OP's place to dictate what the cousin does at the hotel anyway.

You sound like a control freak.

Why do you invent things I didn't write?
I know from experience that it's best to crate a dog who is in unfamiliar surroundings, and obviously he should be let out every few hours. The cousin can organize his life how he wants, but that would be my first suggestion, in addition to other options like boarding his dog, or contacting someone on Rover.

You need to stop reading additional meaning into other people's posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have him call back and say he was wrong.

I would also consider asking a non-invited friend to take care of your dog that day. Parties can be really stressful for dogs. But you know your dog best.

NP.

You cannot be this senseless!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doggy daycare. For both dogs.

https://northernvirginiamag.com/family/pets/2020/07/16/16-doggy-day-cares-in-northern-virginia/

Even if cousin wanted to leave dog alone at hotel, it is against most hotel policies.

Most places like this require vaccination records and a trial day. You can't just show up with dogs who haven't registered and been there before.

I was literally just going to say this! You don’t just show up with a dog and expect to leave it there. There’s a lengthy process involved which is why in my response upthread I told her to rethink marrying this guy and/or tell the cousin herself that the dog absolutely cannot come. OP can decide for herself what to do with her own dog, but I’d probably stick with the original plan of sending it out for the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him call back and say he was wrong.

I would also consider asking a non-invited friend to take care of your dog that day. Parties can be really stressful for dogs. But you know your dog best.

NP.

You cannot be this senseless!

during a pandemic people understand weddings are much smaller and not every Tom, Dick and Harry will be invited. Guarantee there’s a friend, neighbor, acquaintance or someone OP knows well enough to ask but not well enough to invite to a pandemic wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him call back and say he was wrong.

I would also consider asking a non-invited friend to take care of your dog that day. Parties can be really stressful for dogs. But you know your dog best.

NP.

You cannot be this senseless!

during a pandemic people understand weddings are much smaller and not every Tom, Dick and Harry will be invited. Guarantee there’s a friend, neighbor, acquaintance or someone OP knows well enough to ask but not well enough to invite to a pandemic wedding.

If you have money to do a wedding, no matter how small, you have money to pay a pet sitter/ dog daycare. You don't flaunt it in others' faces that they are close enough to watch your pet but not close enough to be at your wedding. It's rude.

[Anonymous]

DF tells cousin that he needs to bring his dog and its crate an hour before the ceremony to get it settled in the (insert name of room) so it's out of the way. Inform DF you will not be dealing with any part of the logistics or consequences of having the animal there but reiterate under no circumstances should it be out among the guests at all.

And honestly, regardless of what DF says, I'd get your dog out of the house for the day anyway. It's one more thing neither of you should or will want to be taking care of with everything else going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Annoying but task someone to be on dog duty and let it go. Love the title of your thread. I chuckled.

No way. The person who should be tasked, if anyone, is the cousin with the dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's up with people bringing their damn dogs EVERYWHERE? Seriously. It's getting so out of hand.

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