Can I bring my dog to your wedding?

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Anonymous wrote:Have him call back and say he was wrong.

I would also consider asking a non-invited friend to take care of your dog that day. Parties can be really stressful for dogs. But you know your dog best.

NP.

You cannot be this senseless!

during a pandemic people understand weddings are much smaller and not every Tom, Dick and Harry will be invited. Guarantee there’s a friend, neighbor, acquaintance or someone OP knows well enough to ask but not well enough to invite to a pandemic wedding.

If you have money to do a wedding, no matter how small, you have money to pay a pet sitter/ dog daycare. You don't flaunt it in others' faces that they are close enough to watch your pet but not close enough to be at your wedding. It's rude.

How self-absorbed are you? If my neighbor is getting married and we're acquaintances who occasionally chat when we're out at the same time, I have zero expectation of being invited to your wedding. I also have zero issue with watching your dog for a day. If they told me they were boarding the dog I'd say save your money for something good and I'll take your dog for the day. There really are people out there who like to do nice things for others.

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Anonymous wrote:I think putting the 2 dogs in separate bedrooms would work. Just tell the cousin that you have guests who do not like (allergic to?) dogs.

And then when the cousin's dog trashes your bedroom, you can send him the bill.

The dogs in separate bedrooms will NOT work. My dog is the loveliest, most easy going dog imaginable. But he would be quite unhappy being shut in a bedroom when he knows that there is a huge party with delicious food going on right outside the door. A social dog will want to be with the people. A food-driven dog will want to be with the food. An anxious dog will be made more anxious by all of this. An aggressive dog will be riled up by this. A dog that is dog reactive (or dog attracted) will be made crazy knowing that there is another dog in the room next to it. The only dog that would be okay with this shut up in the bedroom situation is one that is really old, deaf, and just wants to sleep all day. Or maybe one that is really used to the notion of being shut up in a bedroom during parties.
I agree you need to tell the fiance that this is not going to work, and you're really hurt that he would make this decision without talking it through with you. This is a major red flag...I see the future posts about how he told his mother she could stay with you for months without clearing it with you, signed the kids up for travel soccer assuming you'd drive them, adopted a high energy dog without your agreement....these are all real posts from this forum.

LOL! Just cause the dog wants something, doesn't mean the dog gets something! When did dogs tart ruling families and events?

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Book someone from rover.com to care for the dogs. Your fiancé has no spine if he rolled over this easily. Discuss with him on how to handle future issues that require a spine.

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Anonymous wrote:you won't do it, but you should reconsider getting married to this fiancee

This. If your fiancé isn’t considering your needs and stress level, I don’t believe you should marry him either.

Yep, this is a big red flag. If you're committed to being child free, you might be able to work things out. But if you want children, you're going to be solo parenting from the start, and then dumping him by the time the kids hit elementary school. Save yourself some grief, and get out now.

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No one will miss thé cousin staying home with his dog.

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I would 100% cancel that offer. Insane of the guest to even ask. Even more ridiculous for your fiancé to ok it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him call back and say he was wrong.

I would also consider asking a non-invited friend to take care of your dog that day. Parties can be really stressful for dogs. But you know your dog best.

NP.

You cannot be this senseless!

during a pandemic people understand weddings are much smaller and not every Tom, Dick and Harry will be invited. Guarantee there’s a friend, neighbor, acquaintance or someone OP knows well enough to ask but not well enough to invite to a pandemic wedding.

If you have money to do a wedding, no matter how small, you have money to pay a pet sitter/ dog daycare. You don't flaunt it in others' faces that they are close enough to watch your pet but not close enough to be at your wedding. It's rude.

How self-absorbed are you? If my neighbor is getting married and we're acquaintances who occasionally chat when we're out at the same time, I have zero expectation of being invited to your wedding. I also have zero issue with watching your dog for a day. If they told me they were boarding the dog I'd say save your money for something good and I'll take your dog for the day. There really are people out there who like to do nice things for others.

You are the one who is self-absorbed. And you are so narrow -minded to think that everyone else will have zero issues because you will have zero issues. Yes, there are people who would do nice things - you won't believe it, but I am one of them. However, you don't ask that of people. If a neighbor/friend offers, that's another story. But to go around asking people who are not invited and hoping that one of them is as nice as you are is ridiculous and cheap. It's rude and ... self-absorbed.

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I would also consider asking a non-invited friend to take care of your dog that day

LOL, what an honor!

Hi, Larla! We know you didn't make the cut of our wedding guest list. To be fair, you weren't invited to Obama's birthday party either. So you should be used to this type of thing.

Would you consider coming by for about four hours during the ceremony and reception to take two unruly dogs away? They don't care for each other. Kind of like you and me - frenemies. You will need to walk them, pick up steaming piles of their sh*t, and stay out of our way. Bring them back when the festivities are over. If you you have a spare hour or two (and we know you do!), please consider helping out with washing stemware (please wear a mask and gloves that you provide) and returning them to the rental company four towns over. You will have to pay for any breakage.

You're a (third tier) true blue friend, Larla!

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OP- what did you do? Are you still here?

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OP here. Follow up. So, I did not listen to you guys and did nothing to alter the plan. The idiot cousin was set to bring his dog. However, besides not understanding social norms like don't bring your dog to a wedding, he's also out of touch with things normal people do, like using Waze to gauge traffic. So, long story short, he was "shocked" that there was traffic on I-95 and showed up late, right as the ceremony was ending. The dog barked and was annoying for the last five minutes of the ceremony, but at that point I didn't care because things were wrapping up. It was fine during the party, because we were outside and it was casual.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell your fiancee you have a special date night planned.

Surprise him with the first episode of the Brady Bunch where the cat and dog run amuck at the wedding.

I like you! I had the exact same thought! Tiiiiiger! Fluffy!!!!!