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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We're having a small wedding ceremony at our house (half inside and half outside) in NOVA in September (we've owned the house together for about a year).  We have a dog, who I wanted to have out of the house for the day, but my fiancee disagreed and said it'd be fine (which it probably would be so I was okay).  Then, my fiancee's cousin asked if he could bring his dog.  Apparently the hotel where he's staying allows pets, but he doesn't want to leave the dog in the hotel room for the day, and also doesn't want to kennel it for the weekend while he's away.   My finance said yes.

Am I right to be annoyed?  I've got a lot on my plate... when we decided to go ahead with these plans, covid cases were way down... and now I'm really stressed... about covid, caterer, rain plan (we don't really have one), getting rentals set up (tables, chairs, etc.).  I'm sort of doing this on my own, don't have a planner or someone to help, etc.

I said I thought we should say no, but my fiancee insisted it's an old dog and will be fine.  Also, our dog doesn't always do well with new dogs, and I'm wondering how our dog is going to react to this dog.  My fiancee says that if there's a problem with the two dogs together, the cousin will handle it. But I know from experience that if there's a problem, it will go something like... my fiancee doing nothing, I'll need to be the bad guy and ask him to ask his cousin take care of the dogs, and the cousin won't want to and will claim his dog is not the problem.  This cousin hasn't exactly been helpful in the past.  He is a selfish spoiled brat who just does what works for him without regard for anyone else.

Honestly I'm just so mad that I have to add this to the list of other things I'm stressed about.  It's really stressing me out.  I think it's an unreasonable request.  People that I'm not even that close with are asking if they can help, and someone who's pretty close family is just putting more demands on us on what will already be a stressful day.

Am I out of line to be upset?  Should I just let it go?[/quote]

Make arrangements for the visiting dog to go to a local doggie daycare for the day. And tell fiancee that you would like to have input in decisions that affect your wedding day. Learn to say no without caring, to the other demands. It's only stressful if you let it be. Tell people your decisions and then ignore. You cannot control how others will react.[/quote]

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