Can I bring my dog to your wedding?

[Anonymous]

We're having a small wedding ceremony at our house (half inside and half outside) in NOVA in September (we've owned the house together for about a year). We have a dog, who I wanted to have out of the house for the day, but my fiancee disagreed and said it'd be fine (which it probably would be so I was okay). Then, my fiancee's cousin asked if he could bring his dog. Apparently the hotel where he's staying allows pets, but he doesn't want to leave the dog in the hotel room for the day, and also doesn't want to kennel it for the weekend while he's away. My finance said yes.

Am I right to be annoyed? I've got a lot on my plate... when we decided to go ahead with these plans, covid cases were way down... and now I'm really stressed... about covid, caterer, rain plan (we don't really have one), getting rentals set up (tables, chairs, etc.). I'm sort of doing this on my own, don't have a planner or someone to help, etc.

I said I thought we should say no, but my fiancee insisted it's an old dog and will be fine. Also, our dog doesn't always do well with new dogs, and I'm wondering how our dog is going to react to this dog. My fiancee says that if there's a problem with the two dogs together, the cousin will handle it. But I know from experience that if there's a problem, it will go something like... my fiancee doing nothing, I'll need to be the bad guy and ask him to ask his cousin take care of the dogs, and the cousin won't want to and will claim his dog is not the problem. This cousin hasn't exactly been helpful in the past. He is a selfish spoiled brat who just does what works for him without regard for anyone else.

Honestly I'm just so mad that I have to add this to the list of other things I'm stressed about. It's really stressing me out. I think it's an unreasonable request. People that I'm not even that close with are asking if they can help, and someone who's pretty close family is just putting more demands on us on what will already be a stressful day.

Am I out of line to be upset? Should I just let it go?

[Anonymous]

you won't do it, but you should reconsider getting married to this fiancee

[Anonymous]

Assign some other responsibile type guest to deal with the dog situation if needed. There must be some capable guest that can just take this on with no drama and allow you to focus on your day.

[Anonymous]

So your plan was no dogs in the house during the wedding day, including your own. Fiancee disagreed and decided without talking with you first that 2 dogs it is. Wonder if anyone else will bring their pets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assign some other responsibile type guest to deal with the dog situation if needed. There must be some capable guest that can just take this on with no drama and allow you to focus on your day.

This. Can the dogs be confined to spaces? One in a laundry room or bathroom? Can you crate them?

[Anonymous]

Ask one of the people that is asking how they can help to be the dog person.

[Anonymous]

Here is another example of why all dogs should be crate trained. If they can both be crated in a quiet room and someone occasionally lets them out to potty on leash individually away from the party, there should be no problem.

[Anonymous]

Of course you shouldn’t have to put up with a dog being at your wedding. The nerve of some people. Be the bad guy now and tell the guy no dog. And if you want to send your dog away for the day. That’s fine too.

[Anonymous]

Your Fiancée overruled you on your own dog, didn’t consult you on the cousins. There little chance he’ll say no to the next ‘can I bring my dog’ request. Doesn’t sound like he much cares about your opinion.

[Anonymous]

Annoying but task someone to be on dog duty and let it go. Love the title of your thread. I chuckled.

[Anonymous]

You should be rethinking marrying this guy. I also hope you don't plan to have children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you won't do it, but you should reconsider getting married to this fiancee

+1

Check with neighbors to see if anyone might be willing to pet sit for you at their home or hire a dog walker, or two, to take the dogs out of the house and to a dog park for the duration of wedding ceremony and reception. I’d suggest your fiancé hire the dog walkers, but he’ll probably “forget” and then tell you on your wedding day.

[Anonymous]

No, no, no to including the cousin’s dog. What the heck is wrong with people? Honestly, I would figure out arrangements for your own dog too for the day. Congrats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you won't do it, but you should reconsider getting married to this fiancee

+2. Be prepared to manage him for the rest of your life.

[Anonymous]

Have your fiancee walk the dog during the wedding.