My dad asked me to call him nightly

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG this breaks my heart for your dad. What it must have taken for him to realize it's when he feels most vulnerable and that talking to you would help him. Call him OP. He's your dad. You want him there for you if things were bad for you.

+1. My husband did this for his father for a year. It was draining on our family time a little, but so worth it for both of them.

What is draining about 10-15 minutes on the phone? It’s 10-15 minutes fewer of CNN or Fox News. More importantly, it’s time you do have. We all have that time. Not one person is THAT busy that taking a 10-15 break would “drain” them or their family. Sheesh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG this breaks my heart for your dad. What it must have taken for him to realize it's when he feels most vulnerable and that talking to you would help him. Call him OP. He's your dad. You want him there for you if things were bad for you.

+1. My husband did this for his father for a year. It was draining on our family time a little, but so worth it for both of them.

What is draining about 10-15 minutes on the phone? It’s 10-15 minutes fewer of CNN or Fox News. More importantly, it’s time you do have. We all have that time. Not one person is THAT busy that taking a 10-15 break would “drain” them or their family. Sheesh!

I’m not these posters but I see it with DH and his mom. It’s not the call, it’s when he needs to go. She never wants to hang up and it’s never 10-15 min. Then there is a major guilt trip for doing so, she tells him how she will be dead soon or has some emergency she has to tell him about that she just thought of and tries to delay hanging up. DH feels terrible after when he finally gets off. It’s his issue and I get that but yes, I can see how it affects him. It’s very different from my mom where I do call every day, sometimes more than once per day, but when someone has to go we can hang up without an issue. It wouldn’t matter if DH called 3x per day. The calls would be like this.