Y or N? Okay to fantasize about having sex with your crush,l?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You fantasize about people who you have contact with the most and who are hot. It would most likely be your wife's friends, wife's sisters, MIL, or friends wives.

Any hot woman that I come into contact with it is safe to assume she chalked up a tick mark in my mind at least once in the shower. In fact, that is primarily how I rate women. The number of times I can tick mark a woman in a single 24 hour period. Above 3 would have to be hot as hell.

This thread is about crushes and thinking about having sex with them. I'm fairly open minded when it comes to sexual matters bit a crush and regular sex fantasies about your MOL is pretty weird I'm my book

NP. Everybody has there thing and I’m pretty down with kink so as long as nobody gets harmed. As for MIL once they become family I can’t see them that way but to each their own.

[Anonymous]

Ok- what about bi-weekly phone sex with a former coworker?
We are both married and will never actually seal the deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok- what about bi-weekly phone sex with a former coworker?
We are both married and will never actually seal the deal.

I do this too but with an ex boyfriend who lives in another state. Bad me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You fantasize about people who you have contact with the most and who are hot. It would most likely be your wife's friends, wife's sisters, MIL, or friends wives.

Any hot woman that I come into contact with it is safe to assume she chalked up a tick mark in my mind at least once in the shower. In fact, that is primarily how I rate women. The number of times I can tick mark a woman in a single 24 hour period. Above 3 would have to be hot as hell.

This thread is about crushes and thinking about having sex with them. I'm fairly open minded when it comes to sexual matters bit a crush and regular sex fantasies about your MOL is pretty weird I'm my book

NP. Everybody has there thing and I’m pretty down with kink so as long as nobody gets harmed. As for MIL once they become family I can’t see them that way but to each their own.

Yeah I draw the line at family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok- what about bi-weekly phone sex with a former coworker?
We are both married and will never actually seal the deal.

I do this too but with an ex boyfriend who lives in another state. Bad me.

I guess if the spouses are ok with it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok- what about bi-weekly phone sex with a former coworker?
We are both married and will never actually seal the deal.

I do this too but with an ex boyfriend who lives in another state. Bad me.

Yeah, this is beyond fantasizing. Both of these examples are definitely cheating unless the spouse is ok with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok- what about bi-weekly phone sex with a former coworker?
We are both married and will never actually seal the deal.

I do this too but with an ex boyfriend who lives in another state. Bad me.

Yeah, this is beyond fantasizing. Both of these examples are definitely cheating unless the spouse is ok with it.

Yes- I didn’t say it was play group star worthy- but just that it’s what we’ve got going. Better than actually banging it out and creating another mess

[Anonymous]

Y, ok to fantasize. If you cross the line into phone innuendo... just a matter of time before you’re in between the sheets if the timing and chemistry are there.

A cautionary tale.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok- what about bi-weekly phone sex with a former coworker?
We are both married and will never actually seal the deal.

I do this too but with an ex boyfriend who lives in another state. Bad me.

Yeah, this is beyond fantasizing. Both of these examples are definitely cheating unless the spouse is ok with it.

Yes- I didn’t say it was play group star worthy- but just that it’s what we’ve got going. Better than actually banging it out and creating another mess

NP. You know that "better than actually banging it out" is the lowest possible bar you could set, right? What both examples describe is a form of affair--not a physical one but definitely an emotional affair, even if you want to claim there's zero emotion involved. Or if you don't accept "affair," well, it's the same as mutual masturbation with someone else in the room, frankly. The fact you're not in the same space but doing it over the phone doesn't somehow make it OK. Neither does "well, at least it's not actual sex together" thinking. Your marriages are broken but you don't want to admit it; if they were fine, you wouldn't need to have phone sex with someone who's not your spouse. Fantasies are entirely in your head and that's what this thread is about--what you're doing is not that, at all. You're involved with another real person for real sex acts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Celebrities - ok
Real people you know - seems a little unhealthy

Tend to agree. .

I have a massive crush on a particular, fairly obscure but busy actor and pretty much every character he plays (who are VERY different from the actor as a person).

Fantasizing about the real person weirds me out, as that seems too presumptuous and "real," and he's apparently quite a normal family guy. but I do sometimes fantasize about specific characters he's played. Most of his characters all look and act very different from each other and from the actor himself. So, total win--lots of different men, with the same underlying magnetism somehow. Maybe some would say it's "a difference without a distinction" but it's a kind of boundary my mind draws.

And no, DH doesn't know, though I suspect he suspects....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've caught my son's friend's mom checing out my package at least a half dozen times. I'm certain she's thought of me while masturbaiting.

That’s not how it works for women 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've caught my son's friend's mom checing out my package at least a half dozen times. I'm certain she's thought of me while masturbaiting.

That’s not how it works for women 🤣

+1

His ego is bigger than his "package."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On behalf of all men in the universe, we answer collectively an emphatic “yes” it’s okay to fantasize about someone other than your spouse. We do it all the time.

LOL

I mean duh why wouldn’t it be ok? Who is being hurt by this exactly?

You. And ultimately your spouse. Because you are not putting energy into your marriage, but wasting it on a fantasy. It is easier to fantasize than to do the work to maintain a happy marriage, so that’s what you do, and then surprise surprise your marriage hits the skids.

Well, your DH probably does it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've caught my son's friend's mom checing out my package at least a half dozen times. I'm certain she's thought of me while masturbaiting.

That’s not how it works for women 🤣

NP. Well, I wouldn’t say because of looking at his dick, but definitely I’ve seen very attractive men and absolutely fantasized about them later.