Y or N? Okay to fantasize about having sex with your crush,l?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:On behalf of all men in the universe, we answer collectively an emphatic “yes” it’s okay to fantasize about someone other than your spouse. We do it all the time.

LOL

I mean duh why wouldn’t it be ok? Who is being hurt by this exactly?

You. And ultimately your spouse. Because you are not putting energy into your marriage, but wasting it on a fantasy. It is easier to fantasize than to do the work to maintain a happy marriage, so that’s what you do, and then surprise surprise your marriage hits the skids.

How many husbands on earth would meet that standard?

Like none. Married wife here who fantasizes a LOT. I expect my DH does too. If anything it adds fuel to the fire and he benefits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On behalf of all men in the universe, we answer collectively an emphatic “yes” it’s okay to fantasize about someone other than your spouse. We do it all the time.

LOL

I mean duh why wouldn’t it be ok? Who is being hurt by this exactly?

You. And ultimately your spouse. Because you are not putting energy into your marriage, but wasting it on a fantasy. It is easier to fantasize than to do the work to maintain a happy marriage, so that’s what you do, and then surprise surprise your marriage hits the skids.

How many husbands on earth would meet that standard?

Like none. Married wife here who fantasizes a LOT. I expect my DH does too. If anything it adds fuel to the fire and he benefits.

Same. I do it, I have to imagine my DH does. Our intimacy is totally great. If anything our real life sex is hotter for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On behalf of all men in the universe, we answer collectively an emphatic “yes” it’s okay to fantasize about someone other than your spouse. We do it all the time.

LOL

I mean duh why wouldn’t it be ok? Who is being hurt by this exactly?

You. And ultimately your spouse. Because you are not putting energy into your marriage, but wasting it on a fantasy. It is easier to fantasize than to do the work to maintain a happy marriage, so that’s what you do, and then surprise surprise your marriage hits the skids.

How many husbands on earth would meet that standard?

Like none. Married wife here who fantasizes a LOT. I expect my DH does too. If anything it adds fuel to the fire and he benefits.

Same. I do it, I have to imagine my DH does. Our intimacy is totally great. If anything our real life sex is hotter for it.

I try not to be judgmental, but I truly do not understand people who get mad about their spouse having fantasies or think they can ban them from doing so. As you both said it's totally normal.

[Anonymous]

Yes celebrities for me though they’re perfect in bed in my head and the finish is awesome

[Anonymous]

Sometime when I’m facedown under my husband I fantasize about sex with someone else but no one I know in real life. I’m pretty sure DH does the same as we are both breathing humans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometime when I’m facedown under my husband I fantasize about sex with someone else but no one I know in real life. I’m pretty sure DH does the same as we are both breathing humans.

I happen to know mine in real life. If they only knew!

[Anonymous]

Fantasy crushes are hot. Fun. Sorry but not going for a Girl Scout badge. I don’t think my husband cares…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s ok to bascially fantasize about anything you want, within reason. It’s better if you can share them with your significant other.

pretty sure it wouldn't be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s ok to bascially fantasize about anything you want, within reason. It’s better if you can share them with your significant other.

pretty sure it wouldn't be.

Yeah I’ll be keeping mine a secret 🤐

[Anonymous]

Of course I fantasize about my crush and no not sharing that with DH! He probably does the same but I don’t want to know.

[Anonymous]

Maybe if you tell yourself you shouldn’t it will be even hotter.

[Anonymous]

If it's bad, I don't really think I want to be good. I've been non-stop fantasizing about having sex with him. Though he is not single, I am single though so I feel it's okay. It's just imagination.

[Anonymous]

I fantasize about my crush just about every single day, whether I'm by myself or with my DH. No one knows, it's all in my head, so I'm not hurting anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it's bad, I don't really think I want to be good. I've been non-stop fantasizing about having sex with him. Though he is not single, I am single though so I feel it's okay. It's just imagination.

do you not care about his wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I fantasize about my crush just about every single day, whether I'm by myself or with my DH. No one knows, it's all in my head, so I'm not hurting anyone.

+1