How to deal with being the "poor" family

[Anonymous]

I have an older sister in the same situation. We make sure to spare her feelings. Are your sisters inviting you to events you couldn't afford? That's so gauche.

[Anonymous]

TROLLER! We know who you are. Your IP address is showing hahahahahaha

[Anonymous]

Someone please tell me, and help save me from wading through nonsense. Let’s get to
The most important nonsense.

WHAT is a designer puppy? Was it explained?

Is it a golden doodle?! 😃

[Anonymous]

I totally want a designer puppy. Are they sold at the LV store?

[Anonymous]

Why is this on the relationships page?

[Anonymous]

It should be deleted. I think the OP is a frequent troll.

[Anonymous]

The puppy thing made it not believable. C-.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The puppy thing made it not believable. C-.

Maybe but this is Literally the life of my sister. DH makes a good money in sales, and they can probably afford a fixer upper or townhouse in a safe neighborhood (she SAH right now after being laid off). But their friends from high school are all trust funder, moving into their 2nd $$$ home, jetting away to the mountains for the weekend (sis is invited but can’t afford to blow that much for weekend air fare).

One guy even had a tiff with his wealthy dad, b/c the dad wanted him to live in a particular town near them, and he refused and Dad cut off funds. Of course, son worked for Dads company so not really destitution here. He commiserated with my sister about how little house they could afford on just their salary (ie, wow is me I have to live like you until my dad starts paying again). This is not DC btw.

OP maybe a troll, but if you grew up somewhere were middle class people all move away, and you don’t have wealth, you are left with your Uber wealthy friends and try to keep up. I mean UMC don’t think twice about spending money on a movie, dinner out, and drinks but it is a lot of money to other people — for these trust funders airfare is like taxi fare.

[Anonymous]

Get off social media and be grateful for what you have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you thought about getting your puppy into underground dog fighting? I heard you can make a lot of money on rare breeds.

I love you.

[Anonymous]

OP, people have a tendency to never be content with what they have.

We moved from a modest house in a modest area to an upscale house in a posh neighborhood. But DC’s private school friends live in mansions in even more expensive neighborhoods that make our house look like a shack. But their neighborhood is a trailer park comparing to another, even more expensive area where each lot is an estate. It goes on and on.

You can move from one level to another, but you will never be satisfied.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a grip. You're rich. You are jealous of richer people. Get over yourself.

I was at 280k combined income with ex in late 40s.

I am now divorced and happier than you with my 100k job. You live in a bubble and you need to stop being jealous of other richer people. You are better off that MOST people.

Yeah but you are old and bought a house when homes were cheap. Changes entire life trajectory.

I am not old. I did not buy when houses were cheap. I just bought.

So you never owned a house when you were married?

Yes, I owned a house. He kept it. I did not get half. Only bought it 3 years ago. No growth in equity to sell. Only in the house 18 months then divorced. We moved a lot. I also paid off 70k in student debt from
1999 by age 31. I am early 40s. I do not have wealth like op. At all. I still managed to buy a townhouse 6 months ago. I have no great windfall due to age. Way to make huge assumptions. I have a kindergartener. No where close to being a grandma (ex is late 40s). It is not like we owned a house for years and years and had a lot of equity like you assume. Not the case. OP has no reason to complain.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a grip. You're rich. You are jealous of richer people. Get over yourself.

I was at 280k combined income with ex in late 40s.

I am now divorced and happier than you with my 100k job. You live in a bubble and you need to stop being jealous of other richer people. You are better off that MOST people.

Yeah but you are old and bought a house when homes were cheap. Changes entire life trajectory.

I am not old. I did not buy when houses were cheap. I just bought.

So you never owned a house when you were married?

Yes, I owned a house. He kept it. I did not get half. Only bought it 3 years ago. No growth in equity to sell. Only in the house 18 months then divorced. We moved a lot. I also paid off 70k in student debt from
1999 by age 31. I am early 40s. I do not have wealth like op. At all. I still managed to buy a townhouse 6 months ago. I have no great windfall due to age. Way to make huge assumptions. I have a kindergartener. No where close to being a grandma (ex is late 40s). It is not like we owned a house for years and years and had a lot of equity like you assume. Not the case. OP has no reason to complain.

So you bought your first house and had first kid in your 40s? Yeah, there is sure more to your story.

[Anonymous]

You’ll never be happy with this mindset. But it’s so extreme and cartoonish (hence why people think you’re a troll) that there’s no point taking the time to try to steer you in another direction. It’s pointless.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a grip. You're rich. You are jealous of richer people. Get over yourself.

I was at 280k combined income with ex in late 40s.

I am now divorced and happier than you with my 100k job. You live in a bubble and you need to stop being jealous of other richer people. You are better off that MOST people.

Yeah but you are old and bought a house when homes were cheap. Changes entire life trajectory.

I am not old. I did not buy when houses were cheap. I just bought.

So you never owned a house when you were married?

Yes, I owned a house. He kept it. I did not get half. Only bought it 3 years ago. No growth in equity to sell. Only in the house 18 months then divorced. We moved a lot. I also paid off 70k in student debt from
1999 by age 31. I am early 40s. I do not have wealth like op. At all. I still managed to buy a townhouse 6 months ago. I have no great windfall due to age. Way to make huge assumptions. I have a kindergartener. No where close to being a grandma (ex is late 40s). It is not like we owned a house for years and years and had a lot of equity like you assume. Not the case. OP has no reason to complain.

So you bought your first house and had first kid in your 40s? Yeah, there is sure more to your story.

NP. This is fairly common for people with PhDs (especially dual career), it takes so long to find permanent jobs for two in the same place, and they often don't pay as well as fields like consulting, sales, law. I often feel like the "poorer friend" compared to my doctor and lawyer friends in the DC area, most of my scientist friends got jobs in LCOL areas so their similar income goes further.