How to deal with being the "poor" family

[Anonymous]

An apartment??? Y’all are stupid.

Get over being “poor”. Figure out how to cope with being stupid.

[Anonymous]

Watch Home Economics on ABC. It’s a bit sitcom-y and broad humor, but clearly there is a zeitgeist of this dysfunction across society.

And where do you life Op? For example in Bay Area $300k is about same as $100k in DMV, which is DCUM dirt poor.

My sister makes about the same as you in Bay Area but can’t afford a SFH except in places like East Palo Alto or Sacramento. All of her friends are like yours, and it’s largely because our parents stretched and took out HELOC loans to pay for private school.

It sucks being the poor kid in private school, but sucks even more when all your adult friends start dipping into trust funds and marrying in their social circle and you are completely left behind. People will never visit you in your sketchy gentrifying neighborhood and you can’t zip off to Hawaii for the weekend.

Make new friends OP, you won’t be able to keep up.

[Anonymous]

get a therapist?

[Anonymous]

Delete your social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch Home Economics on ABC. It’s a bit sitcom-y and broad humor, but clearly there is a zeitgeist of this dysfunction across society.

And where do you life Op? For example in Bay Area $300k is about same as $100k in DMV, which is DCUM dirt poor.

My sister makes about the same as you in Bay Area but can’t afford a SFH except in places like East Palo Alto or Sacramento. All of her friends are like yours, and it’s largely because our parents stretched and took out HELOC loans to pay for private school.

It sucks being the poor kid in private school, but sucks even more when all your adult friends start dipping into trust funds and marrying in their social circle and you are completely left behind. People will never visit you in your sketchy gentrifying neighborhood and you can’t zip off to Hawaii for the weekend.

Make new friends OP, you won’t be able to keep up.

OP here. We are early-mid thirties and our income is recent.

And yes, we live in NOVA so we have not yet bought a house. Our friends and family are trust funders and high income professionals. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

Envy is an ugly trait and can ruin relationships. Enjoy what you have while you have it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Delete your social media.

This. It is so stupid. Some richy rich can always go find some post about something more lavish or expensive or deluxe or whatever. Find something else to fret about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Envy is an ugly trait and can ruin relationships. Enjoy what you have while you have it.

this. Where are you making your friends? Do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Watch Home Economics on ABC. It’s a bit sitcom-y and broad humor, but clearly there is a zeitgeist of this dysfunction across society.

And where do you life Op? For example in Bay Area $300k is about same as $100k in DMV, which is DCUM dirt poor.

My sister makes about the same as you in Bay Area but can’t afford a SFH except in places like East Palo Alto or Sacramento. All of her friends are like yours, and it’s largely because our parents stretched and took out HELOC loans to pay for private school.

It sucks being the poor kid in private school, but sucks even more when all your adult friends start dipping into trust funds and marrying in their social circle and you are completely left behind. People will never visit you in your sketchy gentrifying neighborhood and you can’t zip off to Hawaii for the weekend.

Make new friends OP, you won’t be able to keep up.

OP here. We are early-mid thirties and our income is recent.

And yes, we live in NOVA so we have not yet bought a house. Our friends and family are trust funders and high income professionals. It sucks.

I know it’s SO hard. You’re probably eligible for Medicaid and SNAP - maybe that would help ease the burden? Maybe you could create a GoFundMe or something. Big hugs, girl. You’ll get through this somehow 🙏

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Watch Home Economics on ABC. It’s a bit sitcom-y and broad humor, but clearly there is a zeitgeist of this dysfunction across society.

And where do you life Op? For example in Bay Area $300k is about same as $100k in DMV, which is DCUM dirt poor.

My sister makes about the same as you in Bay Area but can’t afford a SFH except in places like East Palo Alto or Sacramento. All of her friends are like yours, and it’s largely because our parents stretched and took out HELOC loans to pay for private school.

It sucks being the poor kid in private school, but sucks even more when all your adult friends start dipping into trust funds and marrying in their social circle and you are completely left behind. People will never visit you in your sketchy gentrifying neighborhood and you can’t zip off to Hawaii for the weekend.

Make new friends OP, you won’t be able to keep up.

OP here. We are early-mid thirties and our income is recent.

And yes, we live in NOVA so we have not yet bought a house. Our friends and family are trust funders and high income professionals. It sucks.

If you are from NOVA why is your social circle so limited? Did you both go to Sidwell or something? Do you only make friends at charity galas?

[Anonymous]

STFU

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Watch Home Economics on ABC. It’s a bit sitcom-y and broad humor, but clearly there is a zeitgeist of this dysfunction across society.

And where do you life Op? For example in Bay Area $300k is about same as $100k in DMV, which is DCUM dirt poor.

My sister makes about the same as you in Bay Area but can’t afford a SFH except in places like East Palo Alto or Sacramento. All of her friends are like yours, and it’s largely because our parents stretched and took out HELOC loans to pay for private school.

It sucks being the poor kid in private school, but sucks even more when all your adult friends start dipping into trust funds and marrying in their social circle and you are completely left behind. People will never visit you in your sketchy gentrifying neighborhood and you can’t zip off to Hawaii for the weekend.

Make new friends OP, you won’t be able to keep up.

OP here. We are early-mid thirties and our income is recent.

And yes, we live in NOVA so we have not yet bought a house. Our friends and family are trust funders and high income professionals. It sucks.

I know it’s SO hard. You’re probably eligible for Medicaid and SNAP - maybe that would help ease the burden? Maybe you could create a GoFundMe or something. Big hugs, girl. You’ll get through this somehow 🙏

Unhappiness is default state when poorer than “peers”. For whatever reason Op has built a peer group of just ultra rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Watch Home Economics on ABC. It’s a bit sitcom-y and broad humor, but clearly there is a zeitgeist of this dysfunction across society.

And where do you life Op? For example in Bay Area $300k is about same as $100k in DMV, which is DCUM dirt poor.

My sister makes about the same as you in Bay Area but can’t afford a SFH except in places like East Palo Alto or Sacramento. All of her friends are like yours, and it’s largely because our parents stretched and took out HELOC loans to pay for private school.

It sucks being the poor kid in private school, but sucks even more when all your adult friends start dipping into trust funds and marrying in their social circle and you are completely left behind. People will never visit you in your sketchy gentrifying neighborhood and you can’t zip off to Hawaii for the weekend.

Make new friends OP, you won’t be able to keep up.

OP here. We are early-mid thirties and our income is recent.

And yes, we live in NOVA so we have not yet bought a house. Our friends and family are trust funders and high income professionals. It sucks.

I know it’s SO hard. You’re probably eligible for Medicaid and SNAP - maybe that would help ease the burden? Maybe you could create a GoFundMe or something. Big hugs, girl. You’ll get through this somehow 🙏

Unhappiness is default state when poorer than “peers”. For whatever reason Op has built a peer group of just ultra rich.

https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2005-08/asa-mcb080805.php

I mean she is ridiculous. But I know many people like this, it’s not like they hang out and make friends in Walmart checkout.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch Home Economics on ABC. It’s a bit sitcom-y and broad humor, but clearly there is a zeitgeist of this dysfunction across society.

And where do you life Op? For example in Bay Area $300k is about same as $100k in DMV, which is DCUM dirt poor.

My sister makes about the same as you in Bay Area but can’t afford a SFH except in places like East Palo Alto or Sacramento. All of her friends are like yours, and it’s largely because our parents stretched and took out HELOC loans to pay for private school.

It sucks being the poor kid in private school, but sucks even more when all your adult friends start dipping into trust funds and marrying in their social circle and you are completely left behind. People will never visit you in your sketchy gentrifying neighborhood and you can’t zip off to Hawaii for the weekend.

Make new friends OP, you won’t be able to keep up.

The bolded are words of wisdom. The bolded will also strike a cord for many.

It’s fascinating seeing the increase of threads like these. The economic anxiety and pain is becoming more the norm for many in white america.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Watch Home Economics on ABC. It’s a bit sitcom-y and broad humor, but clearly there is a zeitgeist of this dysfunction across society.

And where do you life Op? For example in Bay Area $300k is about same as $100k in DMV, which is DCUM dirt poor.

My sister makes about the same as you in Bay Area but can’t afford a SFH except in places like East Palo Alto or Sacramento. All of her friends are like yours, and it’s largely because our parents stretched and took out HELOC loans to pay for private school.

It sucks being the poor kid in private school, but sucks even more when all your adult friends start dipping into trust funds and marrying in their social circle and you are completely left behind. People will never visit you in your sketchy gentrifying neighborhood and you can’t zip off to Hawaii for the weekend.

Make new friends OP, you won’t be able to keep up.

OP here. We are early-mid thirties and our income is recent.

And yes, we live in NOVA so we have not yet bought a house. Our friends and family are trust funders and high income professionals. It sucks.

I know it’s SO hard. You’re probably eligible for Medicaid and SNAP - maybe that would help ease the burden? Maybe you could create a GoFundMe or something. Big hugs, girl. You’ll get through this somehow 🙏

Unhappiness is default state when poorer than “peers”. For whatever reason Op has built a peer group of just ultra rich.

Wow, so true…I’ll just be over here creating a GoFundMe for a tiny violin.