How to deal with being the "poor" family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a grip. You're rich. You are jealous of richer people. Get over yourself.

I was at 280k combined income with ex in late 40s.

I am now divorced and happier than you with my 100k job. You live in a bubble and you need to stop being jealous of other richer people. You are better off that MOST people.

Yeah but you are old and bought a house when homes were cheap. Changes entire life trajectory.

I am not old. I did not buy when houses were cheap. I just bought.

When did you buy your house? Late 40s can be a grandmother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a grip. You're rich. You are jealous of richer people. Get over yourself.

I was at 280k combined income with ex in late 40s.

I am now divorced and happier than you with my 100k job. You live in a bubble and you need to stop being jealous of other richer people. You are better off that MOST people.

Yeah but you are old and bought a house when homes were cheap. Changes entire life trajectory.

I am not old. I did not buy when houses were cheap. I just bought.

So you never owned a house when you were married?

[Anonymous]

OP you’re definitely a troll.
Who in the world thinks $300k is poor?
And all the things you listed, good for you.
Life isn’t all about designer puppies and status symbols. Get a grip and some new priorities.
Signed,
Happy family of 4 making $80k/year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hahahahahaha, I clicked on this thread because I have this issue but real (we make less than 100k and have a lot of friends who make what OP does or higher, plus know people with mysterious family money sources, and it does sometimes stress me out or cause envy and I would actually love to talk about how to deal with those feelings especially as we get older and our kids get older and we just can't offer our kids what others are).

Anyway, a good laugh. This is not the thread for me.

Pp, I am someone who tends towards envy and the best way to deal with it is to focus on your own next steps. For me that means focusing on my kids, my career, where we want to go and what we want to do. I don’t necessarily want all the things my richer friends have so I try to keep focus on what I want. There will always be someone wealthier than you, with a better job, etc.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We are early-mid thirties and our income is recent.

And yes, we live in NOVA so we have not yet bought a house. Our friends and family are trust funders and high income professionals. It sucks.

OP - what you need is a good spanking. So, are you hot?

If so, please ask one of your hot, trust funder girlfriends to join us in my Tysons' apartment. There, I can treat you like you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Felt this way until I had kids. Then I didn't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An apartment??? Y’all are stupid.

Get over being “poor”. Figure out how to cope with being stupid.

I'm not sure what you mean, PP. An apartment with all these rich investment banker friends means OP lives in NYC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An apartment??? Y’all are stupid.

Get over being “poor”. Figure out how to cope with being stupid.

I'm not sure what you mean, PP. An apartment with all these rich investment banker friends means OP lives in NYC.

^^^
My mistake. She really meant apartment in NOVA.

[Anonymous]

You are the epitome of a pathetic person. I know that comes across as an insult, but it really is meant as a simple statement. I genuinely feel sorry for you and hope you're able to find contentment in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5 out of 5 for troll effort.

+1

[Anonymous]

How was the dog designed? IVF?

[Anonymous]

You deserve your friends and family, and your position among them, because you are such a classist to begin with. Barf. It's only going to get so much worse too if you can't buy the latest $1.6 to $2m mcmodern. buckle up

[Anonymous]

Bet you 10 to 1 their lives are a total wreck behind closed doors. Be thankful for what you have. Think about those business owners that went under due to COVID.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is really silly in light of the fact that given the state of the rest of the world and even the U.S., we are extremely lucky.

Graduate degrees
HHI of 300k+

A cute designer puppy
An apartment in a desirable location
Nice international trips

But sometimes, the envy bug bites. Both DH and I have siblings and friends who, for one reason or the other, seems to be a few steps higher than us on the socioeconomic scale. DH's sister married a wealthy investment banker and they live a very flashy instagram perfect life. My sister also married a rich guy and seems to have everything I have but a higher end version of it.

Meanwhile all of our friends are also well to do. Most come from family wealth so their lives get cushier as we get older.

How do you keep envy in check?

I know I am very blessed but...sometimes, I'd like to feel like the top dog instead of the bottom one!

Get back to us when all of you are in your 60s and 70s. By then, you'll see that no one gets a perfect, charmed life.

Or be a fly on the wall on any therapist's office...you are looking at external things. The inner emotional and psychological realities of people's lives are a completely different thing. And it's rarely pretty or easy for anyone, trust me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is really silly in light of the fact that given the state of the rest of the world and even the U.S., we are extremely lucky.

Graduate degrees
HHI of 300k+

A cute designer puppy
An apartment in a desirable location
Nice international trips

But sometimes, the envy bug bites. Both DH and I have siblings and friends who, for one reason or the other, seems to be a few steps higher than us on the socioeconomic scale. DH's sister married a wealthy investment banker and they live a very flashy instagram perfect life. My sister also married a rich guy and seems to have everything I have but a higher end version of it.

Meanwhile all of our friends are also well to do. Most come from family wealth so their lives get cushier as we get older.

How do you keep envy in check?

I know I am very blessed but...sometimes, I'd like to feel like the top dog instead of the bottom one!

Get back to us when all of you are in your 60s and 70s. By then, you'll see that no one gets a perfect, charmed life.

Or be a fly on the wall on any therapist's office...you are looking at external things. The inner emotional and psychological realities of people's lives are a completely different thing. And it's rarely pretty or easy for anyone, trust me.

I disagree. No reason to look for trouble in others lives, some people just get all the breaks and live incredible lives. I’m not one of them but know a few.