Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have a great private coach at a reasonable rate. My son worked with him with one other kid, who doesn't want to do it over the summer. Coach says he will still do it for my son at the same rate we paid before (we do not have to take over the other kid's half of the cost). My son says he does not want to, because it is only fun if another kid is there. Of course, we are trying to find another kid interested in working with him, but no luck so far (we would need the other kid to be appropximately at his level of play, meaning does travel on some level). I feel like my son is passing up a good opportunity to work with this coach. Would you require your kid to do so?
Generally, I listen to my kids and if not necessary than I dont force them. Do you want him to get a scholarship for college? Become pro? Why is this so important? Is it more for you? You can brag how good he is or wished you had that opportunity? Don't live through your kid.
Kid is not being unreasonable.
This kids goals are none of your business and irrelevant to the question. If you get a math tutor are you living through your kid? Piano lessons? Are they worth it if the kid doesn't play at Madison Square Garden?
I'll tell you simply what kids get out of things like personal training.
1. They learn that with extra work comes improvement.
2. Improvement in anything doesn't always come easy.
3. If you set goals, work at them you can achieve them.
4. In spite of all the hard work put in there is always going to be somebody who is better.
5. Life isn't fair and doesn't owe you anything.
These are lessons kids who dedicate themselves to SOMETHING and work at it will learn, even if they are unaware of it at the time. It could be math, piano, soccer, art or any form of creative or intellectual outlet.
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