How old was your daughter when you allowed her to get highlights in her hair?

[Anonymous]

For the color highlights, does the school allow it? My DD's private school doesn't allow it and I'm happy about it. That color is crap and I'm not paying for it to ruin her hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you pay for it or make her pay for it?

They can pay for it whenever they 1. have the money and 2. can accept that it's unlikely to turn out exactly the way they want.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if the boys are doing this. Hmm.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if the boys are doing this. Hmm.

Of course they are. There were a few in my DD 5th grade class that head a full head of purple, blue, red hair.

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Anonymous wrote:For the color highlights, does the school allow it? My DD's private school doesn't allow it and I'm happy about it. That color is crap and I'm not paying for it to ruin her hair.

Yes. Public school doesn’t dictate hair color, make up or piercings.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if the boys are doing this. Hmm.

I’m a PP with a daughter who highlighted hers at 10. I also have a son and his friends were doing all sorts of bleach and color in elementary school. He never had an interest but blue and green seemed popular when he was in mid elementary. They would bleach it then color. It grows out so fast with boys so I think parents were more willing.

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Anonymous wrote:Really shocked by all the people letting 10-13 yr olds get this done, yikes!

Shocked? Really? Stop clutching your pearls, Karen.

I wouldn’t allow it but I’m against 40 year olds highlighting or dying their hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother was a genuine frump. I never really learned how to have a conversation with anyone at the beauty salon, what to ask for. I made sure to take my girls to have their eyebrows waxed beginning in high school because I wanted them to be able to ask for services, etc. when they were in college. I also took them for pedicures and manicures so that they would feel comfortable getting these services if they went to a formal or something in college. I know I'm going to get negative feedback for this -- but how I wish someone had done these things with me, including high lights, when I was in high school. I was too shy and lacking in knowledge to ever be able to do these things in college. I was such a dork and having a frumpy mom didn't help!

SAME. I would get into the worst fights with my mom because I wanted like a $20 straightener at Target when I was 15 and I was not allowed to buy one with my own money. I went through puberty and had thick black hair on my legs and armpits and wasn't allowed to start shaving until I was maybe almost graduated from high school. I went to college having almost no idea how to do anything beauty related. It was the worst. Girls are mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother was a genuine frump. I never really learned how to have a conversation with anyone at the beauty salon, what to ask for. I made sure to take my girls to have their eyebrows waxed beginning in high school because I wanted them to be able to ask for services, etc. when they were in college. I also took them for pedicures and manicures so that they would feel comfortable getting these services if they went to a formal or something in college. I know I'm going to get negative feedback for this -- but how I wish someone had done these things with me, including high lights, when I was in high school. I was too shy and lacking in knowledge to ever be able to do these things in college. I was such a dork and having a frumpy mom didn't help!

SAME. I would get into the worst fights with my mom because I wanted like a $20 straightener at Target when I was 15 and I was not allowed to buy one with my own money. I went through puberty and had thick black hair on my legs and armpits and wasn't allowed to start shaving until I was maybe almost graduated from high school. I went to college having almost no idea how to do anything beauty related. It was the worst. Girls are mean.

But allowing your dd to be Paris Hilton is equally bad. Actually, worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother was a genuine frump. I never really learned how to have a conversation with anyone at the beauty salon, what to ask for. I made sure to take my girls to have their eyebrows waxed beginning in high school because I wanted them to be able to ask for services, etc. when they were in college. I also took them for pedicures and manicures so that they would feel comfortable getting these services if they went to a formal or something in college. I know I'm going to get negative feedback for this -- but how I wish someone had done these things with me, including high lights, when I was in high school. I was too shy and lacking in knowledge to ever be able to do these things in college. I was such a dork and having a frumpy mom didn't help!

SAME. I would get into the worst fights with my mom because I wanted like a $20 straightener at Target when I was 15 and I was not allowed to buy one with my own money. I went through puberty and had thick black hair on my legs and armpits and wasn't allowed to start shaving until I was maybe almost graduated from high school. I went to college having almost no idea how to do anything beauty related. It was the worst. Girls are mean.

But allowing your dd to be Paris Hilton is equally bad. Actually, worse.

That’s quite a leap you made there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother was a genuine frump. I never really learned how to have a conversation with anyone at the beauty salon, what to ask for. I made sure to take my girls to have their eyebrows waxed beginning in high school because I wanted them to be able to ask for services, etc. when they were in college. I also took them for pedicures and manicures so that they would feel comfortable getting these services if they went to a formal or something in college. I know I'm going to get negative feedback for this -- but how I wish someone had done these things with me, including high lights, when I was in high school. I was too shy and lacking in knowledge to ever be able to do these things in college. I was such a dork and having a frumpy mom didn't help!

SAME. I would get into the worst fights with my mom because I wanted like a $20 straightener at Target when I was 15 and I was not allowed to buy one with my own money. I went through puberty and had thick black hair on my legs and armpits and wasn't allowed to start shaving until I was maybe almost graduated from high school. I went to college having almost no idea how to do anything beauty related. It was the worst. Girls are mean.

But allowing your dd to be Paris Hilton is equally bad. Actually, worse.

That’s quite a leap you made there.

The huge leap was made by the posters talking about frumpiness.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother was a genuine frump. I never really learned how to have a conversation with anyone at the beauty salon, what to ask for. I made sure to take my girls to have their eyebrows waxed beginning in high school because I wanted them to be able to ask for services, etc. when they were in college. I also took them for pedicures and manicures so that they would feel comfortable getting these services if they went to a formal or something in college. I know I'm going to get negative feedback for this -- but how I wish someone had done these things with me, including high lights, when I was in high school. I was too shy and lacking in knowledge to ever be able to do these things in college. I was such a dork and having a frumpy mom didn't help!

SAME. I would get into the worst fights with my mom because I wanted like a $20 straightener at Target when I was 15 and I was not allowed to buy one with my own money. I went through puberty and had thick black hair on my legs and armpits and wasn't allowed to start shaving until I was maybe almost graduated from high school. I went to college having almost no idea how to do anything beauty related. It was the worst. Girls are mean.

But allowing your dd to be Paris Hilton is equally bad. Actually, worse.

That’s quite a leap you made there.

NP. Not really. People here are talking about 10 yr olds getting salon high lights every 8 weeks. That is bananas.

[Anonymous]

We live in Tulsa and all the girls get highlights young- they also get nail tips and acrylics and even worse/ they shave all their private hair completely. I’m from Tulsa but lived in northeast and both parents are from NY- so I have a mix of backgrounds.
I think it’s crazy and my daughter is 13 and won’t do highlights- too young to start the southern trend of spending all your time and money solely on artificial beauty. Once she’s in high school, I’ll probably give in- but not junior high.
Allowed nails once for special event and we did dip which is like gel- not fake nails with 2 week fills. That also kills your real nails- which is why I only allowed for special occasion.
But have to look at the example you set.

Let them be natural - But then I don’t have fake boobs and Botox which is about as common down here as the carpool lane.... again, in high school- probably will allow these necessary evils.

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Anonymous wrote:Really shocked by all the people letting 10-13 yr olds get this done, yikes!

+1

Curious geographic location for those responding. Don't know if still the case, but years ago in south was no big deal at all and part of a haircut. Getting highlights by 4th grade was no different than getting new shoes for new school year (and parents paid).

In the deep south where it's cheap, sure.
Not here.

Yes, it was deep south and not just below Mason-Dixon line south.

This is fascinating! It’s common for kids in the south to color their hair blond?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We live in Tulsa and all the girls get highlights young- they also get nail tips and acrylics and even worse/ they shave all their private hair completely. I’m from Tulsa but lived in northeast and both parents are from NY- so I have a mix of backgrounds.
I think it’s crazy and my daughter is 13 and won’t do highlights- too young to start the southern trend of spending all your time and money solely on artificial beauty. Once she’s in high school, I’ll probably give in- but not junior high.
Allowed nails once for special event and we did dip which is like gel- not fake nails with 2 week fills. That also kills your real nails- which is why I only allowed for special occasion.
But have to look at the example you set.

Let them be natural - But then I don’t have fake boobs and Botox which is about as common down here as the carpool lane.... again, in high school- probably will allow these necessary evils.

That is insane. I don’t know any MS or younger child getting their nails done.

But Botox and implants are common here too. I know many frump natural women by DCUM standards who regularly go for Botox. I’m one of them. I never wear make up but I’m not missing those injections.