Sister books the same wedding venue I wanted to get married at

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be annoyed too. My SIL's wedding was pretty much identical to mine: colors, theme, flowers. They weren't involved in my wedding at all, but for her wedding they raved about how unique and beautiful it was. I just rolled my eyes.

I don't have a sister, but I'd be happy with a friend who got married at one of my dream places and would be happy to participate.

Listen, you can be basic or you can be territorial. If you decide to be both you're just going to be mad every day of your life.

LOL, I love it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be annoyed too. My SIL's wedding was pretty much identical to mine: colors, theme, flowers. They weren't involved in my wedding at all, but for her wedding they raved about how unique and beautiful it was. I just rolled my eyes.

I don't have a sister, but I'd be happy with a friend who got married at one of my dream places and would be happy to participate.

Listen, you can be basic or you can be territorial. If you decide to be both you're just going to be mad every day of your life.

LOL, I love it.

+1. Comment of the day.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Also her wedding decor pinterest board is a copycat of mine.

How am I not supposed to be annoyed?

She likes your taste!

She wants to minimize effort since you've already done the research.

Do you have other issues with her? b/c if this is an isolated incident I'd think you're incredibly childish and immature.

OP here. I feel like my sister simultaneously tries to one-up me and also copy me at the same time. Its not like she actually compliments me or gives me credit. She is like my shadow I can't get rid of.

You got married a few years ago - make your board private or archive it. And the pick something else you love now. New stuff comes out all the time! Find some new favorites.

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Anonymous wrote:You can still have an event there. Lol. Renew your vows the week before? Kidding. I’m sorry. I understand it’s painful (and obnoxious) right now - consider it a hat tip to your good taste, but later.

OP can (secretly) arrange to renew her vows during sister's wedding! (Bonus, place is already booked).
Kidding, kidding, but what a great DCUM thread that would be.

Sorry, OP, I actually do see why it would sting but I urge you to realize this really isn't a big deal in the scheme of things. Your marriage is good? If so, that is all that mattes. If not, be happy you didn't spend the extra money!

Announce your pregnancy, first grandchild in the family. Right before the first dance. As part of a toast.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can still have an event there. Lol. Renew your vows the week before? Kidding. I’m sorry. I understand it’s painful (and obnoxious) right now - consider it a hat tip to your good taste, but later.

OP can (secretly) arrange to renew her vows during sister's wedding! (Bonus, place is already booked).
Kidding, kidding, but what a great DCUM thread that would be.

Sorry, OP, I actually do see why it would sting but I urge you to realize this really isn't a big deal in the scheme of things. Your marriage is good? If so, that is all that mattes. If not, be happy you didn't spend the extra money!

Announce your pregnancy, first grandchild in the family. Right before the first dance. As part of a toast.

(Don’t really do this)

But hopefully it made you laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is SO petty but I am so angry this morning. A few years ago I could not get married at my dream wedding venue as it was too expensive for my husband and I.

My sister is wedding planning and has decided she will get married there. She knew how sad I was so I am so angry and annoyed that she would do this to me!

1) It's "my husband and me"
2) so what? She's getting married there because she clearly liked it too. Grow up.

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oh boy. Not good, OP. Not good. Be happy for your sister. It is compliment to you that she chose the venue you liked the most.

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You are kidding right? We are in the middle of a pandemic and there's political unrest. Why are you worried about where you sister books her wedding? So petty and childish. I would be happy if my sister was able to have her wedding at the venue I wanted. I would want the best for her. Life is too short to worry about stuff that doesn't matter.

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Anonymous wrote:Understand being upset about it, process it and give yourself time to work though it... but don't mention it to her. Who knows her reasons, etc. Focus on what you can control, your emotions and your reaction. Sounds tough, but you can do it!

I only read page 1 of the responses. I agree with the above. I say that as someone who still has a hard time watching other people live my dreams. For me, I've realized that while I can be happy for others, it is painful for me because it reminds me of a dream I never realized. I don't have solutions for that. It just sucks, especially if you did all the "right" things to achieve that dream and it eluded you while someone else seems to have fallen into your dream. It will take strength and grace to get through your sister's wedding, but you can and should do that. You're not alone (if that makes you feel any better).

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Isn’t it cool though that you’re married, which is the whole point of having a wedding? And isn’t it so cool that you’ll get to experience the venue through your sister as a guest without any of the stress, hassle, and expense of planning it or paying for it? Sounds awesome.

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Be happy for your sister.

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Anonymous wrote:Isn’t it cool though that you’re married, which is the whole point of having a wedding? And isn’t it so cool that you’ll get to experience the venue through your sister as a guest without any of the stress, hassle, and expense of planning it or paying for it? Sounds awesome.

Well said. The marriage is more important than the venue. As you get older, you get these things.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah seems kinda thoughtless of her, since she knew how sad you were not to be able to be married there, but you’ll get over it.

Normally I would be "you don't own the place" camp, but I agree with this - if she knew you were sad about this, it is not very nice. At the very least she could have acknowledge the awkwardness or asked if you would be OK with it.

Were there loads of other good options?

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OP, I understand that this makes you sad. But you have to recognize that the anger toward your sister stems from jealousy. Envy is never a good choice ... you need to acknowledge it, give yourself some time to process it, and then let it go. Don't let your bitterness ruin this event or your relationship with your sister.

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Are you the pp that is posting about how you are jealous that sis is marrying a rich dude?