If you lie about your hometown, why?

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I've started asking people "where did you grow up?" Everyone wants to seem like a lifelong urban dweller, and they will do anything to maintain that illusion. It's kind of sad.

Seriously why do you care? Those who are fixated on this seem like the nosiest, most status-obsessed, people. And I'm someone who answers that I'm from Florida because I am. But I don't care how other people answer, I'm just making conversation.

Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

There you go. The bolded is why some people are uncomfortable with answering your question straight on. You think where they were born and raised is an important clue to their identify, they think you'll make assumptions about them and they'd be right. Plenty of people don't have good associations with where they grew up and may feel more emotional attachment to somewhere else where they actively carved out their identity.

Do you not see the irony of your statement?

Of course it does. Everyone is influenced, both by where they live, and where they grew up. We're suppose to erase 20 years of a person's life?

So basically, you think people will judge you for where you're from and you're afraid of that judgement? Because you think you grew up in some loser town or something?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I've started asking people "where did you grow up?" Everyone wants to seem like a lifelong urban dweller, and they will do anything to maintain that illusion. It's kind of sad.

Seriously why do you care? Those who are fixated on this seem like the nosiest, most status-obsessed, people. And I'm someone who answers that I'm from Florida because I am. But I don't care how other people answer, I'm just making conversation.

Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

Pp— OP stated her reason above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people lie about anything? Because of some internal pain or dysfunction. The answer is not judgement, but sympathy and understanding. Probably they're insecure. better to come at it with kindness and not judgement

Just because people don't feel they owe random busybodies their life story does not mean they are insecure or in pain. OP freely admitted that he/she is trying to profile people based on their hometown, which is weird and rude, and not a good way to get to know people at all.

Where did they admit that? Also why would someone mind being profiled?

OP:
Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

Why might someone mind being profiled? FFS, are you as obtuse as OP? Try coming from a small town in Kentucky where everyone thinks you're a stupid hick. Or PP who hates the stupid "Minnesota" accent everyone feels obligated to put on. Some people don't feel like playing to your dumb stereotypes over and over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I've started asking people "where did you grow up?" Everyone wants to seem like a lifelong urban dweller, and they will do anything to maintain that illusion. It's kind of sad.

Seriously why do you care? Those who are fixated on this seem like the nosiest, most status-obsessed, people. And I'm someone who answers that I'm from Florida because I am. But I don't care how other people answer, I'm just making conversation.

Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

PP, you are being intellectually dishonest on purpose and we all see it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I've started asking people "where did you grow up?" Everyone wants to seem like a lifelong urban dweller, and they will do anything to maintain that illusion. It's kind of sad.

Seriously why do you care? Those who are fixated on this seem like the nosiest, most status-obsessed, people. And I'm someone who answers that I'm from Florida because I am. But I don't care how other people answer, I'm just making conversation.

Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

There you go. The bolded is why some people are uncomfortable with answering your question straight on. You think where they were born and raised is an important clue to their identify, they think you'll make assumptions about them and they'd be right. Plenty of people don't have good associations with where they grew up and may feel more emotional attachment to somewhere else where they actively carved out their identity.

Do you not see the irony of your statement?

Of course it does. Everyone is influenced, both by where they live, and where they grew up. We're suppose to erase 20 years of a person's life?

So basically, you think people will judge you for where you're from and you're afraid of that judgement? Because you think you grew up in some loser town or something?

Where are you from, OP? I noticed you never mentioned it. I guess you are afraid of our judgement?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people lie about anything? Because of some internal pain or dysfunction. The answer is not judgement, but sympathy and understanding. Probably they're insecure. better to come at it with kindness and not judgement

Just because people don't feel they owe random busybodies their life story does not mean they are insecure or in pain. OP freely admitted that he/she is trying to profile people based on their hometown, which is weird and rude, and not a good way to get to know people at all.

Where did they admit that? Also why would someone mind being profiled?

OP:
Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

Why might someone mind being profiled? FFS, are you as obtuse as OP? Try coming from a small town in Kentucky where everyone thinks you're a stupid hick. Or PP who hates the stupid "Minnesota" accent everyone feels obligated to put on. Some people don't feel like playing to your dumb stereotypes over and over.

So basically you dont answer correctly because you're ashamed? Why not say that rather than all this faux outrage?

People can probably already tell you're not FROM an urban area because of the vibe you give off. Energy is very easy to read. I dont see the big deal

[Anonymous]

OP, you don’t have to respond to every post.

When you ask the question, people are not lying, they simply don’t understand what you are asking as it is a generic question. If you want a specific answer, ask a specific question.

Again, most people are not lying, have insecurity issues, are embarrassed —- they simply don’t know you want to know they’re home town.

What a strange hill to die on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I've started asking people "where did you grow up?" Everyone wants to seem like a lifelong urban dweller, and they will do anything to maintain that illusion. It's kind of sad.

Seriously why do you care? Those who are fixated on this seem like the nosiest, most status-obsessed, people. And I'm someone who answers that I'm from Florida because I am. But I don't care how other people answer, I'm just making conversation.

Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

There you go. The bolded is why some people are uncomfortable with answering your question straight on. You think where they were born and raised is an important clue to their identify, they think you'll make assumptions about them and they'd be right. Plenty of people don't have good associations with where they grew up and may feel more emotional attachment to somewhere else where they actively carved out their identity.

Do you not see the irony of your statement?

Of course it does. Everyone is influenced, both by where they live, and where they grew up. We're suppose to erase 20 years of a person's life?

So basically, you think people will judge you for where you're from and you're afraid of that judgement? Because you think you grew up in some loser town or something?

Where are you from, OP? I noticed you never mentioned it. I guess you are afraid of our judgement?

No one asked, but I'm from DC, and I answer happily anytime someone asks. I'm not afraid of judgement which is why I dont lie

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I've started asking people "where did you grow up?" Everyone wants to seem like a lifelong urban dweller, and they will do anything to maintain that illusion. It's kind of sad.

Seriously why do you care? Those who are fixated on this seem like the nosiest, most status-obsessed, people. And I'm someone who answers that I'm from Florida because I am. But I don't care how other people answer, I'm just making conversation.

Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

There you go. The bolded is why some people are uncomfortable with answering your question straight on. You think where they were born and raised is an important clue to their identify, they think you'll make assumptions about them and they'd be right. Plenty of people don't have good associations with where they grew up and may feel more emotional attachment to somewhere else where they actively carved out their identity.

Do you not see the irony of your statement?

Of course it does. Everyone is influenced, both by where they live, and where they grew up. We're suppose to erase 20 years of a person's life?

So basically, you think people will judge you for where you're from and you're afraid of that judgement? Because you think you grew up in some loser town or something?

FFS, nobody owes you an answer if you're this judgmental and obtuse in real life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why I've started asking people "where did you grow up?" Everyone wants to seem like a lifelong urban dweller, and they will do anything to maintain that illusion. It's kind of sad.

Seriously why do you care? Those who are fixated on this seem like the nosiest, most status-obsessed, people. And I'm someone who answers that I'm from Florida because I am. But I don't care how other people answer, I'm just making conversation.

Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

There you go. The bolded is why some people are uncomfortable with answering your question straight on. You think where they were born and raised is an important clue to their identify, they think you'll make assumptions about them and they'd be right. Plenty of people don't have good associations with where they grew up and may feel more emotional attachment to somewhere else where they actively carved out their identity.

Do you not see the irony of your statement?

Of course it does. Everyone is influenced, both by where they live, and where they grew up. We're suppose to erase 20 years of a person's life?

So basically, you think people will judge you for where you're from and you're afraid of that judgement? Because you think you grew up in some loser town or something?

Who says that they lived in their hometown for 20 years? I lived in mine for 17. My spouse lived in five different states growing up.

[Anonymous]

Asking where someone is from is not the same as asking their hometown.... Also, the answer changes on who is asking. If a foreigner or someone from a completely different area asks, I say "DC area." If someone from this area asks, I say "Reston."

People normally ask where I grew up if they want to know hometown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you don’t have to respond to every post.

When you ask the question, people are not lying, they simply don’t understand what you are asking as it is a generic question. If you want a specific answer, ask a specific question.

Again, most people are not lying, have insecurity issues, are embarrassed —- they simply don’t know you want to know they’re home town.

What a strange hill to die on.

I mean... "where are you from?" is pretty specific. But like I said, I can shift over to "where did you grow up" if so many people are going to be disingenuous.

But I dont think the real answer is confusion. It's a simple answer, except for those who grew up in multiple cities (which i totally get)

I think the posters talking about now wanting to be judged for where they're from are the ones actually being honest. And I can at least respect THAT honesty

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people lie about anything? Because of some internal pain or dysfunction. The answer is not judgement, but sympathy and understanding. Probably they're insecure. better to come at it with kindness and not judgement

Just because people don't feel they owe random busybodies their life story does not mean they are insecure or in pain. OP freely admitted that he/she is trying to profile people based on their hometown, which is weird and rude, and not a good way to get to know people at all.

Where did they admit that? Also why would someone mind being profiled?

OP:
Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

Why might someone mind being profiled? FFS, are you as obtuse as OP? Try coming from a small town in Kentucky where everyone thinks you're a stupid hick. Or PP who hates the stupid "Minnesota" accent everyone feels obligated to put on. Some people don't feel like playing to your dumb stereotypes over and over.

So basically you dont answer correctly because you're ashamed? Why not say that rather than all this faux outrage?

People can probably already tell you're not FROM an urban area because of the vibe you give off. Energy is very easy to read. I dont see the big deal

So now all urban people have the same vibe and energy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why I've started asking people "where did you grow up?" Everyone wants to seem like a lifelong urban dweller, and they will do anything to maintain that illusion. It's kind of sad.

Seriously why do you care? Those who are fixated on this seem like the nosiest, most status-obsessed, people. And I'm someone who answers that I'm from Florida because I am. But I don't care how other people answer, I'm just making conversation.

Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

There you go. The bolded is why some people are uncomfortable with answering your question straight on. You think where they were born and raised is an important clue to their identify, they think you'll make assumptions about them and they'd be right. Plenty of people don't have good associations with where they grew up and may feel more emotional attachment to somewhere else where they actively carved out their identity.

Do you not see the irony of your statement?

Of course it does. Everyone is influenced, both by where they live, and where they grew up. We're suppose to erase 20 years of a person's life?

So basically, you think people will judge you for where you're from and you're afraid of that judgement? Because you think you grew up in some loser town or something?

Who says that they lived in their hometown for 20 years? I lived in mine for 17. My spouse lived in five different states growing up.

17 is pretty close to 20 years...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you don’t have to respond to every post.

When you ask the question, people are not lying, they simply don’t understand what you are asking as it is a generic question. If you want a specific answer, ask a specific question.

Again, most people are not lying, have insecurity issues, are embarrassed —- they simply don’t know you want to know they’re home town.

What a strange hill to die on.

OP *really* wants to die on this hill. It must be part of the "urban energy" she thinks people from cities give off. Which is odd, because no one *I* know who's from a big city is this much of a dick about this issue.