If you lie about your hometown, why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always figure people are either asking this to make polite conversation and don't really care about the answer or that it's a veiled, rude "no but where are you REALLY from" question that POC get asked.

I am a military kid, born overseas, lived all over. Went to middle/high school in NOVA and then UVA, and lived/worked in VA, MD and DC for a few years after graduation. Moved away about a decade ago (military) so I say "northern Virginia" or "DC area" most of the time.

I think it would be strange and easily caught out to just fabricate a hometown. But picking one place that you've lived the longest to avoid having a long retelling of your life to a stranger seems totally fine to me.

To me, you read as being from Nova, which is not particularly exciting nor worthy of any long retelling of your life (please no, because there's nothing interesting here)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always figure people are either asking this to make polite conversation and don't really care about the answer or that it's a veiled, rude "no but where are you REALLY from" question that POC get asked.

I am a military kid, born overseas, lived all over. Went to middle/high school in NOVA and then UVA, and lived/worked in VA, MD and DC for a few years after graduation. Moved away about a decade ago (military) so I say "northern Virginia" or "DC area" most of the time.

I think it would be strange and easily caught out to just fabricate a hometown. But picking one place that you've lived the longest to avoid having a long retelling of your life to a stranger seems totally fine to me.

Has nothing to do with being of color. Actually it's usually white people being squirrelly and lying about this issue, for some reason. Especially the ones that fancy themselves urbanites since they lived in a "big city" for 3 years

As you demonstrate, it's about you looking for something to judge them about, and they can sense that when you ask. They're probably giving the shortest and most boring answer so you'll go away and stop stalking them at the party. It sounds like you're really bad with people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always figure people are either asking this to make polite conversation and don't really care about the answer or that it's a veiled, rude "no but where are you REALLY from" question that POC get asked.

I am a military kid, born overseas, lived all over. Went to middle/high school in NOVA and then UVA, and lived/worked in VA, MD and DC for a few years after graduation. Moved away about a decade ago (military) so I say "northern Virginia" or "DC area" most of the time.

I think it would be strange and easily caught out to just fabricate a hometown. But picking one place that you've lived the longest to avoid having a long retelling of your life to a stranger seems totally fine to me.

Has nothing to do with being of color. Actually it's usually white people being squirrelly and lying about this issue, for some reason. Especially the ones that fancy themselves urbanites since they lived in a "big city" for 3 years

As you demonstrate, it's about you looking for something to judge them about, and they can sense that when you ask. They're probably giving the shortest and most boring answer so you'll go away and stop stalking them at the party. It sounds like you're really bad with people.

No, it's about people lying to seem interesting. Ala Hilaria, excuse me- Hilary- Baldwin, a white person btw who lied to portray herself as and align herself with POC. These types are super shady

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always figure people are either asking this to make polite conversation and don't really care about the answer or that it's a veiled, rude "no but where are you REALLY from" question that POC get asked.

I am a military kid, born overseas, lived all over. Went to middle/high school in NOVA and then UVA, and lived/worked in VA, MD and DC for a few years after graduation. Moved away about a decade ago (military) so I say "northern Virginia" or "DC area" most of the time.

I think it would be strange and easily caught out to just fabricate a hometown. But picking one place that you've lived the longest to avoid having a long retelling of your life to a stranger seems totally fine to me.

Has nothing to do with being of color. Actually it's usually white people being squirrelly and lying about this issue, for some reason. Especially the ones that fancy themselves urbanites since they lived in a "big city" for 3 years

As you demonstrate, it's about you looking for something to judge them about, and they can sense that when you ask. They're probably giving the shortest and most boring answer so you'll go away and stop stalking them at the party. It sounds like you're really bad with people.

No, it's about people lying to seem interesting. Ala Hilaria, excuse me- Hilary- Baldwin, a white person btw who lied to portray herself as and align herself with POC. These types are super shady

Huh? In her case, she wasn't trying to pretend she was a POC. She claimed to be from Spain which is, last time I checked, full of Europeans.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always figure people are either asking this to make polite conversation and don't really care about the answer or that it's a veiled, rude "no but where are you REALLY from" question that POC get asked.

I am a military kid, born overseas, lived all over. Went to middle/high school in NOVA and then UVA, and lived/worked in VA, MD and DC for a few years after graduation. Moved away about a decade ago (military) so I say "northern Virginia" or "DC area" most of the time.

I think it would be strange and easily caught out to just fabricate a hometown. But picking one place that you've lived the longest to avoid having a long retelling of your life to a stranger seems totally fine to me.

Has nothing to do with being of color. Actually it's usually white people being squirrelly and lying about this issue, for some reason. Especially the ones that fancy themselves urbanites since they lived in a "big city" for 3 years

As you demonstrate, it's about you looking for something to judge them about, and they can sense that when you ask. They're probably giving the shortest and most boring answer so you'll go away and stop stalking them at the party. It sounds like you're really bad with people.

OP IRL is very intrusive and rude I'm sure and gets off on feeling superior to others b.c they consider themselves more urbane and sophisticated. They are likely very boorish and bourgeois. People just want to get away from you, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I always figure people are either asking this to make polite conversation and don't really care about the answer or that it's a veiled, rude "no but where are you REALLY from" question that POC get asked.

I am a military kid, born overseas, lived all over. Went to middle/high school in NOVA and then UVA, and lived/worked in VA, MD and DC for a few years after graduation. Moved away about a decade ago (military) so I say "northern Virginia" or "DC area" most of the time.

I think it would be strange and easily caught out to just fabricate a hometown. But picking one place that you've lived the longest to avoid having a long retelling of your life to a stranger seems totally fine to me.

Has nothing to do with being of color. Actually it's usually white people being squirrelly and lying about this issue, for some reason. Especially the ones that fancy themselves urbanites since they lived in a "big city" for 3 years

As you demonstrate, it's about you looking for something to judge them about, and they can sense that when you ask. They're probably giving the shortest and most boring answer so you'll go away and stop stalking them at the party. It sounds like you're really bad with people.

No, it's about people lying to seem interesting. Ala Hilaria, excuse me- Hilary- Baldwin, a white person btw who lied to portray herself as and align herself with POC. These types are super shady

Huh? In her case, she wasn't trying to pretend she was a POC. She claimed to be from Spain which is, last time I checked, full of Europeans.

She did lots of interviews with outlets like Telemundo and did covers of magazines for Latinos and stuff like that. Basically implying or letting people believe that she was hispanic in some way (amny Americans assume anyone speaking Spanish is from south america, so granted it doesnt take much, but still)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because my home town in a crime filled cess pool and people tend to avoid me if I tell them where I am from when they first meet me. Eventually, once they have gotten to know me, and know I won't cut them, I will talk about it.

Newark?

Compton?

Those are literally the only two cities with nationally recognized negative connotations.

I'm the pp. My hometown has locally recognized negative connotations, particularly in Virginia. It doesn't have to be "national."
When I moved further south or west, it wasn't a problem.

When I move to within one or two states near Virginia, it is an issue. Have literally had coworkers refuse to talk to me, because they hated my hometown so much when stationed there. Hint Hint. After I opened up how much I hated it too, we usually became friendly. That's when I learned that it's best not to talk about specifically where I am from until I get to know others better.

I suspect you are projecting.

Haha, no.
Remember when I went to college and was asked at a party where I was from, the two guys my friend and I were flirting with literally laughed in my face, said "I'm sorry," and walked away. That's the first time I realized it was a liability.

Not sure there is as much hate now as there was back in the day. Even when I moved a few states away and was honest with my answer, usually people would honestly say how much they hated living there or being stationed there. Usually I'm not specific, and just say Hampton Roads or Virginia. Those usually have positive responses.

Tell us where it is. Crowd source the 2021 reaction here.

I will guess Norfolk, VA

That or Newport News. It's like saying Lorton. People believe there is still a prison there.

Pretty close
It's Portsmouth.

People generally dont have a high opinion of anyone from Virginia but that's for good reason. Many Virginians are just like that weird couple 90 Day Fiance who live on their farm from 90 Day Fiance. The one whose son looks like Little Debbie

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always figure people are either asking this to make polite conversation and don't really care about the answer or that it's a veiled, rude "no but where are you REALLY from" question that POC get asked.

I am a military kid, born overseas, lived all over. Went to middle/high school in NOVA and then UVA, and lived/worked in VA, MD and DC for a few years after graduation. Moved away about a decade ago (military) so I say "northern Virginia" or "DC area" most of the time.

I think it would be strange and easily caught out to just fabricate a hometown. But picking one place that you've lived the longest to avoid having a long retelling of your life to a stranger seems totally fine to me.

Has nothing to do with being of color. Actually it's usually white people being squirrelly and lying about this issue, for some reason. Especially the ones that fancy themselves urbanites since they lived in a "big city" for 3 years

As you demonstrate, it's about you looking for something to judge them about, and they can sense that when you ask. They're probably giving the shortest and most boring answer so you'll go away and stop stalking them at the party. It sounds like you're really bad with people.

No, it's about people lying to seem interesting. Ala Hilaria, excuse me- Hilary- Baldwin, a white person btw who lied to portray herself as and align herself with POC. These types are super shady

DIdn't she say she was Spanish? They're European, not POC, just like Swedes and Austrians, and French.

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Anonymous wrote:Because my home town in a crime filled cess pool and people tend to avoid me if I tell them where I am from when they first meet me. Eventually, once they have gotten to know me, and know I won't cut them, I will talk about it.

Newark?

Compton?

Those are literally the only two cities with nationally recognized negative connotations.

I'm the pp. My hometown has locally recognized negative connotations, particularly in Virginia. It doesn't have to be "national."
When I moved further south or west, it wasn't a problem.

When I move to within one or two states near Virginia, it is an issue. Have literally had coworkers refuse to talk to me, because they hated my hometown so much when stationed there. Hint Hint. After I opened up how much I hated it too, we usually became friendly. That's when I learned that it's best not to talk about specifically where I am from until I get to know others better.

I suspect you are projecting.

Haha, no.
Remember when I went to college and was asked at a party where I was from, the two guys my friend and I were flirting with literally laughed in my face, said "I'm sorry," and walked away. That's the first time I realized it was a liability.

Not sure there is as much hate now as there was back in the day. Even when I moved a few states away and was honest with my answer, usually people would honestly say how much they hated living there or being stationed there. Usually I'm not specific, and just say Hampton Roads or Virginia. Those usually have positive responses.

Tell us where it is. Crowd source the 2021 reaction here.

I will guess Norfolk, VA

That or Newport News. It's like saying Lorton. People believe there is still a prison there.

Pretty close
It's Portsmouth.

People generally dont have a high opinion of anyone from Virginia but that's for good reason. Many Virginians are just like that weird couple 90 Day Fiance who live on their farm from 90 Day Fiance. The one whose son looks like Little Debbie

What are you prattling on about? Maybe you should try watching less trash TV or generally just get a life?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who does this. She moved to an east coast city probably ten years ago, and has done absolutely everything to hide her west coast small town background. She dresses like an old east coast WASP and everything. And she will give cagey answers if anyone asks about her background. It's very bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who does this. She moved to an east coast city probably ten years ago, and has done absolutely everything to hide her west coast small town background. She dresses like an old east coast WASP and everything. And she will give cagey answers if anyone asks about her background. It's very bizarre.

you resurrected a 6 month old thread to say this? speaking of bizarre....

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who does this. She moved to an east coast city probably ten years ago, and has done absolutely everything to hide her west coast small town background. She dresses like an old east coast WASP and everything. And she will give cagey answers if anyone asks about her background. It's very bizarre.

you resurrected a 6 month old thread to say this? speaking of bizarre....

Yes, I was thinking of her and found this thread. People do this all the time on here. Get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who does this. She moved to an east coast city probably ten years ago, and has done absolutely everything to hide her west coast small town background. She dresses like an old east coast WASP and everything. And she will give cagey answers if anyone asks about her background. It's very bizarre.

you resurrected a 6 month old thread to say this? speaking of bizarre....

Yes, I was thinking of her and found this thread. People do this all the time on here. Get over it.

You sound like a wonderful friend.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who does this. She moved to an east coast city probably ten years ago, and has done absolutely everything to hide her west coast small town background. She dresses like an old east coast WASP and everything. And she will give cagey answers if anyone asks about her background. It's very bizarre.

you resurrected a 6 month old thread to say this? speaking of bizarre....

Yes, I was thinking of her and found this thread. People do this all the time on here. Get over it.

You sound like a wonderful friend.

Are you her? Did I hit a nerve with my vague post?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always figure people are either asking this to make polite conversation and don't really care about the answer or that it's a veiled, rude "no but where are you REALLY from" question that POC get asked.

I am a military kid, born overseas, lived all over. Went to middle/high school in NOVA and then UVA, and lived/worked in VA, MD and DC for a few years after graduation. Moved away about a decade ago (military) so I say "northern Virginia" or "DC area" most of the time.

I think it would be strange and easily caught out to just fabricate a hometown. But picking one place that you've lived the longest to avoid having a long retelling of your life to a stranger seems totally fine to me.

Has nothing to do with being of color. Actually it's usually white people being squirrelly and lying about this issue, for some reason. Especially the ones that fancy themselves urbanites since they lived in a "big city" for 3 years

As you demonstrate, it's about you looking for something to judge them about, and they can sense that when you ask. They're probably giving the shortest and most boring answer so you'll go away and stop stalking them at the party. It sounds like you're really bad with people.

No, it's about people lying to seem interesting. Ala Hilaria, excuse me- Hilary- Baldwin, a white person btw who lied to portray herself as and align herself with POC. These types are super shady

Didn't she tell people she was Spanish? What color do you think Spaniards are?