What happens to my kids if DH and I are hospitalized at the same time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was my nightmare when I first heard about covid and I had planned to beg my place of worship for help. You want to avoid foster care as far as possible.

Yes, I lost so much sleep over this in March/April before I could finally put it out of my mind. One thing I kept getting stuck on is if the kids test positive they can’t go to family, but can they even go to foster care? I couldn’t work out a solution so we’ve been extremely cautious.

[Anonymous]

Do either you or your spouse work? I have coworkers who would help out. I know I would help out my coworkers in this situation.

Also, agree with joining a religious community if you are open to it.

[Anonymous]

Those of you saying you would help...really? With the threat of infecting your family with covid?? Be honest.

I'm so scared of this happening to us. Grandparents are local but high risk. DH and I are both 41 with a preschooler and an infant, but we have other risk factors (I'm healthy but asthmatic; DH is overweight). Our local friends are all being so cautious, I just don't see that as an option for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't that something you figure out the first day they are born?

You've moved far away from family and friends that you had figured out on the first day the kids were born would take care of your kids if something happened to you. Its an emergency situation. Let's say a car accident where both parents are now in a coma. What happens to your kids? How does the hospital figure out who to call when the kids are so young? Is it written down somewhere in your wallet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those of you saying you would help...really? With the threat of infecting your family with covid?? Be honest.

I'm so scared of this happening to us. Grandparents are local but high risk. DH and I are both 41 with a preschooler and an infant, but we have other risk factors (I'm healthy but asthmatic; DH is overweight). Our local friends are all being so cautious, I just don't see that as an option for us.

Are you kidding. Of course we would. I'm less worried about covid than kids going into random foster care. It's so much less traumatic for the kids to stay within their community.

Really, people have lost all sense of proportion.

[Anonymous]

OP, what does your will say will happen if you both die?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those of you saying you would help...really? With the threat of infecting your family with covid?? Be honest.

I'm so scared of this happening to us. Grandparents are local but high risk. DH and I are both 41 with a preschooler and an infant, but we have other risk factors (I'm healthy but asthmatic; DH is overweight). Our local friends are all being so cautious, I just don't see that as an option for us.

Yes, really. I would probably mask up and go stay with the children at their own home, work out getting the children tested, and then come up with a plan with DH based on their results. I'm 29yo with no pre-existing conditions or other high risk factors. I've thought about this a lot as I do have some extremely close friends without family around and I'm confident I would do this for them if needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that it’s an infectious disease.

I would not be willing to risk my life to care for a friend’s kids.

Nobody wants you taking care of their kids anyway.