What You Wished You Knew Before IVF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That no one there will ever admit you should stop. You have to have your own firm limits because they won’t ever admit that you need to move on to adoption or childlessness.

+10000

Yea. This. I only stopped because insurance ran out otherwise I would have kept going.

Also - another thing is I would try to make myself Comprehend how LITTLE the chance of success is. They told me in my situation it was about 8-12 % likely to work but I did not hear it. It seemed miles higher than zero. But really that is almost no chance at all. And it is a HUGE amount of money and time and effort for such little promise Of success.

Thank God for insurance because if we had to self pay I would surely have run us into bankruptcy and divorce. Not joking. When you are in that mode it is your only priority.

Oh and ps that donor egg is so easy so more likely and you rarely even think about it once the kid is born. No regrets that Ivf with my own eggs failed and I did de at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That donor eggs would be a good experience. I thought I'd be devastated by losing a genetic connection to the baby, but I wasn't. Emotionally and intellectually I ended up loving him to pieces and he is every bit mine. Huge blessing at the end of a 6 year long, angry, exhausting road. I wish I'd done it sooner.

Which clinic did you use for DE? I'm in the process of evaluating clinics and feel like I keep seeing horror stories about all of the local fertility clinics.

I went abroad to Europe. I felt the costs here were too exorbitant locally and sharing 1:3 after so many fails with own eggs just didn't seem like a good enough option especially for the price.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That donor eggs would be a good experience. I thought I'd be devastated by losing a genetic connection to the baby, but I wasn't. Emotionally and intellectually I ended up loving him to pieces and he is every bit mine. Huge blessing at the end of a 6 year long, angry, exhausting road. I wish I'd done it sooner.

Which clinic did you use for DE? I'm in the process of evaluating clinics and feel like I keep seeing horror stories about all of the local fertility clinics.

I went abroad to Europe. I felt the costs here were too exorbitant locally and sharing 1:3 after so many fails with own eggs just didn't seem like a good enough option especially for the price.

Which clinic and how many trips did it take you? I’m considering a DE cycle with half DS and half DH’s sperm, so don’t want to mess with shared cycles either.