Did my mom overstep with DS?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is my MIL exactly. We have had the conversation with her over and over and over again about how she needs to respect our rules. Nope, never changes anything. Or it does for like a month before she reverts.

Definitely talk with your mom about how she needs to support you and your parenting decisions and how this was undermining you. I'm not certain it will change things, but nothing is going to change if you don't try.

Repeat to yourself: Grandparents are different from Parents. Grandparents are different from Parents. Grandparents are different from Parents....

And that's totally fine, but grandparents ARE parents, and they need to be respectful of their own children's wishes. It's one thing to spoil your grandkids with gifts and sweets. It's another to explicitly break a rule that your own child said is important to her. This is just plain disrespectful of the parents.

IMO OP is mad at the wrong person. The kid is the one who should get in trouble. He knew what his punishment was and he violated it. So I would double down on the kid and not say a word to Grandma.

This x1000. That child would be in a lot of trouble with me. Grandma would get a kiss and a thank you for helping me out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What if this wasn’t grandma? What if your son lost screens that day and then was invited to a friends house to play, would you tell that mom “he can come over, but no screens allowed because of his consequence”? No, of course not. You shouldn’t have your mom enforce your consequences either. Since this isn’t a safety thing, let it go.

If this wasn’t grandma, then my kid wouldn’t get to go to a friend’s house when he’s grounded. The answer is no.

Your comparison makes no sense.

I had this happen. Larlo's mom brought him over for a planned play date and then told me he wasn't allowed to use electronics. And my kid had been looking forward to playing their favorite video game together for weeks. It just sucked.

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You were happy to accept free babysitting so shut up.