How to avoid discussions when you have unpopular opinions?

[Anonymous]

My kid didn’t watch any TV until his sister was born. He was almost 3.5. I see nothing wrong with no TV at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem isn't in your responses. Their angry responses are because the fact that you're continuing to social distance is threatening to their fingers-in-the-ears-and-chant-LA-LA-LA world that they're constructing for themselves where "it's totally fine" to do whatever the hell they want, and pffft, who needs masks?, because we're not in an ongoing global pandemic of an infectious disease. Some corporate-bought dumbass in an elected position says it's OK, so it must be OK. No critical thinking required. It's like a kid saying "but Mom SAID I could!"

It's the same as the people on these boards who every time someone posts that they're distancing, respond with idiotic comments like "take your Xanax" or "your poor kids." Insecurity. You're making the right decision to protect your family. If they're insecure and angry, just let it roll off and see it for what it is.

Ignoring the crazies is how we got into this situation in America.

How did we get so many people afraid to stand for their values?

Say what you believe. If people are doing harmful things to themselves or others or the country, say so.

Imagine if the Founders had said “Well, I have opinions about the British but I don’t want to share them because it’s easier to not say anything.” No. Do what’s right. Speak the truth that you know.

[Anonymous]

Its easy to have no TV when you have ONE child and a FT nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its easy to have no TV when you have ONE child and a FT nanny.

Yeah, OP said this twice.

[Anonymous]

Op, do you think it is healthy to have a nanny who is on month 4 of seeing NO ONE except her employer? If you saw no one except your boss for months on end would that be a good situation for you? I’m guessing your nanny does more than you know (as she should for her own mental health).

[Anonymous]

You sound spoiled as and rigid OP.

We have one of these in our group, and yes, we all talk about how nuts she is.

[Anonymous]

"our group"? why pretend to be friends?

[Anonymous]

I find it hard to believe your nanny lives alone and sees only you.... or maybe you have found your match...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, do you think it is healthy to have a nanny who is on month 4 of seeing NO ONE except her employer? If you saw no one except your boss for months on end would that be a good situation for you? I’m guessing your nanny does more than you know (as she should for her own mental health).

I am a nanny who lives alone and sees no one but my charge and my employers. I zoom and FaceTime with friends and family and FaceTime with my former charges. It’s not great but , like everyone else, I’m getting by.

I completely believe OP’s nanny is continuing since I am. And I have several single friends who are doing the same.

[Anonymous]

Well this thread has typically devolved into insanity. Must be a slow night for some.

[Anonymous]

We have two families we hang out with on a regular basis when it’s not a pandemic. We have begun to hang out with one again (outside, no food sharing etc). The other one has a family member with an underlying health condition. So they told us, they will continue to be quarantined.
DD still FaceTimes with their daughter daily. They have to do what is right for their family and we understand completely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have decided to continue social isolation as much as possible. It’s not hard for us since we have a great nanny (who lives alone and only sees us) and I have always worked from home. Without DH’s commute and the gyms closed, he’s also home more. We’re lucky, I know. It seems over the past week, I get a daily call from a friend asking if DS is going to return to a class or for a play date. The first couple times I told the truth and just said we were continuing with strict social distancing and have been met with nearly angry responses. I must be wording it wrong. Please tell me how to respond without eliciting defensive or angry mocking.

Same in normal times when the subject of TV comes up. We don’t let DS watch anything including when his classes went remote (which is why it came up) and not for play dates when we were having them.

Thanks.

You are extreme and I would avoid you the same way I avoid Trumprrd.o

[Anonymous]

^^Trumpers

[Anonymous]

OP uou are a loon but I sympathize with you

[Anonymous]

I just don't say anything unless questioned directly. And then say, no we're not ready for playdates yet, or no, he doesn't watch much TV at home. Don't explain. They won't like it, and will think you are explaining in order to make them feel.bad or something.