9-yo DD Birthday Present - Wants Hair Colored Purple

[Anonymous]

I have Asian hair that doesn't hold color well. If my DD10 wanted color, I would bleach just her ends and then use a purple dye. I think I could keep that area away from her scalp as she has past-shoulder length hair. Bleaching near the scalp sounds like a nightmare. If the result looks bad, I could just trim it off.
Tell Mom if you use anything permanent. You sound like you wouldn't know how to fix it, if something went wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. Long story short mom might not approve but I’m willing to risk sitting in the doghouse for this wish. She really wants it. (And I dyed my hair in MS).

But bleaching sounds too much trouble nd risk than I could handle so will try overtone and wax as suggested.

The truth comes out. This is a really bad idea. You do not alter your daughter’s hair in any way without her Mom’s approval. WTF are you thinking???

Nah, go for it, Pops. It'll wash out and mom can just be mad.

-another mom

Completely disagree. You don’t make decisions like this without your spouse.

Do you think mom consults him about all the other hair decisions in the house? What if he was taking his son to get a buzz cut? If my spouse did something like this, I might be upset but not divorce-worthy. I'd probably be glad he's taking such an interest in what his CHILD wants. OP knows his wife better than we do.

[Anonymous]

Since you are leaning towards wash-out color now (good idea), then go ahead. No big deal.

But the bleaching was a bad, bad idea both for the age and for the "surprise". Glad you've changed your mind.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. Long story short mom might not approve but I’m willing to risk sitting in the doghouse for this wish. She really wants it. (And I dyed my hair in MS).

But bleaching sounds too much trouble nd risk than I could handle so will try overtone and wax as suggested.

The truth comes out. This is a really bad idea. You do not alter your daughter’s hair in any way without her Mom’s approval. WTF are you thinking???

Nah, go for it, Pops. It'll wash out and mom can just be mad.

-another mom

Completely disagree. You don’t make decisions like this without your spouse.

Do you think mom consults him about all the other hair decisions in the house? What if he was taking his son to get a buzz cut? If my spouse did something like this, I might be upset but not divorce-worthy. I'd probably be glad he's taking such an interest in what his CHILD wants. OP knows his wife better than we do.

When it comes to changing appearance of a child such as hair dyeing, ears pierced, yes I think a quick discussion Is warranted. A buzz cut for a boy isn’t a big deal but I would expect a heads up if my son hadn’t had that style yet. Some
Moms don’t like that look. Just like some Moms wouldn’t appreciate their kids’ hair being dyed in secret. The fact is hair dye damages hair. OP wants to keep this a secret bc he knows Mom doesn’t approve. Shady. So glad I’m not married to an idiot like him.

[Anonymous]

OP--I'm eagerly waiting to hear whether you get results. My daughter's hair is dark, dark, and I don't want to bleach it, but am happy to do some sort of temporary (or, in lock down, even semi-permanent) dye for her. Am really interested in the wax, but am worried it will make a total mess. Keep us posted!

[Anonymous]

No way. I wouldn’t even let her at 18

[Anonymous]

That sounds fun. You can get temporary color.

[Anonymous]

There’s no better time to try this! Color doesn’t take well on very dark hair though, and I wouldn’t bleach a kid’s hair. But you can try with temporary color, hair chalks, etc. Or Overtone if you’re willing to pay the $$ for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. Long story short mom might not approve but I’m willing to risk sitting in the doghouse for this wish. She really wants it. (And I dyed my hair in MS).

But bleaching sounds too much trouble nd risk than I could handle so will try overtone and wax as suggested.

The truth comes out. This is a really bad idea. You do not alter your daughter’s hair in any way without her Mom’s approval. WTF are you thinking???

Nah, go for it, Pops. It'll wash out and mom can just be mad.

-another mom

Completely disagree. You don’t make decisions like this without your spouse.

Do you think mom consults him about all the other hair decisions in the house? What if he was taking his son to get a buzz cut? If my spouse did something like this, I might be upset but not divorce-worthy. I'd probably be glad he's taking such an interest in what his CHILD wants. OP knows his wife better than we do.

When it comes to changing appearance of a child such as hair dyeing, ears pierced, yes I think a quick discussion Is warranted. A buzz cut for a boy isn’t a big deal but I would expect a heads up if my son hadn’t had that style yet. Some
Moms don’t like that look. Just like some Moms wouldn’t appreciate their kids’ hair being dyed in secret. The fact is hair dye damages hair. OP wants to keep this a secret bc he knows Mom doesn’t approve. Shady. So glad I’m not married to an idiot like him.

+1 This is common sense!

[Anonymous]

My daughter has dark blonde hair and we did a drugstore kit with no bleach. It worked really well and there is still some color, 6 weeks later. The kit we used is supposed to last 30 weeks. I figure this is the time to do stuff like this! I did a purple streak in my hair too, and wish I had done the whole thing.

[Anonymous]

keracolor, clenditioner.

its conditioner that slowly adds color the more you use. Makes your hair soft and washes out after a few times. My diaghter wanted pink hair. Got it on amazon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:keracolor, clenditioner.

its conditioner that slowly adds color the more you use. Makes your hair soft and washes out after a few times. My diaghter wanted pink hair. Got it on amazon

That looks great, was thinking about for my kid. Just looked up on Amazon--too bad it says it's recommended only for light blond hair.

[Anonymous]

Sure. Look at Overtone. Would be fun, especially during stay at home.

[Anonymous]

I personally wouldn’t recommend Overtone. I bought the purple dye for my daughter’s light brown hair. You could see the purple tint and it looked pretty, but it literally all washed out the first time she had a bath. I also tried Overtone and had the same results and we have very different hair. Apparently some hair just will not hold that dye. I can’t imagine it would show up on dark hair at all unless you just want to see a purpleish tint when you’re in the sunlight. Otherwise I wouldn’t bother wasting your money.

[Anonymous]

It’s a phase. My DD went through it around 10. We did hair dye that washes out. We have a good friend who is a hairdresser and said that she would not recommend bleaching and then dying because it really damage his hair badly. My daughter also did little strands that were braided into her hair that were glittery and she had several different colors. I have no problem with any of this as it’s a form of self-expression. Now when they’re younger is the time to allow them to do it. They grow out of it (most kids do).