Most annoying modern parenting lingo

[Anonymous]

You beat me to it. I was going to say that I hate the euphemistic "active boy" and also "spirited child."

I do however like "disruptive boy," since that's always more accurate in the context that "active boy" is being used by the "active boy"'s mom. There are legions of soccer playing, bike riding, scooter riding "active boys" who like physical activity and yet manage not to torpedo Sharing Time every single day in school.

[Anonymous]

I've never said "calm your body" but I can see that being easier for a 2-3yo to understand than the more vague "calm down." Actually, the same might be said for "use your words" or school vs. daycare.

But regardless, I can't say as I've ever had the time or energy to get so worked up over any of these words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You beat me to it. I was going to say that I hate the euphemistic "active boy" and also "spirited child."

I do however like "disruptive boy," since that's always more accurate in the context that "active boy" is being used by the "active boy"'s mom. There are legions of soccer playing, bike riding, scooter riding "active boys" who like physical activity and yet manage not to torpedo Sharing Time every single day in school.

Yes this has to be among the absolute worst. "Spirited" seems to be the new catch phrase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Positive discipline. IMO discipline isn't supposed to be a positive experience.

Positive discipline is teaching children to do the right thing. Negative discipline is punishment.

Right! Children who are misbehaving sometimes need to be punished. The result of misbehavior should not be something positive.

Is there a phrase for this new approach to parenting -- the one that has to put a positive spin on most everything? Whatever that term is would be on my list of most annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Attachment parenting." As if there were any other kind.

There are other kinds... CIO, for example, is not attachment parenting...

Everything about Attachment Parenting is annoying. CIO is cruel but i dont get annoyed when people talk about whether or not they believe in CIO methods.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Positive discipline. IMO discipline isn't supposed to be a positive experience.

Positive discipline is teaching children to do the right thing. Negative discipline is punishment.

Right! Children who are misbehaving sometimes need to be punished. The result of misbehavior should not be something positive.

Is there a phrase for this new approach to parenting -- the one that has to put a positive spin on most everything? Whatever that term is would be on my list of most annoying.

Positive discipline doesn't mean the child thrown a tantrum and you hand him a lollipop. Natural consequences are often considered "positive discipline." The term may be new (and not one I'd choose to use), but the approach isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Attachment parenting." As if there were any other kind.

There are other kinds... CIO, for example, is not attachment parenting...

Everything about Attachment Parenting is annoying. CIO is cruel but i dont get annoyed when people talk about whether or not they believe in CIO methods. [/quote]


Oh no, here we go....

[Anonymous]

Can anyone recommend a perfect private school for my very verbal, adorable and very active DS? I'd also call him "quirky," except that sounds vaguely liberal, which we definitely are not.

[Anonymous]

Oh thanks for the laughs..

I have a teaching degree elementary special ed. Don't ask why I don't use it. I have worked in daycare centers and never refered to myself as a teacher until recently.

I am a nanny now and I hate calling kids charges. I will say the babies, the kids, occasionally the brats I take care of.

[Anonymous]

"Supplementing" when it comes to giving a breastfed baby formula... You're feeding your baby - whether it's breastmilk or formula. You're not giving your child some second-rate supplement.

On the same topic, "boobie," and "boob" all the time about nursing. "Do you want more boobie, little baby?" "Oh my baby loves The Boob." Oy yoy yoy, it's milk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"We are transitioning to bottle feeding. We are transitioning to solid food. We are transitioning to letting DC play in the living room. We are transitioning to day care. We are transitioning to the big table for eating. We are transitioning to a regular cup." Etc. etc. etc.

Ha! I am transitioning to being a world-traveling, wine-drinking, book-reading adult again but it looks like the process will take decades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Positive discipline. IMO discipline isn't supposed to be a positive experience.

Positive discipline is teaching children to do the right thing. Negative discipline is punishment.

Right! Children who are misbehaving sometimes need to be punished. The result of misbehavior should not be something positive.

Is there a phrase for this new approach to parenting -- the one that has to put a positive spin on most everything? Whatever that term is would be on my list of most annoying.

Positive discipline doesn't mean the child thrown a tantrum and you hand him a lollipop. Natural consequences are often considered "positive discipline." The term may be new (and not one I'd choose to use), but the approach isn't.

"Natural consequences" sounds like we are willing to let circumstances handle the situation but we are unwilling to establish those consequences ourselves. If my child is bad to other kids, the natural consequence is that he ends up friendless. I think it's better that he face my consequences before that happens. Of course I am going to teach him the right thing, but I am going to punish him if he hurts other children.

[Anonymous]

Regression, as in "Is there a 23 month sleep regression?".

Children are not robots executing a master plan that kicks off when they boot up for the first time. I don't know who came up with this idea that there are these myriad stages that each child goes through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You beat me to it. I was going to say that I hate the euphemistic "active boy" and also "spirited child."

I do however like "disruptive boy," since that's always more accurate in the context that "active boy" is being used by the "active boy"'s mom. There are legions of soccer playing, bike riding, scooter riding "active boys" who like physical activity and yet manage not to torpedo Sharing Time every single day in school.

Every time I see "spirited" I think "possessed".

[Anonymous]

"I completely and whole heartedly agree about the teacher vs. daycare provider thing!!

Some daycare provider's may very well be former teachers.. but they aren't all. If your kid is under school aged they do NOT go to school. If your provider has less training than a teacher then they are NOT in fact a teacher. "

Give me a break, this is stupid, especially since many of the good preschools have after-care and some kids that stay all day. I guess since our child gets picked up by the nanny at noon we can call it preschool but the other kids who stay in the afternoon must call it daycare. The women who get annoyed by the daycare vs school thing are usually pretty obnoxious creatures.